Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Mesh Body Addicts Fair, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

Something There

It had been such a long day at work. All she could think about was going home, letting her hair down and getting in the pool. She loved nothing more than lounging around the pool in evenings and tonight would be no exception. She even had a new bikini, not that anyone was going to see it…well, unless her hot new neighbor happened to join her. She still wasn’t sure if her neighbor was even into girls, but the company would be nice either way. A few drinks might bring out the truth and she had plenty to choose from, there was something there…whether her neighbor felt it or not, she sure as hell did.

its been a long day

wearing:
hair: TRUTH Margarita (*new* @ Uber)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
eyeshadow: –SU!– Smokey Eyeshadow +CATWA APPLIER+
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[ kunst ] – Lucy choker (*new* @ Uber)
::SG:: RingQueen Nai MAITREYA (*new* @ MBA Fair)
Kaithleen’s Bikini (*new* @ MBA Fair)

pose by Foxcity edited with AnyPose
scene:
Trompe Loeil – Zohra Oasis
:CP: RollerDisco Slush
:CP: Natalie Patio Palm Plant
:CP: Natalie Table
{what next} Palisades Drinks Tray
:CP: S’mores Camp Lounger 1
Ariskea [ Porcelain] Tropical Plant 2

Posted in Cynful, Events, Fashion, Second Life, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative

Don’t Do It! Just Don’t!

I’ve written before about how much I love bikinis in Second Life and one of the reasons is because you wouldn’t catch me dead in one in Real Life! *laughs* I’ll hardly put on a swimsuit at all these days. The last time I went swimming in RL I was stoned and in a friend’s backyard. Why? Because I’m ashamed of my body. I hate it. I am overweight and I have a lot of scars. All it took was one summer at the pool for me to overhear some women laughing and going on about how my fat, pale ass shouldn’t be allowed at the pool. I stayed in the water just kinda hiding in a corner of the pool until they left. I suffered a horrible sunburn, but I didn’t want to hear their ugly remarks again when I got out and I wasn’t going to let them see me cry.
I realize I shouldn’t let people have such power over me, but let it happen to you and let’s see how well you handle it. Good for you if you can handle it better than I did. I envy those that are not bothered by such things. So, in SL I choose to look how I wish I did in RL. Yes, I’d love to be fit…a little thick, I don’t want to be model thin and I’ve got more than enough fat to deal with in RL. Sadly, the fact that we can look however we want in SL, yet still people want to shame each other for how they CHOOSE to look. No one in SL just happens to look that way. No one’s avi is suffering from an eating disorder. The way our avatars look is purely our choice.
I admit that I’ve seen some avatars and just shook my head. I don’t get it. I don’t understand why people choose to look a certain way and yes, perhaps a few comments in IMs with friends, but certainly never anything out loud and to their face. I think that is incomprehensible. Its bullying at its finest. Body shaming in either world is terrible. Its one thing to laugh among your friends at the girl whose butt looks like it at Tokyo or the guy whose eyes are so far apart he looks like an alien, but its entirely different to go up to them and accuse them of mental illness, being sick, or any other degrading remark that makes you feel that your choices are better than theirs. Its actually wrong for us to even make little remarks in IMs, but we are human and its going to happen. You can do it tactfully with your friends quietly or you can keep your mouth shut entirely, but to call someone out for the choices they make about their avatar’s appearance is flat out wrong. Its no different from any other type of hate speech. Its bullying. Period. I cannot stress that enough.
We come here to live a life we can’t live in the real world, at least most of us do. Luckily there are incredible designers to assist us in looking our best, as well. Unlike the real world, where often times the plus size department looks more like someone threw out Grandma’s curtain collection. So, when you find yourself thinking, “WTF?” as you see an avatar that bewilders you, please for the love of humanity, do not approach that person with hatred. If you’ve got nothing nice to say to them, say nothing. Do NOT bully or body shame one another in a virtual world. Don’t Do It! Just Don’t! Think how you’d feel if someone said such things to you or someone you love. Please be kind to one another. There is far too much hate in this world already.

cynful bikini

wearing: 
hair
:  Exile: Fake Magic
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Molly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – America (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Cynful Heat Bikini (June Luxe Box)

pose: Le Poppycock *Stay Cool* First Dip (*new* @ TLC)
scene:
Trompe Loeil – Geonna Patio + Pool PG
Vagabond – Sandy’s Towel Tote
{what next} Palisades Drinks Tray

Posted in Bloom, Fashion, Home Decor, N21, Phedora, Prism Events, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Soooo fluffy!!

I warned you that my dark side was pink and fluffy. Guess what else? I’m starting to like unicorns, too! I know…I know…stop it…I’m hoping this confession will help me rid myself of these evil thoughts. But look at my slippers!!! They’re so fluffy!!!! And my hair!!! I’m not sure I ever want to take it off. I know its kinda crazy looking, but I swear it grows on you and I’m just not sure I can take it off! You can all relax now…I’ll be back in my regular dark clothes soon enough. *laughs & shakes her awesome unicorn slippers at you*

fluffy

wearing:
hair:  Beusy: Vida Hairstyle (*new* @ N21)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

{le fil casse} Felicity Dress (*new* @ Bloom)
Phedora ~ Agnes Unicorn Slippers  RARE (*new* @ N21)

pose by Bauhaus Movement

DRD – BB – Bed and Breakfast – Lizette Bed – Powder
Traveler-Night stand by Bazar
{what next} ‘Emma’ Tulips Bouquet (pale pink)

Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Fancy Decor, Fashion, Home Decor, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

Decor Mode

Its been a while since I put a scene together for my blog and I forgot how much I missed it. I’ve actually been in decor mode as of late, as I changed my house in SL and have been busy decorating every room. Perhaps I’ll find a way to blog those rooms, if I ever finish. In the meantime, you’ll have to settle for little scenes like this featuring goodies from Fancy Decor and What Next! If you enjoy decorating as much as I do, these two stores are a great place to start!

fancy decor

wearing:
hair:   Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa (*new* @ Project 7)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
eyes: CATWA Mesh Eyes w/-SU!– [CATWA & OMEGA HUD] Xenira Eyes ALL COLORS
lipstick: [PF] CATWA LIPSTICK Applier – Glossy Pout
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

SPIRIT – Mil top (*new* @ Uber)
SPIRIT – Mil pants (*new* @ Uber)
{kokoia} :: Halle High :: Shoes :

pose: !bang poses
scene:
Fancy Decor: Nesting Tables (silver)
Fancy Decor: Carriage Clock (silver)
Fancy Decor: Potted Aloe
09 Fancy Decor: Worlidge Box (white)
Fancy Decor: Dance of Death (Traveler)
Fancy Decor: Louis Chair (white)
{what next} House Plant – Rubber Tree (FLF March 31, 2017)
Fancy Decor: Entry Lantern (silver)
Fancy Decor: Mask Etching B (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Salmacis Engraving (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Mask Etching A (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Antiquarian Books (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Classic Bench (black) (*new* @ FaMESHed)
{what next} House Plant – Eucalyptus (stand) (FLF March 31, 2017)
Fancy Decor: Rug III (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Posted in Events, Fashion, fri.day, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Nightmare

“There are many who don’t wish to sleep for fear of nightmares. Sadly, there are many who don’t wish to wake for the same fear.”
Richelle E. Goodrich, Dandelions: The Disappearance of Annabelle Fancher

I woke up shortly after 2am from one of the absolute worst nightmares. Essentially is was a horror movie and I was the star victim! Lucky me! Why is it that when I’m having some incredible dream about Jason Momoa and how he’s about to ravage me over the side of a well, but I wake up from the dog barking…I can never get back into that dream once I fall back asleep? Oh but have a nightmare about being driven out of a house by a madman that’s lighting the place on fire? Oh sure, get up…go pee…tell the dog to stop scratching…crawl back between the warm sheets…close my eyes…and boom…I’m right back where I left off as if I’d merely paused the damn movie! Yeah, screw that…I’m up…I’m up…not going back into that dream. Worst part is, I have no idea why I dreamed such madness. I don’t even remember the last time I saw a scary movie! Nothing in that dream was remotely familiar. Must’ve been a night for bad dreams, because shortly after I woke up…I could hear my mother screaming in her sleep, too. *sighs* This should definitely be an interesting day. I, for one, plan on taking a nice nap and it better be peaceful, damnit!

fri.day

fri. – Sadie Platforms (*new* @ Shoetopia)

06. [ kunst ] – Vintage speaker (a)
01. [ kunst ] – Vintage audio rack RARE
04. [ kunst ] – Vintage tape deck
03. [ kunst ] – Vintage tuner
06. [ kunst ] – Vintage speaker (b)

{what next} Pile of Vinyl (mesh)
07. [ kunst ] – Vinyl records pile
08. [ kunst ] – Vintage People album
09. [ kunst ] – Audio tapes
BAZAR Stockholm-Music tapes
BAZAR Stockholm-Headphones (decor)
Vinyl (packaging)

 

Posted in Events, Fashion, Home Decor, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Lost Traditions

Its been about eight years since my mom’s best friend died. Her name was Brenda and she was Aunt Brenda to me, my entire life. She and my mom had been friends since they were kids. They were even pregnant at the same time and “my cousin” was born only a few months before me. Funny thing about Brenda was very friendly and outgoing. Her daughter was very quiet, shy, and reserved. My mother is more like my cousin and I am much more like Aunt Brenda. If we didn’t look so much like our mothers, people would have sworn we were switched at birth. I miss my Aunt Brenda so very much and even more so at this time of year. You see, every year on the Saturday after Thanksgiving, my aunt and her sister would throw this huge party. They all lived out in the country in Tennessee and there was a huge barn, a bonfire, food, live music, and tons of people. Most of them were Brenda’s blood family, but they considered us family, too. After-all, they’d known my mom since she was “knee high to a grasshopper.”

lost-traditions1

It was always such a great time. Sadly, the tradition seems to have died along with my aunt. There were a lot of things that happened in the year before my aunt died and her death left a bit of division in that family. And, well, it kind of left us on the sidelines. I’m not sad that she’s gone, because her last days will pain filled and I know that she was ready to go. Her death was unexpected, but for her and her failing health…I know she welcomed it. I miss her like crazy, because she seemed to understand me so much better than any of my blood relatives. I’ll always remember the best of her. ♥

lost-traditions3

So, why have I told you all this seemingly sad story? Because once again, the incredibly talented designers involved with Tannenbaum have restored my Christmas spirit and flood me with beautiful memories. Although, unKindness built and named it a bridge, it reminded me so much of the garage/barn that we was central to those annual parties.  So, I’ve taken creative license here and brought my memories to life. (I think I’ll showcase it as a bridge in another post, though.) I was even able to share my vision with my mom…she cried. We both did as we remembered a great lady during some of our happiest shared moments. I hope that you can find joy in your holiday memories as the season settles over us. ♥

wearing:
Tableau Vivant \\ Baum (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
CATWA HEAD Gwen
[theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
~ChicModa~ Ada Argyle Dress
PHEDORA / Drusila Boots / 30 C

scene:
build: uK – Old Winter Bridge Natural (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
22769 ~ [bauwerk] Landhaus Kitchen Table Brown (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
22769 ~ [bauwerk] Babble Game (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / GLASS COCOA / CANDYCANE (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
{what next} Floor Jar Lantern (stars)
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / GLASS COCOA / PEPPERMINT (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
22769 ~ [bauwerk] Landhaus Chair Brown (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
MudHoney Fabric Heart Ornaments box (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
MudHoney Wood Reindeer Ornament box (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
MudHoney Wood Santa Stand (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
7mad;Ravens Rustic Nativity Boards (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
{what next} Tivona Tree Lantern 1 (antique)
7mad;Ravens Rustic Candle Logs (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
DIGS – Tromso Bench [MESH]
RO – Crappy Xmas Tree
7mad;Ravens Rustic Christmas Tree Board (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / COCOA / PEPPERMINT (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / COCOA / GINGERBREAD (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / MINT MOCHA CAKE / RARE (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / COCOA / PLAIN (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
[we’re CLOSED] kerosine lantern 1 metal
DISORDERLY. / XMAS TREATS / MINT MOCHA CHRISTMAS ROLL / RARE (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
MudHoney Wood Snowman Stand (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

tree & decor: (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Botanical – Douglas Fir Christmas Tree for Tannenbaum
ornaments are a variety from the following tree decor gachas
DRD
Kalopsia
[Fetch]

poses by oOo Studios