Posted in DOUX, Events, Fashion, GenusProject, Glam Affair, Kustom9, N21, Prism Events, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Tannenbaum, Tres Chic

You Could Blow It

I really hate seeing posts that try to pit bloggers against creators (and vice versa), because we are all ultimately responsible for ourselves. Though I saw something on Facebook just the other day that attacked a creator for asking too much of their bloggers.  Creators have the right to ask whatever they want of bloggers. I’ve seen blogger apps that dictate what can and cannot be written on the blog. I know those are not creators I can blog for, no matter how much I love their store. We have to agree to those terms when we accept a position on their team. If the rules change once I’m already on a team, I’ve learned to discuss it with the blog manager…and if the rules are set in stone and I’m not okay with them…well, that’s when I thank them for the time we had together and I move on. I think that just like creators want fresh faces, the same is true for bloggers wanting to evolve. We are all forever changing.
I get the frustration from both sides, honestly. There’s just no way that everyone will be happy all the time. Its just not how the world works and SL is no different. End of the day, blogging is a choice. Rejections are just part of the deal. We are all human and there are bound to be hurt feelings all around from time to time. However, if we are careful, we can minimize that pain. For instance, using other peoples photos as an example of what NOT to do, especially when they don’t even blog for you…its just RUDE. *glares at a certain store that she will not name or support again* Calling out a store for never taking on bloggers with less than a thousand followers is also rude, because the whole point of blogging is to show the items to as many people as possible. So, yes, they want to know you are reaching a good amount of people…they are giving you their items for free afterall. Instead of resenting that creator, work on building up your following and delivering the best blog you can so that designers will WANT to work with you.
On the flip side, if a blogger takes to social media bashing away at particular creators or even creators in general, you’re taking a huge risk. There are creators and managers that see that and make note of what they see. They speak to one another and speaking out against brands unprofessionally is a huge faux pas. This can, in fact, ruin the credibility of said blogger. Clearly this is not guarantee, but it is a definitive risk. Its important that we think about how this could play out before we go ranting all over social media about how we’ve been personally wronged by a creator. We need to be absolutely sure that we are not over reacting or taking something too personally.
doux bs asteroid box
hair:  DOUX – Cotton hairstyle @ TresChic
head: Genus Head – Baby Face
HIATUS – Glamourish #2 HD Lipstick [genus] @ Belle
body: [LEGACY] Meshbody (f) (1.1)
skin:  [Glam Affair] Amelie Applier [ Genus ] @ Kustom9
[Fetch] Madison Earrings @ Tannenbaum
[ rD ] – Polaris Necklace @ Belle
Lavish / Thirsty / Tumbler // Mean Pack @ Equal10
Blossom&Seeds Arizona Top @ Belle
Blossom&Seeds Arizona Pants @ Belle
AsteroidBox. Anika Boots @ Tannenbaum
.Quirky/darkendStare. – AC Power Plug Tail @ N21
Foxes – ChowChow – Black RARE
pose: Diversion – Nailed It Poses***
***right arm posed by drink
***left arm repositoned using AnyPose
taikou / subway backdrop
Posted in Catwa, Fashion, Maitreya, Second Life, The Liaison Collaborative

Crawling Through Shadows

“You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun.” ― Shaun Hick

something asian

Basics:
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Dee Applier

hair: Foxy – Kitsune Hair @ Crystal Heart
tomoto, neko mask WA black @ Japonica
[The Forge] Louise Top @ The Liaison Collaborative
[The Forge] Aimee Shorts. @ Crystal Heart

pose: BellePoses – Roberta set
taikou / gaien market backdrop w. materials

Posted in Catwa, Cynful, Events, Fashion, Lamb, Maitreya, Second Life

You Can Pretend

“Everybody knows
You and I are suicidal stolen art
Pretty moments sews
Stitches into all your bitches broken hearts
You can pretend you don’t miss me
You can pretend you don’t care
All you wanna do is kiss me
Oh what a shame I’m not there
Somebody new
Is gonna comfort you
Like you want me to
Somebody new
Is gonna comfort me
Like you never do
Every now and then it hits me
That I’m the one that got away
But I guess being lonely fits me
And you were made for begging, stay”
bitches broken hearts
wearing:
hair: Lamb. Boyish
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia
< IDEALIA > ONIX Necklace @ Unik
Wicca’s Wardrobe – Nemesis Arms
Cynful Unapologetic Denim Dress @ FaMESHed
pose: Imitation – Lilith poses
taikou / 2AM backdrop
Posted in Second Life

It’s Friday and More!!!

Today is so exciting for so many, especially all the shopping addicts out there! Of course, people are excited about Arcade, but not everyone really likes gachas. FaMESHed opens and the new event Vanity opens! That’s not including all the other events that have recently opened like Kinky and Uber and more! I’m super excited about tonight, too. I’ll be drinking for the first time in a while AND I’ll be hosting at FMD tonight from 6-8pm SLT…so if you’re out and about, drop by, cuz its open access….so its a great time to decide whether or not you’d like to become a member.
Whatever your plans are, I surely hope that you have a fantastic Friday and a wonderful weekend! I plan on being duhrunk af!! *laughs*

Purple Bunny

wearing:
hair:  TRUTH Bloom (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Viktoria Applier
tattoo: Lami – Color Tattoo [CAROL G] (*new* @ Vanity)
Scandalize.EARS (*new* @ Kinky)
Scandalize.Iliana-SHADOW. (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by DelMay
taikou / summer night backdrop (*new* @ Uber)

Posted in Avenge, Catwa, Events, Fashion, Jian, Kaithleen's, Mina Hair, Second Life, Shiny Shabby, shopping, Uber SL

Not This Time

Each time  some one hurts me, each time my heart is broken, and left scarred…it gets harder and harder to even believe in true love, at least not for me. My close friends know what a hard time I’m having in the real these days. Yes, SL is my escape. Yes, my real life is pretty sad and a whole lot of scary right now. My husband and I have been separated but sharing a home for over two years. He had his room, I had mine. There were times that I was hopeful that we might could work it out. He has recently moved out and moved in with the woman with whom his affair was the end of our marriage.
There are times when I am grateful for what I have and do my best to stay positive. There are times that I take great comfort in violent fantasies. Most of all I wake up each day disappointed that it not just a bad dream. This nightmare is my reality.
I’m dealing with a grocery list of health issues that will never get better. I live in constant physical pain. I’m not writing this to complain or whine. I’m writing this to explain why I’ve decided to live the remainder of my days as a free spirit. I refuse to be tied down to things I no longer believe in.
I never wanted to get married, because I’ve never seen a successful marriage. I suck at relationships, ask any of my exes, they’ll agree. I can and do love, very deeply. Its being loved that I struggle with and it never fails that the minute I start to believe that I might just be worthy of that same love in return that I am proven wrong, each and every time. I’ve been drawn to relationships all my life. I hate feeling lonely, but the truth is…I’m not alone. I have some wonderful friends. That’s all I need. I will not seek out another romantic relationship, not this time.
Yes, I am broken, but I am broken beyond mending. I’ve accepted that and the people that I’m closest to are aware of it, too. I’ve accepted my plight and learning to let go of a dream is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I’m awake now. I won’t repeat my mistakes again and again…not this time…well, not for a very long time, at least. *sighs* I really mean this stuff when I say it, you know?
Deva, stop laughing. Dusty, stop rolling your eyes…I swear they’re going to roll right out of your head one day. Sora, distract him, will ya? Tracy, Grace, Kess….you cunts, just shut the hell up. *sighs* I hear you giggling, Luca. Ame, whoop her, will ya? Nikole, get the duct tape, you get it, right?
4in1
We started out as lonely hearts
We started with a promise built on highs
You said I was the missing part
Looked into my eyes said
“You’re my fix for life”

wearing:
hair: MINA – Noah  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Viktoria Applier
[Avenge] Rosary necklace double (F) – pearls (*new* @ MOM)
JIAN Chinchilla :: Hand Held
Kaithleen’s Irina Top (*new* @ ShinyShabby)

pose: an lar [poses] The Cordelia Series
taikou / summer night backdrop (*new* @ Uber)

 

 

Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Events, Fashion, Maitreya, Phedora, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Little Black Riding Hood

So, once upon a time people didn’t mess with fairy tales too much. Once upon a time, Little Red Riding Hood was just a little country girl, whose biggest fear was a wolf that ate her granny. Well, the days of that fairy tale are over. I bring you, Little Black Riding Hood.  Though she wears a hood, she also patrols the hood. She steps out of the darkness like a badass sexy ninja and defeats all the THOTs that circle her man’s place like sharks that have smelled blood. When she’s done destroying them she poses pretty for the paparazzi before returning home to call her grandmother. “Yes, Gma, I took care of those whores!” And this little badass lived happily ever….oh hell naw, here comes somebody else wanting to start some shit.

black riding hood

wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Angel Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy
TABOU. the secret kink Mask (Black)
Blueberry – Liza – Corset Hoodie Dress
Phedora ~ Leticia boots ~ Maitreya RARE (*new* @ Epiphany)

pose: . Infiniti . – Darling
taikou / 2AM backdrop

Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Gos, pr!tty, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL, {le fil casse}

Not a Gift

Every year at Christmas we are bombarded with ads for new cars. We see some weeping wife come out to a car with a giant bow on top. We might see a husband come outside all delighted to the same thing. Occasionally, its a teenager, but here’s the thing that kills me. These commercials rarely tell you the actual cost of the car, its all about the financing. Zero percent down, zero interest for this long, blah blah blah. I’m sorry to inform you, but if its not paid for then its not a gift. Its a loaner with a promise.
You see, many many years ago, I was in a relationship with a man that bought me the most beautiful living room suit for my birthday. I was over the moon. It was leopard print and had this gorgeous elephant coffee table. I went crazy decorating with all sorts of jungle themed touches. It was that same birthday that he took me to a party of some girl he worked with and we had a good time. A couple of weeks later I find out he’s been cheating on me with THAT girl. Needless to say that relationship came to an abrupt halt. A few weeks later, some men showed up with a moving truck to reclaim my living room suit, because it had been financed and wasn’t paid off! The one good thing I thought I had gotten from that relationship was being ripped out from under me and now I had no furniture at all. Why? Because I had given mine away when he surprised me with the new stuff.
So, dear car dealers, unless Mom, Dad, Wifey, Hubby, etc are coming in with the full cost of the car….that is NOT a gift!

a new car

wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Chae – :rigged: (*new* @ Gacha Gardens)
head: CATWA HEAD Uma
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
tattoo: [White~Widow] Chocolat – Black
**RE** Raven Collar – Lock
{le fil casse} Sheena Top (*new* @ Uber)
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves
Astralia – Compatible mesh nails system
GingerFish -Nail Applier-Astralia-Bloody Kisses
Blueberry – Poppy Leggings
[Gos] Boutique – Monza Belted Boots (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: Foxcity Souffle Set

scene:
taikou / late night tunnel backdrop (lights on)
! [MiChIGaN’s ShAcK!] Hard Driven – Premium Edition

Posted in Events, Fashion, Phedora, Second Life, shoes, shopping

So Much Goodness

The end of the month is always a crazy time for me. Not only am I frantically double checking my work to make sure that I’ve met the requirements for all the stores I blog for (which I have usually exceeded), but its set up time for FaMESHed as well as other events. I have tons of blogger packs coming in and I am in blogger heaven. Ideas swirl around like a virgin’s nerves on prom night. I get so excited and while I don’t officially blog for FaMESHed, I get so freaking excited at all the new stuff being set up that I know I’m going to be using lots of it!
Currently, there have been so many wonderful events with more to come in the next few days. I don’t like to use the term overwhelmed, more like overjoyed and worrying about my linden balance. LOL! Good lord, Shoetopia? I mean look at these Amanda heels that were a collaborative effort from Phedora and Moda. What madness brought these two amazing teams together, I’ll never know, but good lord have they ever tempted us! FaMESHed and SALEM open tomorrow on the 1st. There’s also the ForMax benefit on the 3rd (which is only for like 6 days, so don’t put that off)…Project7 is coming…ChapterFour….events for clothes, hair, shoes, and decor OH MY!!! You know I’ll be blogging stuff from everyone of them, too. *laughs* I’m such a bloggaholic, its not even funny! Alright, I’m off to work (in SL)….happy shopping!!!♥

shoetopia

wearing:
hair: Magika – 01 – Feelings
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
[PHEDORA + MODA] AMANDA HEELS (*new* @ Shoetopia)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
taikou / gaien market backdrop

Posted in Events, Fashion, Kustom9, Second Life, The Annex

When the Smoke Clears

I have had an insane week and it looks like I’ve got another one ahead of me, but I know that once things settle down and the smoke clears I’m going to come out the other side breathing fresher air and feeling so much better. That’s just how it is sometimes, isn’t it? We just have to push forward until the smoke clears and our heads are above the proverbial water. There are a lot of people going through a lot right now, because while we can often pause our Second Lives…there’s no pause button on the RL, is there? *sighs* I wish you all good luck as you push onward in your real lives and my SL provide the distraction and joy that it can. ♥

when the smoke clears

wearing:
hair: Stealthic – Fatal (*new* @Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
The Annex – Tempest Dress

pose created using AnyPose
taikou / gaien market backdrop (*new* @Kustom9)

Posted in Events, Fashion, Kustom9, ON9, Phedora, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping, {le fil casse}

Do Not Be Afraid

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.”
― Plato

Wow, it has been quite a while since I started post with a quote. Of course, one is never quite sure what they will find when they go to read my blog. Perhaps a song, a story, a poem, a rant, or like today… some thoughts with a hopefully a sprinkle of wisdom. This particular quote hits home, because I look back at my life and see exactly where fear of success derailed my life over and over again. Failure? Nah, I’m good at that. My entire childhood was an education on how I would never be good enough for more than pleasing a man. My mother taught me to surrender to a man’s will. She was old fashioned and believed in standing by even the most monstrous of men. She preferred the comfort of denial that lies created for her. Looking back, I can see so clearly that she’s never been a fan of truth. Even the simplest of stories are exaggerated for no other reason that her apparent allergy to honesty. Don’t get me wrong, I love her and I’d be lost without her, but that doesn’t make her perfect.  My father on the other hand, perversely manipulative and abusive in every sense of the word. Though he told me repeatedly I’d be a whore and a slut in high school, I rarely dated at all and did not lose my virginity until I was 19. Years later when I proudly told him that he was wrong and how I had waited, he smirked and said that was his plan all along. For he knew I was defiant by nature and would prove him wrong. I know now, that was simply more of his manipulation. I think fewer things brought him more joy than messing with my head.

You may be wondering, what all of this has to do with the quote. It’s simple really. If we are taught to fear everything…if we are sheltered from the truth…fear will easily control our life and limit us in ways we never imagined until it is genuinely too late. Living behind a closed door or in the shadows can be so comforting. We cannot get burned by a light we never see, but the truth is in the light. Until we release ourselves from the shadows of fears, both real and imagined, we can never be free. For it is the truth that sets us free and that truth does not hide in the dark, it is us that choose to stay in the dark.

I have often said that I would rather be hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie. The older I get the more I stand by that statement. Do not be afraid of the light just because you outgrew your fear of the dark.

behind the door

wearing:
hair:  [RA] Sherazade Hair (*new* @ Enchantment)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

{le fil casse}  Madison Dress (*new* @ Whimsical)
Phedora ~Zaidee Platforms (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose: FOXCITY. Cute But Psycho Bento Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)
**slightly edited with AnyPose
taikou / dusk backdrop with materials (*new* @ Kustom9)