Posted in Catwa, Chic Moda, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, GingerFish, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, shopping

Lift Me Up

This post goes out to my closest friends…my truest friends. I won’t list them by name, because they know who they are  and I’m pretty sure they know how much they mean to me. I can’t imagine where I’d be without them. To be honest, there have been a few times that if not for them…I’m not sure I’d be here. So, this song is for you all and know that I love you so freaking much, whether you’re an asshole or a cunt…you all mean the absolute world to me. ♥
For my readers, I urge you to tell your friends today how much you love them, because you never know how much that little gesture will make. ♥
“I’m trying but I keep falling down
I cry out but nothing comes now
I’m giving my all and I know peace will come
I never wanted to need someone
Yeah, I wanted to play tough, thought I could do all this on my own
But even Superwoman sometimes needed Superman’s soul
Help me out of this hell
Your love lifts me up like helium
Your love lifts me up when I’m down, down, down, when I’ve hit the ground
You’re all I need
And if you let go, I’ll float towards the sun
I’m stronger ’cause you fill me up
But when the fear comes and I drift towards the ground
I am lucky that you’re around”
Helium
wearing:
hair:  MINA – Alison – MINA VIP Halloween excl. group gift
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola
(Yummy) Free Spirit Rings
e.marie  // Unicorn Confetti Set (nails)
ChicModa // Mia Knot Top (*new* @ FaMESHed)
pose: GingerFish Pose – Give Good Face set (*new* @ eBENTO)
***If you are reading this on any site that suggests this post was originally published anywhere but SadyStyle by anyone other than Sadystika Sabretooth, you are reading a stolen post.
Posted in Catwa, Events, Fashion, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Scandalize, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL, vinyl

Uncomfortably Numb

If you are in Second Life and have any type of social media page associated with your avatar’s name, chances are that you’ve read about one designer stealing from another or just selling things illegally. A few months ago, I was crushed when I found out that one of my favorite home & garden stores had been uploading template meshes from external websites and passing them off as her own. I knew something had changed from earlier years, as her poses were no longer lined up. They were clearly tossed in haphazardly and little concern was given to customers that might actually put those animations to use. My immediate reaction was to delete every item in my inventory that I had ever purchased from her. I felt so betrayed. Not only because of all the money I’d spent with her, but because I had spoken with her on several occasions. Each and every time I spoke with her, I would tell her how much I admired her work. Turned out not to be her work at all. Now, in this particular case, she came forward, admitted her wrongs, and subsequently seemed to disappear from all events. Her store is still open, but its been redone completely. I haven’t bothered to check what’s left of her “designs,” because she lost my trust. I have literally spent hundreds of dollars in her store. I will never see that money again. That’s fine, but so far as I know, she won’t see another dime from me, either.
There have been multiple accusations against a popular hair & skin designer on the grid as well. However, in the past when DMCAs have been properly filed against a designer for theft, Linden Labs has been rather prompt in removing both the offending designer and his/her designs. Eventually, all the finger pointing died down and things seem to be going well for that designer. There seems to be no more finger pointing in that direction.
NOW we are being told that one popular hair designer has been stealing from another for over two years! I am mortified and stunned. Once again, I’ve spent hundreds of dollars in this store. I’m sitting here looking at the 70+ folders of hair I’ve purchased from the accused store and I’m left wondering, “Now what?”
I can’t be the only one sitting her uncomfortably numb to the whole designer theft situation wondering where to go from here. Am I obligated to delete all these hairs that I bought in good faith? I’d love to hear how others are dealing with issues like this.

comfortably numb

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Hazel  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber

Kibitz – Deluxe earrings
Scandalize.SABRINA. CAT
Vinyl – Hellershanks Sweater Dress (*new* @ Uber)
Vinyl – Winehouse Tartan Skinnys

pose: Bauhaus Movement – NoisebastardZ set

***If you are reading this on any site that suggests this post was originally published anywhere but SadyStyle by anyone other than Sadystika Sabretooth, you are reading a stolen post.

 

Posted in Catwa, Collabor88, Dahlia, E.V.E, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Home Decor, Landscaping, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, shopping

A Life On Display

These days, its really easy to compare our lives to the lives of others, especially when so many people are constantly making their private lives public. With all these social media friends posting the best bits of their lives, its really easy to slip into a  state of depression. What’s important to remember is that we’re only seeing the highlight reel of those lives. We’re not being shown the 99% of life that isn’t beautiful and wonderful. Often times, what we’re being shown isn’t even real. Those happy family photos? Behind the scenes the kids hate their parents or the happy couple fights. Perhaps one of them is even cheating.
I remember several years ago catching up with a girl from high school on my RL Facebook. Her life looked so amazing. Her photos and descriptions on Facebook made her family look amazing. Two great kids and an adoring husband. The more we hung out the more truths that came out. She was a closet alcoholic having an affair with her ex-boyfriend online at night after her husband and children went to bed. One of her kids was special needs and really difficult to deal with. Her house was a complete mess. To be honest, her whole life was a mess. This was not at all what she portrayed with the photos and stories she presented on social media.
It turned out that she was nothing like the person she had presented herself to be and I couldn’t be around her, knowing that she was lying to the whole world. Honestly, it was the alcoholism and cheating on her husband that I couldn’t condone. I quickly distanced myself from her and started taking a closer look at what people presented on social media. What I learned from all of this is that we simply cannot compare our actual lives with the highlight reels of people we hardly know. It’s dangerous to our psyches and its not realistic.
With our lives on display, we all have a responsibility to be more honest with one another. With that I wish you all much love & laughter. ♥

on display

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Kim (*new* @ X by FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Amber (*new* @ C88)
Wicca’s Wardrobe – Kaenis Lingerie (*new* @ RLD)

scene:
Dahlia – Solitary Confinement Cloche – Gold (*new* @ X by FaMESHed)
***pose used is in the Cloche

E.V.E Dystopia Flowers-Eye Ghost
E.V.E Dystopia Flowers-Eye
E.V.E KOI (MOD) Square Confetti Ring

Posted in Bad Unicorn, Catwa, Cynful, Dahlia, Events, Fashion, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Pose Fair, Prism Events, Salem, Second Life, shopping

The Lucky Ones

I’m going through a really hard time in real life, one of the hardest ever. Yet, I don’t need a drug to escape, thought I won’t deny they help…they are not an option for everyone. That’s a topic for another time. I was just thinking how lucky I am to have this amazing community of like minded people from all over the world. I have so many wonderful friends I can turn to for times like these. That know my story, my situation, they’ve watched it unfold, they’ve shared my triumphs and my failures. The know me, they love me, and they truly do support me.
If you don’t have that in Second Life, I highly recommend you work on some friendships, because no matter how hard things get, I know I’m lucky to have them. We are the lucky ones, because we have each other. So, pardon my language for a minute while I do a quick shout out to the Cunts and the MF’n MF’rs.  Thank you. ♥

cynful dahlia and
“We are the lucky ones
And whatever comes
We are the lucky ones”
~ Kerli – The Lucky Ones

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Annie (*new* @ Hair Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Dee

Dahlia – Winifred – headpiece (*new* @ Salem)
.Swan. Bewitched Kitty Collar (*new* @ Salem)
**RE** Corvino Set (*new* @ Salem)
-**RE** Corvino Earrings
-**RE** Corvino Multistrand Necklace
03. Ascendant – Bridget B. [Finger Gems Black] RARE (*new* @ Salem)
08. Ascendant – Bridget B. [Bento Nails] (*new* @ Salem)
[Cynful] Gracey’s Shrug (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: ::WetCat:: ‘Natalie’ Pose Set Bento (*new* @ Pose Fair)
[Bad Unicorn] Imaginarium Backdrop

 

Posted in Apple Fall, Bueno, Catwa, Eudora3D, Events, Fashion, Foxcity, Home Decor, Maitreya, Second Life, SHADES, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

Vanilla

When I first came into Second Life, back in 2006, I was officially introduced to the Master tag and the entire D/s world. Prior to that, I knew there were fetishes and that people were into bdsm. However, I thought those were just kinks and fetishes. I had no idea they were lifestyles. Over time, I learned the differences between all types of subs and Dom/mes. For the longest time, you really couldn’t go anywhere without seeing some dude wearing a Master tag and a black cape. Now the trend seems to be more focused on Daddy Doms and BabyGirls, or perhaps that’s just where my path has led. However, based on some of the things I see on Facebook, I’m prone to think that those that are not into the bdsm lifestyle are somehow seen as boring. In fact, the term used for those that are not into bdsm is Vanilla. As if to say that Vanilla is a boring flavor.
The truth is, that vanilla is a build block flavor that is in more recipes than most people would realize. The same can be said about sex. I think its funny that so many people in the bdsm community fuss at one another for kinky shaming, as there are some rather extreme kinks out there. Yet, no one really stands up and says, “Ya know what? It’s okay to be Vanilla! It’s ok not to like dirty talk or toys or whips & chains.” There is nothing wrong with Vanilla.
In fact, I’ll take a Vanilla latte over one of those silly pumpkin spice lattes any day! Plus, you can take vanilla ice cream and add stuff to that to make it spectacular. Okay, I’m getting off track and now I want ice cream. Go shopping! I’m going to the kitchen!

Vanilla

wearing:
hair:   MINA – Frankie  (*new* @ Hair Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Dee

BONDI . The Elite Sunglasses (*new* @ Dubai)
BUENO-Sweater Dress (*new* @ Uber)
Eudora3D Haloke Boots&Socks (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

pose: FOXCITY. Show Time Bento Pose Set

scene:
SHADES – Tufted Love Seat (*new* @ Blueprint)
SHADES – Tufted Chair

Kalopsia – Drawer Shelf – Brown
[DDD] Twinkling Ivy – Patch
RARE. DYNASTY – Calligraphy Corner – Backdrop
tb– Bon Voyage – Books
hive // macrame hanging plant . stone
Second Spaces – snow day books – messy stack

Apple Fall Wooden Trunk (Decor)
Apple Fall Althea Rug – Antique Light
Apple Fall Huge Fan Palm
Apple Fall Designer Hat Box
Apple Fall Silver Antiqued Rabbit
Apple Fall Bronze Leaf Apple Branches
Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 1
Apple Fall Tea Tins & Tea Books
Apple Fall Cotton Cluster
Apple Fall Handbag & Scarf
Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 4
Apple Fall Coffee & Muffin
Apple Fall Liberty Sketchbook
Apple Fall ‘iFall’ Notebook 2015
Apple Fall Roses Box (Champagne)
Apple Fall Pinecones & Hazelnuts (*new* for Go by FaMESHed)
Apple Fall Apples w/ Ornamental Stand – Copper (*new* for Go by FaMESHed)
Apple Fall Woodland Deer – Brass (*new* for Go by FaMESHed)
AF Ceramic Chubby Squirrel
Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 3
Apple Fall Grass Pot
Apple Fall Banana Tree

Posted in Catwa, Collabor88, Events, Exploration, Fashion, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, Vanity Event

When the Day Arrives

And when the day arrives I’ll become the sky and I’ll become the sea and the sea will come to kiss me for I am going home. Nothing can stop me now. Trent Reznor

boardwalk

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Carol (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [Glam Affair] Maze Applier [ Catwa ] 007 (*new* @ C88)
piercings: –SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
tattoo: Young Wolf – Black Tattoo [CAROL G]  (*new* @ Vanity Event)
[Z O O M] Cardion Glasses (*new* @ Vanity Event)
.::Nanika::.Arrow Necklace (*new* @ Vanity Event)
CULT : His Princess Rings/Silver (*new* @ Kinky)
Ascendant – Blacks Bento Nails Fatpack – Maitreya (*new* @ The Darkness)
outfit: #LANA // The Lisa Set (*new* @ Vanity Event)
pose: STUN – Pose Pack Collection Bento ‘Samira’ #47 (*new* @ Vanity Event)
location: Baja Bay
Posted in Aphorism, Catwa, Culprit, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Gingerfish Poses, Maitreya, Mesh Body Addicts, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Vanity Event

Make Me Vicious

Halestorm-Vicious

You make me vicious
Watch as I make the pain my mistress
You can call me Miss Malicious
I’ll dress you up in stiches
No I cannot resist this
If it don’t hurt I get suspicious
I like to take the knife and twist it
Babe, our love is sacreligious
I’m not scared to admit it
This violence is delicious
What doesn’t kill me
Makes me vicious
I’m not gonna break, I can take
All that you can give, this is survival
Of the sickest
I am not afraid, bring the pain
Watch out ’cause I’m vicious
And I’m not asking for forgiveness
Yeah I make you go ballistic
Your torture is our business
And I won’t leave a witness
I don’t care if you hate me
‘Cause you’re gonna have to face me
And there’s no use in crying
You know I would be lying if I said you could escape me
What doesn’t kill me
Makes me vicious
I’m not gonna break, I can take
All that you can give, this is survival
Of the sickest
I am not afraid, bring the pain
What doesn’t kill me makes me
Vicious
Vicious
Vicious
Vicious
What doesn’t kill me
Makes me vicious
I’m not gonna break, I can take
All that you can give, this is survival
Of the sickest
I am not afraid, bring the pain
What doesn’t kill me makes me vicious
What doesn’t kill me makes me vicious
What doesn’t kill me makes me vicious
What doesn’t kill me makes me vicious, oh!

Hot Rod

wearing:
hair:  MINA – Raven (*new* @ Fetish Fair)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [Glam Affair] Maze Applier [ Catwa ] 007 (*new* @ C88)
piercings: –SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
!APHORISM! Salvy Playsuit (*new* @ MBA)
[BREATHE]-Mikka Heels (*new* @ FaMESHed)
pose: GingerFish Pose Summer Samba set
scene:
(Milk Motion) road to nowhere – Desert Land
KraftWork Gas Station
Culprit Roadtrip Almighty Decor (*new* @ FaMESHed)
[Black Bantam] My Dear Button Toy Poodle Boy Coal  (*new* @ Vanity Event)
Posted in Avenge, Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fancy Decor, Fashion, Foxcity, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Narcisse, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL, unKindness, [BREATHE]

Selfies or Desire

Okay, so I was struggling with ideas for what to write about with this photo, because this one just kinda happened all on its own. That happens to me a lot. Sometimes I start with looking for a pose to show off an outfit or item and from there I end up building a scene around myself. I just woke up from a nice long sleep and I’m thrashing about for an idea. So, I take the internet and start looking for quotes about selfies and desire. Lord, the quotes about selfies are not very nice. So, with the sexy look of the photo and the neon sign, I decided to look for quotes about desire. Instead of finding something hot or deep, I found myself drawn to quotes that made me chuckle. So, I’m just gonna share a few below, cuz why the hell not?

Every time I look at you I get a fierce desire to be lonesome. Oscar Levant

Boredom: the desire for desires. Leo Tolstoy

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. Robert Frost

On some great and glorious day the plain folks of the land will reach their heart’s desire at last, and the White House will be adorned by a downright moron. H. L. Mencken

one more time

wearing:
hair:   MINA – Carissa (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Myra”
tattoo: [White~Widow] Soorma (*new* @ Dubai Event)
Narcisse– Roxbury Lace up Panties (*new* @ Kinky)
[BREATHE]-Lenora Heels (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: FOXCITY. Selfie VOL2 Bento Pose Set

scene:
Fancy Decor: Roux Collection (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-Fancy Decor: Roux Sideboard (white)
-Fancy Decor: Roux Facial Mist
-Fancy Decor: Roux Lotion Bottle
-Fancy Decor: Roux Sink
-Fancy Decor: Roux Soap Tray
-Fancy Decor: Roux Mirror
-Fancy Decor: Roux Towel Holder

uK – Posh Living Settee Cloud GA (*new* @ Uber)

[Avenge] Hold me, Kiss me, Love neon – purple (*new* @ Limit8)

Posted in breathe, Bueno, Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Jian, Maitreya, Mina Hair, Second Life, shoes, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative, Uber SL

Power of Pets

Pets can be expensive at times, particularly if you have one with special needs or that gets sick a lot, but they’re still cheaper than actual children. *laughs* They don’t require babysitters when you leave the house for a few hours, either. The most beneficial part of having a pet is the power of that unconditional love. They become part of our family. There have been endless studies about how pets help with anxiety and ptsd, not to mention all the other stuff that dogs alone can do. I’m not going to regurgitate information that we all know about pets already. I was just thinking how grateful I am for my furbabies and how no matter what kind of pet you have, you can have a genuine bond with them. Also, anyone that says animals don’t have souls….well, if you’re on my list, just unfriend me, cuz you’re clearly an idiot. *giggles* Okay, I’m only half kidding, I have plenty of stupid friends, we’re cool even if you’re wrong. *smirks*

save 15

wearing:
hair: MINA – Sandra (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Viktoria Applier
BUENO-Coral Romper (*new* @ Uber)
[BREATHE]-Kiko Heels (*new* @ Arcade)
JIAN Leopard Gecko (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: Bauhaus Movement – Let The Beat Drop set (*new* @ The Liaison Collaborative)

scene:
BUENO-Classical-White (*new* @ Arcade)
uK – Orange Bloom Dining Table (*new* @ The Liaison Collaborative)
uK – Orange Bloom CenterPiece (*new* @ The Liaison Collaborative)
uK – Orange Bloom Seat v4 (*new* @ The Liaison Collaborative)

Posted in Avenge, Catwa, Events, Fashion, Jian, Kaithleen's, Mina Hair, Second Life, Shiny Shabby, shopping, Uber SL

Not This Time

Each time  some one hurts me, each time my heart is broken, and left scarred…it gets harder and harder to even believe in true love, at least not for me. My close friends know what a hard time I’m having in the real these days. Yes, SL is my escape. Yes, my real life is pretty sad and a whole lot of scary right now. My husband and I have been separated but sharing a home for over two years. He had his room, I had mine. There were times that I was hopeful that we might could work it out. He has recently moved out and moved in with the woman with whom his affair was the end of our marriage.
There are times when I am grateful for what I have and do my best to stay positive. There are times that I take great comfort in violent fantasies. Most of all I wake up each day disappointed that it not just a bad dream. This nightmare is my reality.
I’m dealing with a grocery list of health issues that will never get better. I live in constant physical pain. I’m not writing this to complain or whine. I’m writing this to explain why I’ve decided to live the remainder of my days as a free spirit. I refuse to be tied down to things I no longer believe in.
I never wanted to get married, because I’ve never seen a successful marriage. I suck at relationships, ask any of my exes, they’ll agree. I can and do love, very deeply. Its being loved that I struggle with and it never fails that the minute I start to believe that I might just be worthy of that same love in return that I am proven wrong, each and every time. I’ve been drawn to relationships all my life. I hate feeling lonely, but the truth is…I’m not alone. I have some wonderful friends. That’s all I need. I will not seek out another romantic relationship, not this time.
Yes, I am broken, but I am broken beyond mending. I’ve accepted that and the people that I’m closest to are aware of it, too. I’ve accepted my plight and learning to let go of a dream is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I’m awake now. I won’t repeat my mistakes again and again…not this time…well, not for a very long time, at least. *sighs* I really mean this stuff when I say it, you know?
Deva, stop laughing. Dusty, stop rolling your eyes…I swear they’re going to roll right out of your head one day. Sora, distract him, will ya? Tracy, Grace, Kess….you cunts, just shut the hell up. *sighs* I hear you giggling, Luca. Ame, whoop her, will ya? Nikole, get the duct tape, you get it, right?
4in1
We started out as lonely hearts
We started with a promise built on highs
You said I was the missing part
Looked into my eyes said
“You’re my fix for life”

wearing:
hair: MINA – Noah  (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Viktoria Applier
[Avenge] Rosary necklace double (F) – pearls (*new* @ MOM)
JIAN Chinchilla :: Hand Held
Kaithleen’s Irina Top (*new* @ ShinyShabby)

pose: an lar [poses] The Cordelia Series
taikou / summer night backdrop (*new* @ Uber)