Posted in breathe, DOUX, Events, Legacy, Lelutka, Second Life

Appreciation or Appropriation?

So, this might be a sensitive subject and I genuinely come to the table from a place of complete love. I’m also rather ignorant about the subject and I guess one could blame that on white privilege. However, in no way, shape, or form is this meant to insult ANYONE. And because I don’t like to offend people like that, I tend avoid certain things. However, I’ve noticed that Asian culture seems to be fair game. Oddly enough, its not one that I’ve been especially drawn to…except for the food. Cuz, let’s be fair, most Asian cuisine is pretty damn delicious and yes, I would honestly try some of the “weird” stuff they serve in the street food vendors I’ve seen on TV.
I guess my question is…when does it go from appreciation to appropriation? And when did this become a thing? For instance, growing up I always wondered how sports teams got away with using some of the names they used, because even as a child, I felt it was rather racist. My parents had no good answer about that teams and always said that one day they would change. They were right and as far as I know, most of them have changed. (I don’t follow sports, so some may not have changed yet.) Also, as a child, my favorite costume for Halloween was being a “gypsy,” but recently I discovered that even that term is considered racist now. I had no idea. I just loved all the jewelry and the flowing skirts. I liked it a whole lot more than being a princess! Also, as a kid…cowboys and Indians was a normal thing to play as a kid. We didn’t see them as good guys and bad guys, we just saw cowboy hats & guns or feathers & arrows. I always wanted to an Indian, because I thought they were cooler. I never could get into Westerns or cowboys.
So, if we look back on my childhood, without knowing my heart and reasons….was I racist? Was I appropriating someone’s culture? Well, I know my heart has never been racist. I know my parents weren’t racist. My family actually did have friends of other races and yes, they did come to our house (before you ask). With that said, my father was in the U.S. Army, so I was exposed to different races and cultures from a very early age.
To me, skin color is the same as hair color…the darker your natural pigment, the harder it is to change it.
Feel free to comment anyway you like, but know this…ANY clear-cut racist or hateful remarks will be deleted. This is not about hate or racism, this is about me trying to better understand the world I live in.

breathe

hair:  DOUX – Jane Hairstyle
head: LeLUTKA Fleur Head 2.0
body: [LEGACY] Meshbody (f) (1.2)
skin: DeeTaleZ *SKINS* for LELUTKA HEADS (EVO.) – Flora

.TeaBunny. + [CX] Shamisen Hairpins
*:..Silvery K..:*Japanese pipe(Lotus Silver)T
toksik – Propitious Qipao Dress
[BREATHE]-Toyumi Heels @ Epiphany (close Aug 12)

pose: Bauhaus Movement – Let The Beat Drop 26

Red Core – Asian Walls – The Bearded Guy

 

Posted in Fashion, Kustom9, Legacy, Lelutka, poses, Second Life, shopping, skin, tattoo, Uber SL

Trying Something

Every once in a while I like to tap into my dark side. In now way does this begin to compare to some of the incredibly talented bloggers we have on the AsteroidBox team, but I still wanted to try a dark shot…so I did. I don’t have any deep or meaningful things to say today. I just wanted to try something different. Hopefully, people will like it. *bites her black nails*

demon

hair: Magika – Midnight
head: LeLUTKA Fleur Head 2.0
body: [LEGACY] Meshbody (f) (1.2)
skin: DeeTaleZ *SKINS* for LELUTKA HEADS (EVO.) – Flora
tattoo: THIS IS WRONG Mind Flyer Shine+tattoo

makeup: THIS IS WRONG Creep makeup
eyes: [Heaux] Grave Eyes
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Persia Ears @ Kustom9

toksik – Devil’s Manner Horns
*PKC* Danni Collar @ Kinky
Mug – Killer Nurse – #2 Test Subject RARE
AsteroidBox. Layla Bikini @ Equal10
**UTOPIA@Design** – “PRIYA” @ Uber

pose: Bauhaus Movement – Fade to Black

background: The Asylum Backdrop – The Bearded Guy

Posted in Bound Box, Catwa, Collabor88, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Home Decor, Pale Girl Productions, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Tonight @ FMD

If you’re like me, you couldn’t care less about the royal wedding and you’re more concerned about how you’re going to spend your Saturday night. Well, my favorite place to hang out in SL on a Saturday night is at FMD. I know this must come as a huge shock to you all, considering how conservatively I dress…*giggles* So, let me tell you just  a little bit about FMD. I’m not going to pretend to be an expert or any type of authority on the club, but what I do know is that there are loads of beautiful people there. While it is a pay to join group, the owner, Lance Pyara, is kind enough to allow open access on weekends. Every Saturday night is a themed party and you can dress up or down for the said events.
Tonight, the theme is Speakeasy Vintage Fashion and this party starts at 2pm slt and doesn’t stop until midnight. They’ve got as many time zones covered as they can. So, whip up your version of Speakeasy Fashion and head on over to check it out. I personally feel it’s well worth joining, but not everyone can afford to do that. So, regardless of you ability to join…the club is open tonight and ready for the party!! OOOH and did I mention there are prizes sponsored by Cynful, Prey, and United Colors tonight??? Yeah, so get ready to shake those tail feathers and come party with us tonight!
What’s that? Oh, no, I won’t be wearing this tonight, but FMD is a great place to wear those naughty clothes that show your private parts on any other day. Am I partial to this place? You’re damn right. I found my way there through a couple of friends, but I keep going back because I love it so much. So, don’t give me the bored speech, when this is just one of the many fantastic places waiting for you to explore.

Here’s your direct tp to FMD.

sitting pretty

Sady is wearing:
hair: Beusy: Mija Hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)

SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER
-SU!- Lovesick Lip Gloss

CODE-5 [ Pamerale ] FEMALE V0.04 (*new* @ ROMP)
toksik – Bloom Choker (Group Gift)
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings (*new* @ C88)

Narcisse– Bailey Mini Tutu & Pasties (*new* Bound Box May)
[MODA] MADISON PLATFORMS (*new* Bound Box May)

pose: FOXCITY. Bento Ground Sits VOL2

scene:
Ariskea[Cocoli] Banana Plant (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Granola. Violette’s Fatpack (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-Violette’s Hourglass Side Table. Old Copper.
-Violette’s Vases. Brass.
-Violette’s Cage Pendants. Brass.
-Violette’s Cocktail Chair. Grey

Posted in E.A.Studio, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Klubwerk.poses, Second Life, shopping

I’ll Do What I Please

I say this all the time, “I do what I want.” To be fair, I usually do just that. I’m an only child and despite the abuse, I was pretty spoiled. Over the years, I have grown up, but because I never had children I didn’t mature the way most people my age have matured. So, to sum it up I’m a brat! I know, that’s coming as quite a shock to many of you. *laughs*

I’m having a pretty crappy day, so that’s all I got for now. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and happy shopping♥

Bread
And I’ll do what I want
I’ll do what I please
I’ll do it again till I’ve got what I need

Cruel is wearing:
hair: Stealthic – Haunting
hairbase: Stealthic – Male Hairbase
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
beard: Volkstone Toni Facial Hair
ears: .:E.A.Studio:. Box Ears Falling Star
body: [SIGNATURE] Geralt – Mesh Body  *NEW*
skin: STRAY DOG – SHANE – CATWA
tattoo: [ATI] Nightmare…

Sady is wearing:
hair:  RAMA.SALON – Chloe Hair ‘EXCLUSIVE’ (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska (Catwa Applier) honey
EF: Springleaf Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
**RE** Simina Bracelets (*new* @ FaMESHed)
toksik – Slumber Crop Top (*new* @ FaMESHed)
toksik – Slumber Shorts (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: KlubWerK.poses -i know you —
VIXX- Mesh backdrop – She

 

Posted in Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Foxcity, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping, [ATI] Addicted to Ink, {le fil casse}

I Won’t Keep Watching

Once in a while we fight doing the right thing, because we’re not sure what that is. Cutting people from our lives is a lot like that. Its hard, because you’re ditching your loyalty. That’s pretty serious, but it would seem that sometimes our loyalty needs to be to ourselves first and foremost. If we don’t treat ourselves the way we want to be treated, how will anyone else even begin to figure out what we want.
I believe I must be at an advantage here, because as a child we moved every 2-3 yrs. So, I was constantly saying goodbye to people and letting go. By the time I grew up, letting go and walking away was far easier for me than others. The challenge for me was to stop walking away. Eventually, I started hanging on to people for dear life. I was scared to death that if I kept walking away, I’d never learn to just be in the here and now. I wasn’t running, I was simply walking away from anyone and anything that didn’t enhance my life. Now, I’m starting to understand what its like for other people and the struggle to let people go. However, one thing I’ll never have to fight or struggle with for long is letting go of some I feel is abusive. That will never be okay and something I outgrew a really long time ago.
There’s a line in the song I’ve attached that really struck a personal chord with me:
I won’t keep watching you
Dance around in your smoke
And flicker out
You’re not the light I used to know

more selfies
That empowering moment when you delete & block them. 

wearing:
hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Francesca hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
-SU!- Amoret Eyeliner +CATWA APPLIER+
-SU!- Xanthe Lip Gloss +CATWA APPLIER+
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Saska
hand tattoo: [ATI] Destiny Lite…Maitreya Applier…
nails: Astralia – Compatible nails system (Maitreya Stiletto base)
toksik – Bloom Choker (Group Gift)
{le fil casse} Kassie Ruffle Hearts Top (*new* @ FrouFrou)

pose: [ATI] Destiny Lite Set (*new* @ Suicide Dollz)
FOXCITY. K-POP Star 2 – Because I am The Best (Rez) (2) RARE (*new* @ Arcade)