Posted in Events, Fashion, Home Decor, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

On Display

I’m a huge fan of the display name option in SL and I’ve had quite a few, because I love having fun with them. With that said, I’ve seen some that just made me sad for humanity, but then again some of mine have probably made others feel the same way. One thing I love about them is that so many people change theirs around this time of year to reflect an enthusiasm for the holiday season, or the lack thereof. With that said, I present my annual display name: SadyClaws!
I’ve had a few that got me run out of PG places, so a warning to those that haven’t played with display names too much but might feel obliged to now. Keep them pg unless you don’t care.
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In the the meantime, please be kind to one another. Remember that suicide rates are highest during the holidays…so please talk to someone if you’re sad…and for those that aren’t sad (YAY!) please be sure to check on your friends that might be. I have to tell you, that when you’re in a dark place and your friends just check in on you? Well, it can make a huge difference. So, be good little humans, and just maybe Santa will bring you something nice this year!

wearing:
hair: *Besom~Star (*new* @ Uber)
CATWA HEAD Gwen
^^Swallow^^ Ears Elf HD
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{Reverie} Knit Sweater (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
EVANI– Elisa leggins (*new* @ Uber)
#EMPIRE – Aconitum

scene:
set up in-RO – Home for the Holidays – Cozy Skybox RARE (*new* @ The Arcade)
RO – Home for the Holidays – Wreath (*new* @ The Arcade)
11 Fancy Decor: Panel Rug (*new* @ The Arcade)
01 Fancy Decor: Panel Sofa RARE (*new* @ The Arcade)
04 Fancy Decor: Throw Pillow (*new* @ The Arcade)
Fancy Decor: Black and White Pillow (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: White and Black Pillow (*new* @ FaMESHed)
05 Fancy Decor: Worlidge End Table (*new* @ The Arcade)
07 Fancy Decor: Brass & Statuette (*new* @ The Arcade)
12 Fancy Decor: Worlidge Table Lamp (*new* @ The Arcade)
10 Fancy Decor: Worlidge Box (black) (*new* @ The Arcade)
02 Fancy Decor: Suede Ottoman (*new* @ The Arcade)
RO – Home for the Holidays – Alaska RARE (*new* @ The Arcade)
03 Fancy Decor: Worlidge Coffee Table (*new* @ The Arcade)
:CP: Kara Candle Book (*new* @ Uber)
:CP: Book Decor Dollarbie (*new* @ Uber)
Fancy Decor: Carriage Clock (silver)
08 Fancy Decor: Panel Mirror  (*new* @ The Arcade)
Apple Fall Happy Santa Figure (Berry)

tree & decorations: (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Botanical – Douglas Fir Christmas Tree for Tannenbaum
ornaments are a variety from the following tree decor gachas
03 Fancy Decor: Tree Ribbon
01 Fancy Decor: Tree Lights RARE
2.  [n.i] tree skirt
various baubles, ornaments, and tassels from:
Fancy Decor
The Vordun
!Oleander
.::Cubic Cherry::.
[Fetch]
Garbaggio
nefarious.inventions
NX-Nardcotix

poses by Del May

Posted in Events, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Unbreakable

Due to recent events in my life and a few of the things I’ve shared here on my blog, I’ve received a lot of messages from people concerned about me.  I appreciate that so much. One thing I’ve found really interesting is how many people are determined to make sure I do not give up on love. It amuses me a bit, but also makes me kinda sad. I know I am loved. I’m loved by some of the most amazing friends and SL family that I’ve ever known over my ten year virtual journey. I’ve experienced some of the greatest love affairs throughout my life both rl and sl. I’m grateful. I’m not saying I’m not going to enjoy my life or date or have some flings. All I’ve meant is that I’m not likely to give what’s left of my heart to another lover, because I’ll never fully trust that type of situation or relationship again…and that’s okay. Not every woman wants kids. Not every woman wants a husband/wife. Some of us are quite happy and content being single. That is what I mean when I say I’m done with the whole love thing. I know there’s love out there for everyone and believe me when I say, “I’ve known great love in my life and I wish that for everyone.”

One thing is for sure, I might get beat down from time to time, but my spirit is unbreakable. I’ve survived far worse than a broken heart and I’ll be damned if this heartache is the thing that breaks me! Plus, c’mon, I’m a woman…it is my prerogative to change my mind. I really don’t foresee me allowing another person that deeply into the remains of my heart, but I’ve been fooled before. Who knows? For now, my unbreakable spirit and I are moving on to better things. Life is an adventure and I fully intend to enjoy it!

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Now about the stuff! New hair from Argrace with so many options and available in the mainstore. This is photography hair at its best! So, if you love taking pictures…this hair is a must have. I’m also back with more goodies from FaMESHed! This dress from Reverie is too perfect for this time of year. Regardless of what season you’re experiencing in your part of the world, its got the long skirt with an adorable attached tee-shirt. I recommend the fatpack, because…well…OPTIONS! Oh, and could it pair better with the Communique set from Empyrean Forge?  We gotta have options! Happy shopping! ❤

wearing:
*ARGRACE* KOHAKU
CATWA HEAD Gwen
Glam Affair – Milu Applier ( Catwa / Bibi ) America 01 (*new* @ The  Gacha Garden)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
EF: Communique Bracelets (*new* @ FaMESHed)
{Reverie} ‘Autumn Heat’ (*new* @ FaMESHed)

Posted in Events, Exploration, Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping, What if...

AnotherWhat if…

What if…this is all just an episode of Black Mirror?

Its no big secret that I’m a huge fan of Netflix and rarely watch anything else (legally…shhhh). Recently, there’s been a lot of buzz about Facebook regarding a show called Black Mirror. Enough of my friends had mentioned it to make me curious. I didn’t bother looking up any information about the show to avoid spoilers and it turns out, I don’t think they could have spoiled it unless the shared the scripts directly to the Internet. If you’re not familiar with the show…think Twilight Zone. Not old enough to know what that is? (I promise it has nothing to do with sparkling vampires.) Well, hold on, let me grab you a better description.  For starters here’s a link directly to the synopsis on IMDB:  http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2085059/synopsis?ref_=tt_ql_stry_3

But if you don’t want to read all of that, I’ll do my best to quickly summarize here and get on with my point (feel free to scroll past the first picture if you know what the show is about.) Each episode is a story of its on and it feeds on our fears of how modern technology is sort of taking over our lives. It leaves you thinking of the possibilities.

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So, I’ve watched about 8 episodes of Black Mirror and I can tell you it is definitely messing with my head. We are living in an episode of that show! Think about it. I don’t care how old or young you are, think about what your life was like ten years ago. Even if you were in Second Life like me, I’m pretty sure you didn’t think you’d still be here and so involved with a virtual world. Think about it….What if someone had told you that someday you’ll be deeply involved in a virtual community, so immersed in fact that you identify with your avatar, you connect emotionally with people from every (networked) corner of the globe? Ok, for me, ten years ago, I was still a few weeks away from joining Second Life and even the day that I did join? Nah, I had no intentions of sticking around which I think was pretty darned evident in my first avatar’s name….we won’t go there. What if someone was to tell you right now that you’re going to grow old in Second Life? Would you believe them? Would you embrace that destiny or fight it tooth and nail?

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You all know my mind is a twisted little place and to think I don’t even need to smoke weed or drink to think the way I do. I simply wake up and jump into some bizarre cleaning mode while the hamsters in my brain climb on their wheel and start churning out my crazy thoughts. Intoxication leads to more naughty thoughts and I’m eyeing these bottles of wine. I’m suddenly soooo thirsty!

So, let me talk briefly about the clothes and location. As you can see listed below, I’m an event junkie…four of the items below are from current shopping events and three others were picked up at previous events. I hear a lot of talk about people getting tired of too many events going on at once and how everyone is running about in the same outfit. I’m here to remind you (stop it, this is not an Alanis Morrisette song!) to mix the old with the new, okay not THAT old, but come on. Grab that top from six Kustom 9 rounds ago and pair it with the skirt from this round of Uber. Oh, did I mention that this Reverie skirt is pure fire? I’m so in love with this skirt and with the color selection there are just all sorts of ways to wear it. I can also tell you that these Phedora platforms go really well with just about everything and are super cute with socks!
Also, I’m not just standing in some random bar, I’m actually posing about in the Gallery on TaKe Heart. The current exhibit was put together by Kess Crystal and is a collection of works from the friends that have inspired her the most over the past year. Be sure to check it out and I’ll have some exciting news regarding the gallery for you all soon.
Happy thoughts to you all and as always….Happy Shopping! ♥

wearing:
::Bold & Beauty:: Hair :: Winx. (*new* @ The Epiphany)
CATWA HEAD Gwen
CATWA Mesh Eyes
Glam Affair – Pia Applier ( Catwa / Tumble ) America 02  (*new* @Kustom9)
Izzie’s – Glitter Make-Up (FLF)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[White~Widow] Charade – Henna – RARE
[ kunst ] – Summer bracelets
**RE** Portia Lace Bustier – Cafe
{Reverie} ‘Heidi’ Skirt – (*new* @ Uber)
PHEDORA / Kayla Platforms / 30.C (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

poses by Bauhaus Movement (some slightly edited with AnyPose)
location TaKe Heart

Posted in Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Musical Musings

I was shopping with my mother when Kid Rock’s Cowboy came on the radio. Before I knew it, I was shushing her and singing along with Kid Rock, doing my best to emulate the synthesized portions of the chorus as well as the alternating high notes.

Cowboy, baby
(With the top let down and the sunshine shinin’)
Cowboy, baby
(West Coast Chillin’ while the boone’s whinin’) I want to be a cowboy, baby
(Ride at night ’cause I sleep all day) cowboy, baby
(I can smell a pig from a mile away)
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As we pulled up to a red light, I’m still rocking out and smiling all happy. I look over at my mother and she’s staring out the window with the funniest look on her face. Mind you, I did not stop singing, but it did make me laugh a little inside. You see, my mother is not a huge music fan…I know, she has no soul, but that explains a lot, too, doesn’t it? I might also mention that she just turned 70 in August.  Anyway, since that moment at the stop light, I could not stop thinking how strange and foreign that must seem to her. I haven’t seen her sing along with a song since I was a teenager. It was right after her divorce and she was hanging out with another divorce’ going to this country bar every other Friday night. She drove me absolutely nuts and horrified me to no end with her off key rendition of Randy Travis’ Diggin Up Bones. It wasn’t quite as bad as her complete lack of rhythm when trying to dance, but she only danced in our living room after getting home from the bar. She sang in the car! People could see her and possibly hear her in traffic!

So, if I was that mortified as a teenager, how must she feel as a reserved older woman who is not remotely familiar with Kid Rock’s music? So, I decided to ask her…
There are somethings you regret the moment you put the wheels in motion.
What started off as what I thought was an innocent question, quickly turned into a debate. She proceeded to tell me how none of my music made any sense and that she thought it was rude of me to expect her to be quiet just because a song came on the radio. I then felt compelled to point out that we could ride in silence for half an hour, but the minute I say, “OH! I love this song!” and turn up the radio she feels the need to read signs and point out not at all interesting things she sees out the window. *sigh*
I guess I’ll never know how truly odd it is for her, because I’m damn sure not asking her again!

wearing:
[CX] Beaded Antlers (Brown)
MINA – Mena
CATWA HEAD Gwen
CATWA Mesh Eyes
Glam Affair – Pia Applier ( Catwa / Tumble ) America 02  (*new* @ Kustom9)
::SG:: Lets Go Eyeshadow – JESSICA HEAD Catwa
::SG:: Clara Lips for CATWA Heads only!
. a i s l i n g . NoseChains
**RE** Raven Collar – Lock
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
!Rebel Hope – Sonoma Mesh Cardigan
BUENO – Strapless Dress  (*new* @ Kustom9)
NOMAD // Dreamer Bracelet
NOMAD // Brass Gamer Bracelet // RARE
Kibitz – Rosie rings – gold
{Reverie} ‘Gli Animale’ Collection – Knee Socks RARE – (*new* @ Kustom9)
!Rebel Hope – Lydia Mesh Boots

scene:
trees from Studio Skye
[Commoner] Cafe Collection / Corner Stage
[ keke ] willow leaves for ground – maxi
:CP: Autumn Hues Cuddle Seat (VIP Group Gift)
Fancy Decor: Harvest Cart
{vespertine}autumn morning bed tray.
uK – Autumn Vanity Cushion
uK – Pupkin Leaves Choco (*new* @ The Epiphany)
uK – Pupkin Cthulhu (*new* @ The Epiphany)
uK – Pupkin Patch Black (*new* @ The Epiphany)

poses by Bauhaus Movement (some slightly edited with AnyPose)

Posted in Events, Fashion, Landscaping, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

TaKe Heart ♥

This time last year, little did I know I was about to experience one of the worst days of my real life, followed by some of the hardest and most challenging months. Those closest to me know the gory details and I’d rather not relive them here, but here I am a year later in a place I could never have imagined. This place is beyond special. It is magical. This place is not a place at all, but a state of mind wrapped in hope and love by some of the most beautiful people on the planet.  I am fortunate enough to call them my friends. Only God knows why they put up with me, but I sure am glad that they do.
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So I want to start off by saying thank you to all of my wonderful friends. Some of you have sat up with me at all hours of the night listening to me cry, curse, scream, vent..whatever I needed to do in order to process. Some of you encouraged rotten behavior that got me in all sorts of trouble, but was beyond fun. Some of you provided me with a safe place where I could just be. Some of you gave me space, knowing that’s what I needed from you. You were all exactly the type of friends I needed with a few exceptions that are no longer in the circle. Bye Felicias and Felipes!
Now, I want to talk about where I’ve landed almost a year later. In my World Peace post, I mentioned that I had landscaped a sim for some friends of mine, Kess Crystal and Spazz Tackett. It was such an amazing experience and I am honored to have been part of the process. Kess has finished decorating…maybe and that sim is now open, so please give it a look. As you can see, TaKe Heart is a sim designed with love and whimsy, with a twist of Sady aka dark twisted stuff. I’ve taken these photos by the lake which just so happens to be shaped like a heart…thank you very much! The reason this is so pivotal to me is because both Kess and I had a rough time of it this time last year. There were daily Skype calls, complete with tears, cursing, and plenty of laughter, too. I don’t know how I would have survived last fall without her. She has inspired me, pushed me, pulled me, poked me a few times, threatened to kill me once or twice, and put up with the worst of me.
So, here we both are a year later, we’ve both made great changes in our lives and come through some intense situations. She’s opened this sim with one of her absolute best friends AND…(totally heard her say that) I now have a new gig, sorta. As a result of my work on TaKe Heart, I’ve already been hired to landscape some private property and I’m pretty happy with how it turned out. I don’t know if I’ll ever be asked to do it again and that’s okay, but this time last year I wouldn’t have believed this is where I’d be.
Photography. Blogging. Landscaping. Amazing friends and SL family. I’m happy. Pretty much all around. Life will never be perfect, but my goodness I sure didn’t expect it to be this good a year later and mostly because of Second Life.
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Now about the stuff, because this “stuff” is AMAZING! First of all, I cannot get enough of this dress from Reverie. There are solids and aztec prints available, plus if that wasn’t enough there’s an adorable vest available in four textures. This is one of those dresses that going to be a sure classic and I have a sneaky feeling you’ll be seeing it again and again. For now, grab your favorite(s) at Uber. AND (totally hear Kess again) while you’re at Uber, you’ve got to check out the animated hair from Little Bones. This hair is gorgeous and magically fits my Catwa head perfectly! I had too much fun, flipping my hair back and forth, around from side to side. I didn’t tell Sino what I was doing, he just started noticing and was like WHOA! Yeah, WHOA is right! Between this dress and this hair, I’m ready for the next year! Bring it on!! ♥

wearing:
little bones.
Buffy – The Blend (*new* @ Uber)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
:Diamante: Disengaged Plugs Piercing
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{Reverie} ‘Ciara’ Dress (*new* @ Uber)
*AvaWay* Nikki_Bracelet, necklace, rings, and earrings (all sold separately)
#EMPIRE – Freesia

poses by Del May

location TaKe Heart

Posted in Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

The Beholder is You

People often say that ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder,’ and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves. Salma Hayek

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I was scrolling through Flickr this morning and noticing all the different types of avatars. Yes, there are tons of clones, particularly certain mesh heads that are so distinguishable that you honestly cannot tell one avatar from another. I admit there are times that I look at other people’s avis and scrunch my nose, questioning their sanity, their eyesight, and sometimes its just a big WTF look on my face, but at the end of the day I can honestly appreciate all of the avatars out there…ok, most of them. No, I have no desire to parade MY avatar around with a huge ass, huge boobs, tiny waist and ankles. No, I have no desire to saunter to and fro with a stick figure avatar that makes the likes of Kate Moss look obese. Nor do I prefer my avatar to be too tall, too thick, too short, too skinny…wait…those are all opposing things. YES!
My avatar is the way I want it to look. Yours should be the way YOU want it to look. This is something I really came to terms with about a month and a half ago. I noticed that over the last year and a half my avatar literally gained weight. Not only did she gain weight, but she got taller! How did that happen? Well, I’ll tell you.
I let other people get in my head and convince me that their idea of beauty should be mine, too. I know that part of that stems from admiring the people who made these suggestions. The other part came from a lack of self esteem. So, a little weight here, a little nudge to my height there, plump up the tits a bit here, fatten that ass a bit there…and before I knew it…Sady wasn’t Sady at all. She was the compilation of suggestions and unsolicited advice.
With the help of another friend who knew me when my avatar was smaller and appreciated the look, I was able to tweak myself a lot closer to my roots. I’m really happy with the way my avatar looks now…although I have been considering a new head…*hangs her current one in shame.* In the meantime, I believe in myself and my avatar. I am the beholder of my beauty and I’m not changing for anyone other than myself ever again. So, the next time someone tells you they’re tired of seeing your face on every avatar across the grid? Tell them to sign off and go read a book, no one is forcing them to look at you. If someone tries to tell you that your toon is too fat, too skinny, too short, or too tall? Suggest that they go start a shape store, but to kindly leave your avatar alone. Unless you’re asking for advice with your avatar’s appearance I say tell them to all shut up…no one has the right to tell any of us what is beautiful and what isn’t, because we all know that one goofy looking dog that is soooo ugly its adorable. Now how do you think that happened?
Its your avatar, express yourself the way you want and BEHOLD YOUR OWN BEAUTY!
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wearing:
hair:Blues. Storm
CATWA HEAD Dyana
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{Reverie} ‘Micha’ Outfit (*new* @ Kustom9)
Fucking Lovely Leg Corset Piercing
Astralia – Sara ankle boots (*new* @ Kustom9)

poses by Kirin Riri Pose Pack (*new* @ Kustom9)

location: Whole Wheat (Thanks, Kobie!)

Posted in Fashion, Home Decor, Second Life

Home

“Home is where my habits have a habitat”
Fiona Apple

I don’t do a lot of decor posts, but you can bet when I do I am crazy about the way it all looks. I have a few go to stores in SL that have long been my habitual furniture stores and so long as Cheeky Pea is in SL, Isla Gealach’s creations will have a place in my virtual home. I’ve watched her store grow over the years and I love that it has gotten the recognition it deserves. I could gush about her store for hours, but lets not digress.

I am continuously surprised by the amazing creations I find for my home across the grid and events like Uber are one of the reasons I have discovered some new ones. You like that little segue? LOL…If you haven’t gotten over to Uber yet, you’ll definitely want to check out the Desert Rose Set by Cheeky Pea. This set even has new animations and poses that will not disappoint you.

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This round of Uber is a must shop, but then again so are Summerfest and N21. So much shopping, so little time…and lets not mention my linden allowance. I’m pleased as punch that I was able to tie some old stuff with some new stuff to make my virtual home reflect my spirit.

I was also fortunate enough to do the same with my avatar. Snagging this delicious lingerie set from Reverie and pairing it with accessories, both old and new. I am one happy little shopper!

wearing:
Tableau Vivant \\ Yoann hair (*new* @ Summerfest)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
LUXE. Choi Lip Ring (*new* @ N21)
[atooly] mia spiked hoops .silver.
(Yummy) Talisman Charms – Dreamer  – Silver   (*new* @ N21)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{Reverie} ‘Belles’ Lingerie Set  (*new* @ Uber)
arm & thigh chains: Zaara : Raksha Body jewelry (*new* @ Uber)cheeky1

Furnishings & Decor:
sofa, rug, pouffe, lanterns & coffee table: Cheeky Pea Desert Rose Set (*new* @ Uber)
uK – Starfish Frame Set Blue
PILOT – Flower Mirror [Ombre Teal]
:CP: Delilah Blossom Sheer Curtain
:CP: Old Fence Frames
end tables: *ionic* Small coffee table
+Half-Deer+ Baby Kraken – Tangerine Drop (*new* @ Summerfest)
Intrigue Co. – Plushie Pals: Ocho the Pacific Octopus (*new* @ The Arcade)
LISP – Mesh – Newspaper and Coffee – Blue
*AF* Flower Cart Paperwhites
cats: Mutresse-Witty Cats (*new* @ The Arcade)

poses: double take

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