Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Gos, Maitreya, RunAway Hair, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

I’m Offended

April Fool’s Day has come and gone. It’s the one day of the year that we’re expected to relax and expect bad to epic pranks. I’ve seen all sorts of prank wars on YouTube between couples that are far more tolerant than I would ever be. I’ve seen women smashing Xboxes….those things are freaking expensive! Let someone bash in my PC as a joke! I don’t care if they had a backup or a brand new better PC….that’s cash money, yo! For years, I’ve pranked my mother by claiming to see a spider somewhere near her. Hell, I even did that shit over the phone and she still feel for it. Yeah, she cusses me out every year, but that’s how I know I got her.

There are certain pranks that are just classics, especially now with most people locked into social media. People will announce they’re getting married, divorced, a new job, pregnant, car crash, etc. Now, rarely does anyone fake a death or some deadly disease, but when they do its usually someone famous and they can get away with it. Now, most of these jokes are so common that I hardly even find them amusing, unless presented in a very unique way. What I have not witnessed until this year (doesn’t mean it didn’t happen) was someone getting so bent out of shape over a public prank on social media that they took it upon themselves to rant about said joke and how it offended them. Naturally, there were people ready and willing to jump on the offended bandwagon. To be fair, there were also a handful of people defending the offensive joke.

Here’s the the filtered tea. The joke was a pregnancy announcement. Several people fell for it and that made it funny to me. The person offended apparently couldn’t have kids or had recently lost a child during pregnancy. I honestly can’t remember the details, because the comments on both threads had my head spinning. Eventually, the joker, being a truly wonderful person, resended her joke and apologized to all of FB. Thus, the offended, also a wonderful person, took down her rant.

Ok, so here’s why it bothered me. I honestly don’t get why this was so offensive. I can’t have kids. I had two miscarriages, but swore I’d never try again. I couldn’t deal with the idea of getting my hopes up and losing another one. I absolutely hate the very idea of baby showers and I refuse to go them, because they upset me so badly. Just receiving an invitation can make me cry sometimes. However, I would NEVER lash out, publicly OR privately, over being invited. I wouldn’t dream of making it about me. I simply accept it as part of life and decline the invite with one excuse or another. I don’t even tell them that real reason I can’t go is that I’m not mentally stable enough to sit through someone else’s joyous occasion because it triggers so much personal pain. Hell, I’ve had to endure work baby showers that sent me to the bathroom to calm down. So, to rain all over social media because an innocent joke triggered you? Well, here’s the thing…once that shit is out there, people have seen it. I guarantee someone has a screen shot of it and friends were lost over this stupid joke. Now the whole world knows how sensitive you are and how easily you’re triggered….and quite frankly, it made a mountain out of mole hill. We as humans have got to stop being so easily offended. We can’t take everything so personally. I personally find it exhausting and I understand that sometimes stuff bothers us deeply, but not everything is meant for social media. It simply creates a rift between people that wasn’t necessary. So, please, if you’re truly offended by someone’s behavior….perhaps you should approach the person offending you, but take sometime to think it over. Is this something that offends you personally? Was the offensive thing aimed at you specifically? I mean, just think about it. Most of us are adults, let’s start acting like it. Because quite frankly, I’m offended by every Tom, Dick, and Sally walking around with chips on their shoulders just waiting to be offended so they can rant all over social media about it. So, there…your overt sensitivity offends me. How you like them apples? (and ffs, don’t take this as a direct assault…it fits a gazillion scenarios….I think both women are beautiful and amazing, it was just one of those things, ya know?)

rooftop
I’ll be on the roof smoking, let me know when its over.

wearing:
hair:  [RA] Tashie Hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia
tattoo: IDTTY Body Shop – Feline Gaze

[NikotiN] Rainbow_Black RARE
[ kunst ] – Alexandra collar
amias – NADIA gloves RARE
Ascendant – Pride Week Nails
:::insanya::: TubeTop – Solid
Blueberry – Group Gift – Joggers
[Gos] Marie Ankle Boots (*new* @ Uber)

pose: FOXCITY. Thoughts Bento Pose Set (*new* @ Uber)

Posted in Animals, Death Row Designs, Fashion, Home Decor, Narcisse, Prism Events, Second Life, shopping, Tannenbaum, The Liaison Collaborative

Rx (Medicate)

Theory of a Deadman – Rx (Medicate)

Wake up to a cloudy day
Dark rolls in and it starts to rain
Staring out to the cage-like walls
Time goes by and the shadows crawl
Crushin’ candy crushin’ pills
Got no job, mom pays my bills
Textin’ ex’s get my fill
Sweatin’ bullets, Netflix-chills
World’s out there singin’ the blues
Twenty more dead on the evening news
Think to myself “really, what’s the use?”
I’m just like you, I was born to lose

Why oh why can’t you just fix me?
When all I want’s to feel numb
But the medication’s all gone
Why oh why does God hate me?
When all I want’s to get high
And forget this so-called life

I am so frickin’ bored
Nothin’ to do today
I guess I’ll sit around and medicate (medicate)
I am so frickin’ bored
Nothing to do today
I guess I’ll sit around and medicate (medicate)

Can’t wait to feel better than I ever will
Attack that shit like a kid on Benadryl
Chase it down with a hopeful smile
Hate myself, if I can go for miles
They say family’s all you need
Someone to trust can help you breathe
Inhale that drug, but you start to choke
You follow the outs of an inside joke

Why oh why can’t you just fix me?
When all I want’s to feel numb
But the medication’s all gone
Why oh why does God hate me?
Cause I’ve seen enough of it, heard enough of it, felt enough of it
Had enough of it!

I am so frickin’ bored
Nothing to do today
I guess I’ll sit around and medicate (medicate)
I am so frickin’ bored
Nothing to do today
I guess I’ll sit around and medicate

Medicate
Medicate
Medicate
Medicate

Superman is a hero
But only when his mind is clear though
He needs that fix like the rest of us
So he’s got no fear when he saves that bus
All the stars in the Hollywood Hills
Snapchat live while they pop them pills
All those flavors of the rainbow
Too bad that shit don’t work though

Your friends are high right now
Your parents are high right now
That hot chick’s high right now
That cop is high right now
The president’s high right now
Your priest is high right now
Everyone’s high as fuck right now
And no one’s ever coming down

I am so frickin’ bored
Nothing to do today
I guess I’ll sit around and medicate (medicate)
I am so frickin’ bored
Nothing to do today
I guess I’ll sit around and medicate

Medicate
Medicate
Medicate
Medicate

I medicate

Rx

wearing:
hair: =DeLa*= Mesh Hair “Khatia”
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
NARCISSE– Noelle Romper (*new* @ TLC)
erratic / eva – knee socks plain

pose: Foxcity Cute But Psycho set

Scene:
DRD– My Miserable Holiday Set (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
–DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Carpet
–DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Chair
–DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Table
–DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Tree
–DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Wood Basket
–DRD – My Miserable Holiday – Wood Stove

DRD – AE – Post Apocalyptic Holiday – Tree
DRD – Forgotten Attic – Chair – Stripe

dust bunny & O.M.E.N . Puppy Basket Bed

[Commoner] Break-Up Survival Kit / Zanax RARE

[NikotiN] Dealer Kitchen – Tray Metal
[NikotiN] Dealer Kitchen – Consumer Kit
[NikotiN] Grinder

Kalopsia – Lace Curtains

Posted in Exploration, Second Life, Shiny Shabby, shopping, Tres Chic

Do You Believe in Shame?

My last post was about a popular song by Duran Duran that I never liked until I heard a more sensual, less pop cover of it. A dear friend of mine that I met in SL way back in 2006 sent me a cover of one of Duran Duran’s lesser known songs and I have to say that I’m equally in love with this song. So, the song is: Do You Believe in Shame
I doubt I ever would have heard this song if she’d not sent me the link, because well, let’s face it. If I didn’t like the main stream stuff from Duran Duran, its not likely I would have ever sought out their other songs, much less a cover. This is just another thing I love about SL, how the oddest of circumstances will bring people together. You see, it was her love for Duran Duran that brought her to SL in the first place. I guess I’ll be grateful to the band for that and their songs that are song by other people…sorry, Stace.

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So, Tres Chic is open and filled with goodness and tis the eve of Shiny Shabby…so get those lindens ready, cuz I’ve had a peak at both and you’re going to NEED stuff! Also, check out Neon Tepee for a great place to take pictures. There’s no rezzing, so you’ll have to use their funiture or wear a posing hud, but its beautifully decorated. Even if you don’t want to take photos, its a nice little hangout spot and whenever I’ve been there the place has been empty. It is adult…so…be prepared for some nudity…*winks*

wearing:
Sintiklia – Hair Dreamy (*new* @ Tres Chic)
[NikotiN]    Rainbow_Black   RARE
ED. Nemo Coat (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

pose by Bauhaus Movement
location: Neon Tepee

Posted in Events, Home Decor, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Broken

It’s impossible to get through this life without some heartache and heartbreak. I’ve been going through more than my fair share of both lately and quite frankly I’m getting a little tired of it. I feel so very broken to the core of my soul. I’m quite sure my quota has been met for a good long while and to make sure I protect the few remaining pieces of my shattered heart, I shall lock them away behind some very tall, strong walls. Yes, I know I’m not supposed to give up, blah blah blah. I do what I want and right now, as I lick my wounds, the plan is to not get sucked into another situation where I fall and get hurt. I’ve loved and I’ve lost and while yes, the ride was worth the fall. I can’t take too many more falls and retain the shred of humanity that remains.

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In the meantime, I plan to be surrounded by some of the most wonderful friends a girl could ever hope for and to pour myself into productive projects that will hopefully distract me and push me forward. I’m not writing all of this for sympathy, because in the end that doesn’t do much for me. I have a few ears that let me rant and cry as needed. That’s more than I could hope for when feeling this low. I’m not giving up on life, just giving up on the idea that romantic love is going to play any part in my future. I’m not sad about that. In fact, it feels quite liberating. I’ve had plenty of romance in my life, more than my fair share. I have nothing to complain about there. I merely don’t feel like going through this pain again, just like I don’t go placing my hand on a hot stove or my finger in a light socket…anymore. (Oh shush, you probably did it to.) So, if you see me getting all giddy or excited about someone, feel free to slap me with this post and remind me just how bad this crap hurts.

broken-tear

In the meantime, FaMESHed opened and well, lets just say there’s plenty of retail therapy to be had out there. So, if you or someone you love is going through hard times, I highly recommend grabbing your wallet and going straight to the nearest event for some good old fashioned retail therapy. Let’s face it, new jewelry like the Communique Set from Empyrean Forge can make even the coldest heart feel divine! Bring on the shopping and the wine!

 

wearing:
[monso] My Hair – Momo /Blonde (*new* @ FaMESHed)
CATWA HEAD Gwen
Glam Affair – Milu Applier ( Catwa / Bibi ) Artic 01 (*new* @ The  Gacha Garden)
[NikotiN]    Rainbow_Silver  RARE
EF: Communique Full Jewelry Set (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Vinyl – Yui Panties Lara (*new* @ FaMESHed)
[CX] Tempest Garters (Torn+Fades) – Maitreya (*new* @ FaMESHed)

scene:
Fancy Decor: French Landscape (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Bouillotte Lamp (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Carriage Clock (silver) (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Classic Console (black) (*new* @ FaMESHed)
(Yummy) Dying Roses
!gO! SteamTeddy +Giddy+
!gO! SteamTeddy +Mad+
Soy. Potted Traveler’s Palm Tree [Gray]
BUENO-Bonita Bag-Black
Fancy Decor: Take Heart Frame
BAZAR: Paris – Wine set & Paris – Wine bottle spilled
Second Spaces – snow day books

poses by Klubwerk.poses (some edited with AnyPose)

Posted in Fashion, Home Decor, Landscaping, Second Life

Tea Party? Nah! Let’s drink wine!

“Welcome to the Tea Party
Want to be my VIP?
You didn’t RSVP
That’s ok, that’s ok
Welcome to the Tea Party (oh oh, oh oh)
Want to be my VIP?”
~Kerli “Tea Party

Ok, so when I first saw the Garden Soiree Set by unKindness at Collabor88, I immediately had the above mentioned song in my head. I knew I had to have a little gathering of my roommates for a photo. Anyone that knows my crew, knows that we’re not exactly tea drinkers…so it had to be a wine party, right? Well, imagine getting five very creative and strong personalities together, suggesting a theme and giving them some freedom to express themselves…yeah, madness ensued.

tea eh wine partyI am very fortunate that they let me believe I had any sense of control while shooting these photos or that I had any influence at all over their outfits. I said, “Go for it…be bizarre…be creative.” I should have known that Rom would show up in his favorite boots. Tracy, of course, shows up in as little as possible. Afterall, “Tracy’s flickr” is our favorite answer to all Cards Against Humanity questions (try it, it works). When I told them to hop on the pose stands I had filled with poses from Del May, Grace immediately asked if she could be passed out on the table. It only seemed natural that she would be, so I had to say yes. I knew the minute I saw the dress from sYs that I’d be wearing it for the party and when Sino saw it, he quickly put together his own stunning look.
tea party
Being surrounded by friends this way was amazing and I’m not sure I can even begin to explain the conversations we had while I shot these photos, but I can’t recommend the experience enough. I know we all gather at clubs and dance to our favorite DJs. That is so much fun in its own right, but please if you’ve never done it…have a party at home with your closest friends. Ask them to dress in theme and break out the cameras, because THIS?
Yeah, in almost 10 years on the grid, these types of little parties have always been my favorite. We might not have been genuinely drunk in real life, but we sure were high on life and I’m so grateful that I was able to catch this madness on virtual film. Even when things went a bit haywire with my poses stands, the fun continued.
tea party madness
The Garden Soiree Set inspires the oncoming of fall and it just so happens that its mine and Tracy’s favorite season…no, that has nothing to do with the fact that both our birthdays are in October…pssshaw! Its the time of pumpkins, caramel apples, cinnamon candles, hot cocoa…ok, lots of apple things…Halloween…falling leaves…all sorts of good stuffs! So, we got a little excited…and its really a very lovely set, despite the madness represented here. All the credits for the peeps and the scene are listed below, to make it easier a brief description of who is who is first.
Sady (moi) is the one sitting on a stacked set of benches, all the way on the left.
Grace is that voluptuous woman on the table.
Rom is the man on the table…the one with the sexy boots.
Sino is our dapper soldierish captain man in the front.
Tracy is the half naked one in the mask, sorry, Tracy….guess that mask didn’t do you much good there.

Sady is wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Sari hair (*new* @ Collabor88)
*LODE* Head Accessory – Leila [brown]
CATWA HEAD Destiny
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
erratic / cuffs / gold
[MANDALA]Sinra Rings Season2 (*new* @ Collabor88)
[sYs] TRIANON dress (fitted & body mesh) – royal (*new* @ Collabor88)
REIGN.- Olympus Heels  (*new* @ Collabor88)

Grace is wearing:
hair:[sYs] SHINZO hair  (*new* @ Collabor88)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[MANDALA]Sinra Rings Season2 (*new* @ Collabor88)
Rowne.Damir Sheer Dress (*new* @ Collabor88)
[VALE KOER] CRUEL HEELS (*new* @ Collabor88)

Rom is wearing:
hair: [NO!Project]  Kellen
.::SAMURAI::.. Cyrus Mesh Head
^^Swallow^^ Ears Goth BLACK
Bokeh – Monacle
[Deadwool] Moustache
[NikotiN]   Cigarette_ Damier
Slink Physique MALE Mesh Body
UC_leather_harness_black_men_Slink
[House of Ruby] Shine Thong for Him – Gold
::GB:: Metallic nail  Gloves
::GB::Silver wand
BTTB eir heels – black – male SLINK

Sino is wearing:
(epia) – Modern Officer Cap
#TheMeshProject (BETA) Head(m) – Moody
**RE** Savage Ear Piercings
.:E.A.Studio:. Piercing Bare Code Gold
**RE** Keal Nose Chains – Male
[CX] Venom Septum
[The Forge] Iron Clad Collar
#TheMeshProject (BETA) Deluxe Body
[The Forge] Iron Clad Pauldrons
.random.Matter. & Le Morte – Aeson Gloves
**RE** Savage Claws & Rings
[CX] Carnal Rings
GizzA – Embroidered Outfit – Jacket
GizzA – Embroidered Outfit – Pants
Razor/// Dread Boots

Tracy is wearing:
hair:[LeLutka]-MALEFICENT tresses
CATWA HEAD Annie
.ET. L’odeur du cuir Bunny Mask Black
=Zenith=Muted Coven Collar
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
.aisling. Sofia Chestlace
erratic / scarlett – bra
erratic / scarlett – panty
Baiastice_Velvet long gloves
erratic / cuffs / gold
REIGN.- POINTED TOE BOOTS

ALL poses are by Del May any editing was done using AnyPose

Scene:
part one…landscaping (done by Luis Lockjaw)
=EliBaily= Ivy
{vespertine – tile skipping path/plain}
[we’re CLOSED] white flowers
{vespertine– old wooden fence/browns dots}
[we’re CLOSED] tree 1C bare
Skye Land Forms
*alirium* DwarfForest [OldGold]

part two…table (set up by me)
unKindness: uK- Garden Soiree Benches (*new* @ Collabor88)
unKindness: uK – Garden Soiree Table (*new* @ Collabor88)
*LODE*Decor – Snapdragon Vase Big [dark violet]
unKindness: uK – Garden Soiree Place Settings (*new* @ Collabor88)
BAZAR Paris – Wine bottle spilled

 

Posted in Fashion, Landscaping, Second Life

What I Need

In the real world, I live in the Southern U.S. region and there are some pretty common phrases around these parts that have various meanings depending on the context in which they’re used. One of those is “Y’all need Jesus” or “You need Jesus.” I refer to the state of Alabama (where I actually live, don’t judge me) as the buckle of the bible belt. So, you can just imagine how often this particular phrase is used. It always amuses me a bit, because I am not religious at all, nor am I a Christian. While I do believe I have a spiritual connection and don’t dispute that there are definite powers greater than me, there’s not a particular religion to which I subscribe.

jesus hq

When I say it, and I think this is true for most people that say it, I’m telling someone they need help. I’m never serious when I say this, because I’m the person that suffers from such bizarre insomnia that I actually dream about not being able to sleep. People ask me all the time, “Do you ever sleep?” I promise I do, its just here and there. Sometimes, I can’t sleep more than an hour or two a day. Other times, I can’t stay awake for more than an hour or two. The latter usually happens when my body is beyond tired and the only way I can shut off this insane brain of mine  is by popping a Xanax. Once that kicks in, I’m useless until it wears off. Given my snail’s pace metabolism, that can mean a day or two at least.
With that said, my friends (especially my SL friends) find it particularly funny when I use this phrase. They also thought that I needed both this shirt and this hair…so here I am proudly claiming my Southern roots and all the silly phrases that go with it.

So…while the rest of y’all need jesus…my ass needs some sleep. LOL!

Blues. Layne (*new* @ Hair Fair 2016)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
IKON Odyssey Eyes – Apex
[NikotiN]    Rainbow_Black  RARE
.02 [ kunst ] – Chin flower RARE
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Prodigy Ink–7P-Paradise Tattoo
-tres blah- Knotted Raglan – Y’all need Jesus
**RE** Precious Nails & Rings – Square
{MYNX} Pocket Capri’s

pose by double take
backdrop by industy7: _i7_urban studio_post apocalyptic set RARE (*new* @ The Epiphany) and if you look through that window, you’ll see some of the Concrete Jungle gacha set by unKindness…also @ The Epiphany

Posted in Fashion, Second Life

The Edge

The Edge… there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over. Hunter S. Thompson
on the edg4
enVOGUE HAIR – Gisselle
**{FORMANAILS}**Accessoires – MAITREYA – Rings-2
.4 [ kunst ] – Septum Keeper
:BAMSE: Skull Cane – Darkness (*NEW* at Cosmopolitan)
[NikotiN]    Rainbow_Black  RARE
Moon Elixir – Coven – 6 – Maitreya – Arm Wraps – Charcoal (*NEW* at The Fantasy Gacha Carnival)
Moon Elixir – Coven – 15 – Maitreya – Shirt – White (*NEW* at The Fantasy Gacha Carnival)
Moon Elixir – Coven – 12 – Maitreya – Shorts – Charcoal (*NEW* at The Fantasy Gacha Carnival)
_CandyDoll_ Maya Shoes – Maitreya Lara – RARE
on the edge1

on the edge2

on the edge3

pose: DelMay – Avalanche
photos taken at Ironwood Hills