Posted in Bueno, Cosmopolitan, Events, Fashion, Kustom9, ON9, Scandalize, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Extra! Extra!

Once upon a time, kids would stand on street corners selling newspapers while yelling, “EXTRA! EXTRA! Read all about it!” They might even go so far as to toss out the title of the story on the front page. These days we get our news from a variety of electronic devices. So, I figured my best bet was to sit pretty on the ATM machine…that should get your attention, right?
Its Friday and I think most of us are feeling pretty good about that! There’s been lots of events just waiting for us to get paid. There’s an endless array of retail therapy, so no matter how bad your week has been, relief is in sight! Its also the weekend that Cosmo switches things up, so if you want to grab this cute little number from Scandalize go on over and grab it tonight. It might be a few days before it makes it to the mainstore. In the meanwhile, you can hit up Kustom9 for that beautiful variety they continue to deliver. Bueno has surprised us with a diverse set of backdrops and phones!
I hope you all have a great weekend and Happy Shopping!♥

feeling sassy

wearing:
hair: *Besom~ Claire (October  Luxe Box)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
Scandalize. Sally. Maitreya (Cosmopolitan until Oct 21)
Scandalize. Sally WARMS. Maitreya (Cosmopolitan until Oct 21)
[VALE KOER] HERMES KICKS

pose: FOXCITY. Bad Kitty VOL2 Bento Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)
BUENO-Night Life-Street Build Scape (*new* @ Kustom9)

Posted in Events, Fashion, Lybra, Prism Events, Salem, Second Life, shopping

My Zodiac Sign- #SecondLifeChallenge

I had so much fun doing Strawberry Singh’s challenge last week, that I decided to do it again this week. Today we’re doing the Zodiac challenge. In her blog, she states:
“Here are the instructions for the #SecondLifeChallenge this Monday: Copy and paste the following questions and answers into your post; then delete my answers and input your own. Don’t forget to leave a comment below with a link to your post so we can all come by and check it out!”

  1. What is your Zodiac sign?: (You don’t need to share your birth date if you don’t want to and if you want to do this using your Second Life avatar, you can use the rez date of your avatar.) My birthday is October 6 and I’ve always agreed that I’m very much a Libra.
  2. Do you believe in Astrology and read your horoscope often?: I do think there’s something to Astrology. However, generic horoscopes based on signs alone are bogus. There’s actually some science behind Astrology that can be really crazy accurate, but for that you’d need an accurate chart done. For that, the person creating the chart will need to know not just your birth-date, but the time, and location. All of that plays into a true astrological reading.
  3. What are some of the traits of your zodiac sign and do you feel they reflect who you are?: I am going to copy and paste the traits from the site that Strawberry shared, except for Libra and like her, I’m going to compare:
    1. Strengths: Cooperative, diplomatic, gracious, fair-minded, social – I’d like to believe these are true. Though I wish I were MORE diplomatic, for sure.
    2. Weaknesses: Indecisive, avoids confrontations, will carry a grudge, self-pity-I guess most of this is true. Although, some would say I do carry a grudge, I really don’t. Its just that once I’m done with someone, I’m done. I don’t walk around hating them or even thinking much about them at all. If they cross my path or someone brings them up, I might say something negative, but grudge? Hmmm, I’m not big on carrying resentments around me with. I just let go.
    3. Libra likes: Harmony, gentleness, sharing with others, the outdoors-This is very true, especially in the fall. I absolutely adore being outside in the cool autumn air…the leaves rustling in the wind. Yes, I’d say all of this is true.
    4. Libra dislikes: Violence, injustice, loudmouths, conformity-Absolute truth here. Ok, there are some exceptions to the violence. I don’t like real violence, but I do enjoy violent films and I quite often have violent fantasies about stabbing bitches in the face or punching men in their throats. *grins*

I’m curious if my friends would agree with the traits listed. They know me pretty well and could definitely tell you if these are true about me or not. And to continue following Berry’s lead….I’m going to try my hand at the Buzzfeed quiz as well. Here’s the link:
Can We Accurately Guess Your Zodiac Sign Based On How You Describe Yourself?
And it ended up being right:

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last dance

wearing:
hair: Moon. // Babeh (October  Luxe Box)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
^^Swallow^^ Darkness Ears (*new* @ Black Fair)
LYBRA . Sorcery (*new* @ Salem)

pose & backgroun w/ribbons: Sari-Sari – Puppet Skybox

Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Jian, Kustom9, Phedora, Scandalize, Second Life, Tres Chic

Walking The Birds

People looked at her strangely as she and her cat paraded about carrying birds that would fly about only to return to their perches upon them. She didn’t find it at all strange to take her birds for a walk and neither did her cat. Even the other birds would look at them strangely, but she couldn’t understand why it was such an odd thing to be walking the birds. *giggles*

walk the birds

wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Bella. (*new* @ Kustom9)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
Scandalize. Danyele (*new* @ TresChic)
Phedora ~ Selma Flats ~ 28c V2
JIAN Green Cheek Conure Companion (*new* @ FaMESHed)
JIAN Chubby Cat Bird Bus Companion (September Luxe Box)

pose: FOXCITY. Mannequin Bento Pose Set
location: Tranquil Bay

Posted in Events, Fashion, Kustom9, Mina Hair, N21, Phedora, Pretty Mess, Second Life, Seven Emporium, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

Night Air

There’s just something magical about night air, particularly around 9pm. The dark sky, the shadows, the temperature is dropping, and a perfect night would have a nice cool breeze. I can only assume that my fondness for this time of night has to do with my memories of working at the mall in my very reckless 20s. The mall closed at 9pm sharp and unless you worked in one of the restaurants or major department stores, you were out of there no later than 9:15pm. There’s a sense of community among mall employees. We’ve all dealt with the screaming kids, the obnoxious tweens, the confused parents, and lost elderly. We all worked in retail. It’s only 9:15pm…the night is young…we would hang out in the parking lot, smoke cigarettes, and make plans on where to meet up in an hour or two. The party would soon start.
Even now all these years later, I still feel that sense of freedom if I just so happen to be outside around that time of night and just the right breeze blows over me. It’s funny, its not something I’d thought I’d remember or reminisce about someday.

take a break

wearing:
hair: MINA – Lily (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: *Moon Tattoo* HENNA BIG

.random.Matter. – Taeyeon Earrings – Onyx (*new* @ N21)
[ kunst ] – Cigarette & holder
[FORMANAILS] NAILS – SKULL – BENTO – MAITREYA

Pretty Mess – Brittney Tank (*new* @ Uber)
BlueberryLuxe Box August – Skirt
Phedora ~ Crysta Boots ~ Maitreya Exclu. ~ 28 C v2 (*new* @ N21)

pose by LePoppycock
ninety – Garage cute Sweet places #12 (*new* @ Kustom9)
7 – Fresh Donuts

Posted in CandyDoll, Events, Fashion, Second Life, shoes, shopping

The White Dress

She hated taking the subway so late at night, but she had to get home. She had work tomorrow and there’s no way she’d find a cab at this hour. This is what she gets for going out on a work night. Ugh, the subway always smelled like urine and body odor. She dreaded the train coming to rush that stink into her nostrils, almost as much as she dreaded getting on the train at this hour. There was no way she was sitting on those filthy seats in her white dress. She had managed to keep drinks from spilling on it all night and she’d be damned if she was going to mess it up on her way home.
As she walked down the stairs, she rolled her eyes to herself, why is there always a hooker passed out down here? At least the people didn’t look too shady, maybe she could manage this without getting mugged after all. Yeah, she’d be fine, but her could feel an anxiety attack coming on. She reached in her purse for a Xanax and some strawberry lip-gloss. At least the smell of the lip-gloss with help with the stench of this place.
She managed to make it home without incident. Locking her door, she dropped her purse on the entrance table and made her way to the kitchen for a glass of wine before bed. She made her way to the bedroom and just as she was about to set her wine down, the cat hopped up on the nightstand startling her and the red wine splashed down the front of her dress.

subway

wearing:
hair: Lamb. Drive (August ’17 Luxe Box)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
ISON – michelle dress (August ’17 Luxe Box)
_CandyDoll_ Fate Boots (*new* @ Blush)

pose by Foxcity

scene:
*Drot* Subway Station – RARE
*Drot* Wet Floor Sign
*Drot* Barrel Standard
*Drot* Subway Trashcan
and various mesh NPCs I found on MP

Posted in Cynful, Events, Fashion, Second Life, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative

Don’t Do It! Just Don’t!

I’ve written before about how much I love bikinis in Second Life and one of the reasons is because you wouldn’t catch me dead in one in Real Life! *laughs* I’ll hardly put on a swimsuit at all these days. The last time I went swimming in RL I was stoned and in a friend’s backyard. Why? Because I’m ashamed of my body. I hate it. I am overweight and I have a lot of scars. All it took was one summer at the pool for me to overhear some women laughing and going on about how my fat, pale ass shouldn’t be allowed at the pool. I stayed in the water just kinda hiding in a corner of the pool until they left. I suffered a horrible sunburn, but I didn’t want to hear their ugly remarks again when I got out and I wasn’t going to let them see me cry.
I realize I shouldn’t let people have such power over me, but let it happen to you and let’s see how well you handle it. Good for you if you can handle it better than I did. I envy those that are not bothered by such things. So, in SL I choose to look how I wish I did in RL. Yes, I’d love to be fit…a little thick, I don’t want to be model thin and I’ve got more than enough fat to deal with in RL. Sadly, the fact that we can look however we want in SL, yet still people want to shame each other for how they CHOOSE to look. No one in SL just happens to look that way. No one’s avi is suffering from an eating disorder. The way our avatars look is purely our choice.
I admit that I’ve seen some avatars and just shook my head. I don’t get it. I don’t understand why people choose to look a certain way and yes, perhaps a few comments in IMs with friends, but certainly never anything out loud and to their face. I think that is incomprehensible. Its bullying at its finest. Body shaming in either world is terrible. Its one thing to laugh among your friends at the girl whose butt looks like it at Tokyo or the guy whose eyes are so far apart he looks like an alien, but its entirely different to go up to them and accuse them of mental illness, being sick, or any other degrading remark that makes you feel that your choices are better than theirs. Its actually wrong for us to even make little remarks in IMs, but we are human and its going to happen. You can do it tactfully with your friends quietly or you can keep your mouth shut entirely, but to call someone out for the choices they make about their avatar’s appearance is flat out wrong. Its no different from any other type of hate speech. Its bullying. Period. I cannot stress that enough.
We come here to live a life we can’t live in the real world, at least most of us do. Luckily there are incredible designers to assist us in looking our best, as well. Unlike the real world, where often times the plus size department looks more like someone threw out Grandma’s curtain collection. So, when you find yourself thinking, “WTF?” as you see an avatar that bewilders you, please for the love of humanity, do not approach that person with hatred. If you’ve got nothing nice to say to them, say nothing. Do NOT bully or body shame one another in a virtual world. Don’t Do It! Just Don’t! Think how you’d feel if someone said such things to you or someone you love. Please be kind to one another. There is far too much hate in this world already.

cynful bikini

wearing: 
hair
:  Exile: Fake Magic
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Molly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – America (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Cynful Heat Bikini (June Luxe Box)

pose: Le Poppycock *Stay Cool* First Dip (*new* @ TLC)
scene:
Trompe Loeil – Geonna Patio + Pool PG
Vagabond – Sandy’s Towel Tote
{what next} Palisades Drinks Tray

Posted in Animals, Chic Moda, Events, Exploration, Fashion, Kustom9, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping

All Monsters May Be Human

I was talking to a dear friend last night about a video where humans were cuddling and kissing wild animals, like alligators, bears, and big cats. We talked about how crazy they were, but then I said, “Ya know, I think I have about as much trust in wild animals as I do in humans these days.” Of course, in the wake of what’s happened in Manchester, its certainly disheartening to think, that we as humans would create such misery for one another.  Not just on the grand scale of terrorism either, but it got me to thinking about this documentary series I’ve been watching on Netflix about this priest that molested hundreds of children that trusted him and turned to him for help. Which led me to think about all the horrible things that humans do to other humans. At least when I’m face to face with a wild animal, I know there’s a risk of him eating my face or ripping my limbs from my body. Then there are the humans that we love and/or trust…parents, family members, friends, lovers, authorities…we put our faith in them and open our hearts. When they betray us that broken trust is devastating.
We used to tell our children to trust police officers and clergy members, but I can’t help but wonder how many people would tell their children that now? I know I certainly wouldn’t. I’m not even sure I could suggest that they trust anyone but me. Luckily I do not have children, for I’m sure I’d pass my jaded mistrust on to them and it would only make life more difficult.  I don’t recommend that people go about not trusting anyone and I do try very hard to remain positive. After-all, in the aftermath of the Manchester bombing, there were a lot of people that offered help to those affected…whether they were emergency workers, injured, or simply unable to get home. Again, its those people that remind me that while all monsters may be human, so are the truest angels.

all monsters are human_001

wearing:
hair*ARGRACE* TSUMUGI
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skinGlam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Kustom9)

Tee*fy Jenna Tube  Top (Luxe Box May)
ChicModa // Aly Skirt ( BishBox May)
#EMPIRE – Chrysanthemum (Luxe Box May)

pose by Bauhaus Movement edited with AnyPose

props:
Jaguar Prowling – Mesh – Full Perm by Just Animals
Jaguar Standing – Mesh – Full Perm by Just Animals

location: Whole Wheat

Posted in Events, Fashion, Kustom9, Phedora, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping, ULTRA

Stick a Knife In It

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~Mohandas Gandhi

This is a lesson that took me ages me to learn. I had to learn that I had more power over how I feel than anyone else. I had to learn that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. I had to learn that holding onto resentments is like carrying rocks in my pocket and that each resentment I carry is just another rock. How many rocks must one soul carry until they learn to start letting them go? I had to learn that anger is a secondary emotion. Its one we choose, because its more comfortable than the fear and/or pain behind it. There will be some that read this and disagree, but that simply means they haven’t learned these lessons yet. Some never will. I know these things to be true. I know them to be as true as my weight and the scars on my skin.
Learning to forgive, despite the pain and/or fear certainly is not easy. It doesn’t mean you have to find love in your heart for those that have scorned you. It means you have to find love in your heart for yourself. Enough love to stop giving more power to those that hurt you. It means taking the power away from those that do not deserve it. I recently found out that someone that I once counted among my closest friends has been telling lies about me. He’s told innumerable people that I was trying to sleep with him and that’s why he quit being my friend. Those that know me…that really know him…they know that simply isn’t true, but there are plenty of people out there that are listening and believing his lies. It hurt. It still does, but there’s nothing I can do about him, his lies, or those that choose to believe him, except forgive him and let it go.
Will I ever trust him again? Will I ever be his friend again? Of course not. Learning to forgive and let go does not color me a fool. It simply strengthens me and lightens the load on my soul. I will never understand his reasons for that lie. He could have simply told the truth. We had an argument, we both felt the other person was unreasonable and he chose to walk away rather than talk it out. He could have said that I threw the friendship away, as that may very well have been his understanding of the situation. However, he chose to spread rumors and lies about me instead. Again, I admit that it hurt.
By forgiving him, I drop those rocks of resentment with his name on them, and I lighten the load on my soul. In the end, I am the stronger one, because by lightening my spiritual load I strengthen it at well. He is but one example of how people have stabbed me in the back. There are many others, but I must forgive them, as well. For its my spirit that I must care for and it is my responsibility to lighten that load. I have far more serious matters going on in my life that worrying about this man and his lies or anyone else that chooses to hate me for no genuine reason. So, to him I say, “I forgive you, here’s my back, stick a knife in it if you must, but you will NOT break my spirit or rape my soul.”

 

hide n seek

wearing:
hair: /Wasabi Pills/ Apple Mesh Hair (*new* @ ULTRA)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow] TwinPeaks II – Black (*new* @ Enchantment)
_CandyDoll_ Megan Panties Black (*new* @ Rewind)
Phedora ~ Melissa Strappy heels  (*new* @ Kustom9)
JIAN Jack Russel Terrier :: Companion (Luxe Box May)

pose by Del May

backdrop: RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Cube Photostudio (*new* @ 6 Republic)

Posted in Chic Moda, Events, Fashion, N21, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Arguing With a Cat

There’s no trick and you won’t win. So, let’s get that out of the way right now. I’ve had cats my whole life, at every age. I’ve had cats from kittens until they died at 18yrs old. My cats are loved and always spoiled. Mr Mayhem is no exception. However, I’ve never had a cat quite like Mr Mayhem. He yells at me constantly. You see, he’s extremely vocal and the epitome of the cattitude. He comes in from outside early in the morning, he has to tell me all about his day. He wants me to ask questions and interact, all the while preparing his canned food. It almost feels like I’m having a conversation, but then he yells at me. His meows get so loud that I can’t hear myself think! If he wants to go back outside and no one has made a move for the door? Watch out…you know that gorgeous little bronze statue of The Thinker? Yeah, that got knocked right off the mantel and busted to shards. Why? Oh, because the humans decided that Mr Mayhem should stay inside that night. It was storming afterall. Ok, so the living room is off limits. I’ll close him up in the bedroom with me. He’ll eventually tire himself out and go to sleep, right? Well, yes, but just about an hour after I’ve fallen asleep he wakes up fully charged and ready to go! He’ll start small by climbing on shelves he knows he shouldn’t be on. He’ll knock a pen off the desk, maybe even the mouse. When that doesn’t work, he climbs the bookshelf that takes up an entire wall. Well, there are far too many fragile items on there and my favorite skulled coffee mug. It was huge and gorgeous and held all sorts of neat little things. But alas, that mug has met with Mr Mayhem and ultimately its doom Oh great, the little gangster cat is crying at the door right now. Oh that’s right, he’s so loud we can hear him in the house far from the front door….when he’s at that very door wanting to come in. *sighs* There is no arguing with this cat. I surrender. The human shall do his bidding. *goes off the let him in…and feed him…and discuss his adventures*

Meow!

wearing:
hair:   Lamb. Teenager (April Luxe Box)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  .::Nanika::.Olga tattoo

.random.Matter. – Cermet Collar – Do Not Feed [Black] (*new* @ N21)
ChicModa // Kat T-Shirt Dress // BishBox April 2017

pose:  DelMay Ship shape-ly

backdrop: MINIMAL – Illusion II – *7* (*new* @ Epiphany)
Mutresse-Pissed off-Witty Cats

Posted in Bloom, Events, fri.day, Klubwerk.poses, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping

Have Some Fun

Anyone that’s friends with me on Facebook could know what sort of hijinx I got into last night. To be honest, circumstances in RL are a bit peculiar for me at the moment. So, I most certainly did wake & bake. Its going to be a relaxed, fun day for me, because this afternoon I’ll be hosting two older ladies coming off of a roadtrip. You see, my mother and my uncle’s widow will be coming back from my Aunt’s funeral this afternoon. My mother hasn’t stopped crying since the day before Easter when he sister passed away. Awww, don’t be too sad. Don’t celebrate or anything, but…my aunt lived a very full life. She traveled the world…as recently as two years ago…she was in London. Apparently my uncle wanted fish n chips every day. She was the mother of three pretty impressive kids, even if the one in Africa is a waste of space. (story for another day)
She’s been a grandmother for more than 20 years. In fact, she was a great grandmother. She lived in the mountains, bears literally climbed around on her house, but never once hurt them nor did they find any mutilated deer, regardless of how many hung about her house waiting for food. Think of a religious, slightly backwoods Disney film…*nods*
So, see? She had a pretty decent life. All in all, I’d say it was pretty successful.
With all of that said, I am just wanting to have some fun before my elders arrive home-ish from their 9hr-one way, crappiest reason ever, roadtrip. I know I need to have some food ready, but that’s about 10hrs from now…so in the meantime….*eyes her magic cookie*…thank goodness, Eli didn’t find it!

have some fun

wearing:
hair:  Moon. Hair. // Elusory (April Luxe Box)
head: CATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Tres Blah – Kiki Dress (April Luxe Box)
fri. – Buffy Sandals (*new* @ Bloom)

pose by KlubWerK.poses

:Fanatik Architecture: LISBON Straight A
Delia’s Hopscotch chalk drawing