Posted in Catwa, Collabor88, Cynful, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, shopping

Hiding From the World

I recently acquired a homestead and its perfect for me, because though I do share a good bit about myself in my blog. I also enjoy my privacy and I’m quite content spending several days in a row alone. I like having complete control of my land and I love that no one can see who is on my land. I don’t have to worry about seeing someone I don’t care for on my radar because they are somewhere else on the sim. I finally feel truly free to hide away from the world. I can create whatever scenes I like wherever I want and never have to worry about a neighbor putting up some atrocious house with prim trees from 2007. I love my new home, because its the best place to be when I’m hiding from the world.

Dear People

wearing:
hair: MINA – Alison (*new* @ Enchantment)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

*LODE* Head Accessory – Juliet [iceberg]
Cae :: Gianna :: Necklace
Cae :: Gianna :: Earrings
Dahlia – Sady Cat Eye Sunglasses (May FaMESHed Go)
[Cynful] Heidi Summer Maxi Dress (*new* @ C88)

pose: an lar [poses] The Yearning Series (*new* @ ROMP)

Posted in Bad Unicorn, CandyDoll, Events, FaMESHed, Gingerfish Poses, Jian, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Quasi, Second Life, TMD

Dear Bloggers…pt 2

Dear Bloggers,

Please stop treating what we do as a competition. It’s not a sport. There’s room for everyone.
Stop stabbing other bloggers in the back or trying to throw them under the bus. It rarely works out the way you hope it does and in the end, karma finds it’s way back to you.
Remember that none of us are perfect. Learn to forgive one another for misunderstandings and work together as a community.
Don’t bad mouth each other in front of their best friends.
Remember who helped you when you first started, know that as much as you run your mouths, so do the people you run and talk to.
Don’t bash a brand or even hint at bashing a brand in a public forum. You’re only making yourself look bad and you’re burning more than one bridge when you do that.
Stop taking everything so personally. The world doesn’t revolve around you.
Don’t be afraid to try new things.
There’s no need to suck up to designers and lie to them about the people that work for them. Designers are not idiots and you can damn well bet they know what they’re doing and who is who on their teams.
Accept feedback for what it is, constructive criticism, remember that it’s not your brand.
And last but not least, if YOU think this post is aimed at you….well, you might want to think about why you think that and just for the record, this isn’t actually aimed at one person specifically. This is just a list of what I thought was common sense behaviors, but apparently isn’t. Not sure why I bother doing these little schpeils, but I suppose I hope its going to make a difference. *shrugs* If you found anything useful, take it and use it. If not, leave it here and forget it. I really just want people to stop wasting their precious time on hate and negativity. So…happy shopping…happy blogging…happy living. ❤

Iconic

Sady is wearing:
hair: MINA – Sigrid (*new* @ FaMESHed)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Katy (Catwa Applier) toffee (*new* @ C88)
brows: –SU!- Blair Eyebrows +CATWA APPLIER

_CandyDoll_ Selina Jump (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Selina Heels (*new* @ C88)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Kiss My Sass stand (*new* @ eBento)

scene:
JIAN Ragdoll Cat Snoozing Chair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 05 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 19 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Poster (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Messy Mondays Bed (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Rock Star Sign (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 08 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 13 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Smokers Stool ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
[Bad Unicorn] Leaning Lamp ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Guitar (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Night Stand (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha RARE (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 14 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Un-Starry Night ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 15 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 07 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 04 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Grind City Dresser (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 02 (*new* @ 6Republic)
Quasi – Downtown Gacha – 11 (*new* @ 6Republic)
[Bad Unicorn] Railed Grail ‘Messy Mondays’ (*new* @ TMD)
[Bad Unicorn] Messy Mondays Rug *FATPACK EXLCUSIVE* (*new* @ TMD)
Quasi – Grind City Rug (*new* @ 6Republic)

Posted in Bad Unicorn, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Phedora, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Boundaries

Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too. ― Christine Morgan

Caution

wearing:
hair: MINA – Maria  (*new* @ Blush)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Mindy – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kinky)

SU!– Piercing Set 06 *new*
4. :BAMSE: Personal Choker – Yes Daddy
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves
[The Forge] Kiera (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Phedora ~ Clery boots (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: FOXCITY. Steamy Bento Pose Set
[Bad Unicorn] Bao Backstreet Backdrop

Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Events, Exploration, Fashion, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, shopping

Fish Tales

You know when they have a fishing show on TV? They catch the fish and then let it go. They don’t want to eat the fish, they just want to make it late for something. Mitch Hedberg

Yeah, that’s it for today. It’s Friday, go enjoy your weekend. ♥

fish story

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Jennifer
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee
Blueberry – Lila – Crop & Knot Tie Top
Blueberry – Lila – Wrap Around Sweater
Blueberry – Lila Jeans *new*

pose: WHATEVER – What Size ?
location: omgaw, I don’t remember…*facepalms*

Posted in Catwa, Events, Fashion, Lybra, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, shopping, [ATI] Addicted to Ink

I Don’t Need Your Attitude

We’ve all seen the shirts and bumper stickers that read, “I don’t need your attitude, I have one of my own.” Such a simple saying, but nothing could more true about me personally. I really had to learn the difference between reacting and responding, because once upon a time I had a terrible temper. For instance, I had such bad road rage that I had three incidents that could have turned out terribly wrong.
One time, this mini van cut me off and almost hit me, so I cussed, yelled, honked my horn, and followed her home. Turned out to be my best friend’s mom. We ended up laughing about it and smoking a joint, but I know I got lucky.
Another time, this chick cut me off at the intersection to get in the turning lane that I was already in. Same thing, cussing, yelling, honking my horn…she turned and pulled into a gas station and I followed. We jumped out of our cars ready to fight, until we realized we knew each other. We had dated the same sorry ass loser the year before. Again, I got lucky, though to be fair, I honestly believe that one would have been nothing more than a fist fight.
The third time, I mentioned above was the worst. This man cut me off, I had to swerve into oncoming traffic to avoid getting hit. It was so scary and I was so pissed that again….cussing, yelling, honking the horn….and I followed him…all the way to the daycare where he was going to pick up his kid. Naturally, I just drove up to him said something menacing about how’s he lucky he pulled into a daycare. When he saw the metal pipe in my hand (yes, I fully intended to beat him or his car with it), he quickly apologized and explained that he was running late, he was in a custody battle, blah blah blah.  I didn’t give a rat’s ass why he almost killed me, but that day my boyfriend at the time was in the car.
He went on to tell me that I scared him and he was seriously worried about my temper. It was a few years before I learned to walk away when I get that upset. I have to walk away and let myself process what’s happened. More often than not, its something I can just let go and ignore. Other times its something I have to address and you can bet that when I do, I come out guns blazing….only my guns are loaded with words.

don't need your attitude

wearing:
hair: MINALand Of Rainbows Easter Egg hunt hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee
tattoo: [ATI] Dante.. (*new* @ Darkness Monthly)
LYBRA . HONEY (*new* @ Blush)
SU!- Bento Piercing Set 03
::SG:: RingQueen Mesh Nails

pose: [ATI] Beth set (*new* @ Elite)

Posted in Avenge, Catwa, Events, Exploration, Fashion, Gingerfish Poses, Jian, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Pale Girl Productions, Second Life, shopping, Skin Fair, {le fil casse}

Annie May? Ani Me? Ana Who?

We say, “Oh what a small world” when we run into a friend of a friend, but I think its a great  big world and a there’s a whole lot that I don’t know anything about…like anime. I think its cute. I can appreciate the artistic nature…a genre? I get the appeal, but it has never really kept my attention. That does not mean I can resist the appeal to play dress up! Just so happens, LootBox has quite a few items that are Asian themed this round. So, if you love the stuff, this round was made for you. If you’re like me and just like to play dress up, well….get your butt over there. Have fun!
I just decided to have a little fun of my own in a nifty little Asian market I discovered right outside of chill little club lost in a time warp. Of course, the slurl will be down in the credits.

ana who

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Jennifer (*new* @ The Clique)
hair base: Just Magnetized – Special Hairbase set 05 for CATWA (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [Avenge] Heather skin applier for Catwa – Ivory (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
~Shiny Stuffs~ Hella Good Lashes CATWA Appliers  (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
SU!– Oksana Eyeshadow +CATWA APPLIER+

Dahlia – Claire – Headpiece (*new* @ The Clique)
Dahlia – Claire – Earrings  (*new* @ The Clique)

{le fil casse} Haruna Kimono Top Open Maitreya RARE (*new* @ LootBox)
{le fil casse} Haruna Tie Skirt Maitreya RARE (*new* @ LootBox)

JIAN Nimble Nekomata 16. White Outfit Floater (*new* @ LootBox)

pose: GingerFish Poses – You Can’t Sit With Us set (*new* @ The Clique)

location: Groove One

Posted in CandyDoll, Catwa, Collabor88, Events, Fashion, Gingerfish Poses, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, Uber SL

Exposed

I’m watching this documentary about a girl in Austria that was kidnapped by her father in 1984 and was held captive in the basement for 24 years. He raped and abused her. She gave birth to seven children and none of them had ever left the basement. Of course, upon discovery of all this, the media poured into this little town. His life and his entire family’s life is put under a microscope…exposing every skeleton in all of their closets. They discover that the father had a terrible childhood, but has become even more of a monster than his mother ever way.
This man was so determined in his plan that he essentially built and entire house underneath his real house. I remember as a kid, hearing the horror stories of my father’s childhood and thinking what a monster my grandmother was. Over the years, I grew to suspect that my own father was a serial killer. I’m sure it was just an overactive imagination, but until he dies it would not surprise me to find out that my father committed heinous crimes.
This story, though, is insane. He supposedly raped his daughter over 3000 times over the years. All of her children were delivered in the basement….alone. Her captive gave her a clean towel and a pair of scissors, nothing else. The craziest part of this all is that he had seven other children and a wife living the house above the captive apartment in the ground. They were all completely oblivious to what was going on right under their feet. There’s so much more to the story and if you’re interested the name of the show is Real Crime Chronicles on Amazon Prime. I’m just so saddened that this world is so mad and so many lives are left forever exposed as little more than a show for people like me to watch.
A good friend of mine recently said that he was beginning to lose all hope for humanity. He said this because of how people treat each other in SL, but the truth of the matter is….the entire world is mad and while I refuse to give up on humanity as a whole, I can certainly understand those that do.

exposed

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Mabel (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery] Saska (Catwa Applier) honey
_CandyDoll_ Layla Dress (*new* @ C88)
_CandyDoll_ Layla Boots (*new* @ C88)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Cinema Verite
anxiety %24/7

Posted in Bound Box, Events, Fashion, Foxcity, Kustom9, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Narcisse, ON9, Pale Girl Productions, Second Life, Seven Emporium

Cupid Is a Rapist

So, what’s the deal with Cupid? We chose the God of Date Rape as our symbol for Valentine’s Day? Who makes these decisions? I can bet it wasn’t Gloria Alfred! Okay, calm your tits, I’m just being the asshole on Valentine’s Day because this time last year I was happy it was annoying…*laughs.* So, I’m here to spoil the mood this year or at least twist it around a  bit. Wait, there’s logic to this….just listen. So, cupid, this lil fuckers just goes about shooting people with an arrow that takes away their free will…forcing them to feel desire. Ok, Cupid Cosby, that’s not creepy at all! I tell ya what, Cupid….I’m ready for you….shoot me and I’m ready to shoot back. I’m not going to take your free will, though. You can will it all you want, it’s not going to work again. *grins*

cupid is a rapist

wearing:
Foxcity. Smitten Wreath (*gift* @ Shop Your Heart Out By Linden Labs)
hair: MINA – Maddie (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
Bossie. Y2K eyeshadows  (*new* @ REWIND)
Bossie. Y2K lipsticks & gloss (*new* @ REWIND)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –- MaryJane – Catwa Mesh Head Applier
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Reborn Stronger
Narcisse– Keely Harness (February Bound Box)

pose: FOXCITY. Cupid Bento Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)

7 – Lets Get Physical Neon PINK – Solid

Posted in Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Gos, Home Decor, Lybra, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life

Spank Me

Alright, calm down, I’m not literally asking all of you to come spank me. As much as I do love a good spanking…*blushes*…its just that this dress from Lybra really makes you want to drop something in front of that person you have a crush on, so you gotta bend over and hope that they like what they see. Ok, yeah, maybe I sound like a cat in heat, but whatever you want to call it, we know its going to get someone’s attention. Oh don’t act so coy, you know you know what I’m talking about. I’ve been wanting to do a pose like this with a belt in my mouth and had a hard time finding anything quite like I wanted. Low and behold, ask and ye shall be granted goodness in thy name as called upon the great designer, Lybra Rage, the designer behind Quasi. Not only did he love my request but he made the belt and named it after me. It even comes with a hud. So, with all the Valentine’s stuff going around, the KinkyEvent, the Fetish Fair, not to mention all our favorite regular events like FaMESHed….well, there’s never been no shortage on flirty, sexy, and fun items on the grid. So, when you get done staring at my ass…yeah, I see you….go shopping and get yourself all dolled up for the upcoming day of lovers!♥
As for me? Some couple have Netflix and chill? I have tumblr and toys. *grins*

spank me
How’s that for a hump day post? <eg>

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Audrie  (*new* @ Fetish Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –- MaryJane – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kinky)
Quasi – Sadystika Belt
LYBRA . ELVIRA (*new* @ FaMESHed)
[Gos] Lady G Platform Pumps  (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: FOXCITY. Bad Kitty VOL2 Bento Pose Set

scene:
:CP: Dove Bench
[Commoner] Break-Up Survival Kit / Personal Massager
Dutchie maledom chair 2.0

Posted in Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Jian, Klubwerk.poses, Maitreya, Scandalize, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Snake Charmer

I think we all are pretty familiar with the story about the girl and the snake, right? Or at least some version of it. Sometimes she finds him on a sidewalk, sometimes its a little boy, sometimes it an adult. The gist is always the same. Just in case, I’ve provided a commonly found internet version below. The moral of the story is was tickles me, because most of us will still pick up that damn snake believing that somehow overnight we’ve become a snake charmer and we get bit every single time. I was talking to a close friend of mine the other day and we were talking about life lessons we learned as children. My friend learned by watching family members and being smart enough to figure out who was making the right choices and who was making the wrong choices. Then there’s me…I have had to learn most of my lessons the hardest way possible. I feel like I need some kind of implant to remind me, “Don’t touch the snake!”

Girl and The Snake
A young girl walking along a mountain path to her grandmother’s house heard a rustle at her feet. Looking down, she saw a snake, but before she could react, the snake spoke to her. 
“I am about to die,” he said. “It’s too cold for me up here, and I am freezing. There is no food in these mountains, and I am starving. Please put me under your coat and take me with you.”

“No,” the girl replied. “I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake. And if I pick you up, you will bite me and your bite is poisonous.”
“No, no,” the snake said. “If you help me, you will be my best friend. I will treat you differently.”
The young girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over. She looked at the beautiful markings on the snake and she had to admit he was the most beautiful snake she had ever seen. Suddenly, she said, “I believe you. I will save you. All living things deserve to be treated with kindness.”
She then reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and continued toward her grandmother’s house. Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side. The snake had bitten her!
“How could you do this to me?” she cried. “You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!”
“You knew what I was when you picked me up,” he hissed as he slithered away.

snake charmer

 

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Sanne (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Shiny Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair –- MaryJane – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kinky)
Scandalize. Selena. (*new* @ Fetish Fair)
Scandalize. SelenaBoots (*new* @ Fetish Fair)

pose: Klubwerk.poses -warrior set

scene:
JIAN Ball Python Collection (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-JIAN Ball Python Wanderer
-JIAN Ball Python Plop Static
-JIAN Ball Python Plop Animated
-JIAN Ball Python Habitat (empty)
-JIAN Ball Python Companion