Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Gos, Maitreya, RunAway Hair, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

I’m Offended

April Fool’s Day has come and gone. It’s the one day of the year that we’re expected to relax and expect bad to epic pranks. I’ve seen all sorts of prank wars on YouTube between couples that are far more tolerant than I would ever be. I’ve seen women smashing Xboxes….those things are freaking expensive! Let someone bash in my PC as a joke! I don’t care if they had a backup or a brand new better PC….that’s cash money, yo! For years, I’ve pranked my mother by claiming to see a spider somewhere near her. Hell, I even did that shit over the phone and she still feel for it. Yeah, she cusses me out every year, but that’s how I know I got her.

There are certain pranks that are just classics, especially now with most people locked into social media. People will announce they’re getting married, divorced, a new job, pregnant, car crash, etc. Now, rarely does anyone fake a death or some deadly disease, but when they do its usually someone famous and they can get away with it. Now, most of these jokes are so common that I hardly even find them amusing, unless presented in a very unique way. What I have not witnessed until this year (doesn’t mean it didn’t happen) was someone getting so bent out of shape over a public prank on social media that they took it upon themselves to rant about said joke and how it offended them. Naturally, there were people ready and willing to jump on the offended bandwagon. To be fair, there were also a handful of people defending the offensive joke.

Here’s the the filtered tea. The joke was a pregnancy announcement. Several people fell for it and that made it funny to me. The person offended apparently couldn’t have kids or had recently lost a child during pregnancy. I honestly can’t remember the details, because the comments on both threads had my head spinning. Eventually, the joker, being a truly wonderful person, resended her joke and apologized to all of FB. Thus, the offended, also a wonderful person, took down her rant.

Ok, so here’s why it bothered me. I honestly don’t get why this was so offensive. I can’t have kids. I had two miscarriages, but swore I’d never try again. I couldn’t deal with the idea of getting my hopes up and losing another one. I absolutely hate the very idea of baby showers and I refuse to go them, because they upset me so badly. Just receiving an invitation can make me cry sometimes. However, I would NEVER lash out, publicly OR privately, over being invited. I wouldn’t dream of making it about me. I simply accept it as part of life and decline the invite with one excuse or another. I don’t even tell them that real reason I can’t go is that I’m not mentally stable enough to sit through someone else’s joyous occasion because it triggers so much personal pain. Hell, I’ve had to endure work baby showers that sent me to the bathroom to calm down. So, to rain all over social media because an innocent joke triggered you? Well, here’s the thing…once that shit is out there, people have seen it. I guarantee someone has a screen shot of it and friends were lost over this stupid joke. Now the whole world knows how sensitive you are and how easily you’re triggered….and quite frankly, it made a mountain out of mole hill. We as humans have got to stop being so easily offended. We can’t take everything so personally. I personally find it exhausting and I understand that sometimes stuff bothers us deeply, but not everything is meant for social media. It simply creates a rift between people that wasn’t necessary. So, please, if you’re truly offended by someone’s behavior….perhaps you should approach the person offending you, but take sometime to think it over. Is this something that offends you personally? Was the offensive thing aimed at you specifically? I mean, just think about it. Most of us are adults, let’s start acting like it. Because quite frankly, I’m offended by every Tom, Dick, and Sally walking around with chips on their shoulders just waiting to be offended so they can rant all over social media about it. So, there…your overt sensitivity offends me. How you like them apples? (and ffs, don’t take this as a direct assault…it fits a gazillion scenarios….I think both women are beautiful and amazing, it was just one of those things, ya know?)

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I’ll be on the roof smoking, let me know when its over.

wearing:
hair:  [RA] Tashie Hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia
tattoo: IDTTY Body Shop – Feline Gaze

[NikotiN] Rainbow_Black RARE
[ kunst ] – Alexandra collar
amias – NADIA gloves RARE
Ascendant – Pride Week Nails
:::insanya::: TubeTop – Solid
Blueberry – Group Gift – Joggers
[Gos] Marie Ankle Boots (*new* @ Uber)

pose: FOXCITY. Thoughts Bento Pose Set (*new* @ Uber)

Posted in Bad Unicorn, Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Narcisse, Pale Girl Productions, Second Life, shopping, Skin Fair, [ATI] Addicted to Ink

Let’s Go Crazy

Sometimes the world just doesn’t make sense. I think it’s pretty clear that I’m not the picture of perfect mental health. I’m not sure there even is such a thing to be honest. Hell, mental health has been called all sorts of names throughout history.  Even the names of disorders change….what once was called manic depressive is not called bi-polar. Why? Why did they change the name? Manic depressive was spot on. I think everyone and anyone can catch that disorder on the right day or wrong day as the case might very well be.
Seriously, think about it for a minute.  You are having a great day. You slept great, you woke up right before your alarm went off. The weather is your favorite kind of day. Everything is going well. Catching all the green lights in traffic. Errands go great, you even saved some money unexpectedly. You come home, dinner is great….you slip into your favorite PJs…you’re set. You’re happy as you can be….then it happens. You get a tragic phone call. Something awful has happened to someone you love and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. You’re alone with this awful news. That’s going to be a helluva a mood swing, don’t you think?  Say the reverse happens. Whole day has been shit. Slept like shit, overslept, bad hair day, pouring down rain, you get stuck in traffic…you get home, burn dinner…then unexpectedly your best friend calls. She’s coming over and she’s bringing pizza. Your whole day just got better in an instant. Mood swing. *shrugs* Must be bi-polar.
Ever just felt so damn lazy, you just didn’t even want to get out of bed? Ever just want to stay in bed all weekend, veg out with the remote and some junk food? Ever just do it, cuz you want to? Well, you must be depressed, you can’t even drag your ass out of bed. I’m in no way minimizing any diagnosis. I’m more than fully aware that there are varying degrees of each legitimate disorder. I’m not even suggesting to know what is and isn’t legitimate….I’m not a psych-anything….well, maybe psycho, but that’s about where my expertise ends. I’m sure not yelling at Matt Lauder about how mental health is a hoax, while clearly proving that it is very real.
I’m just saying, that the world doesn’t always make sense. So, if you’re a little crazy…so what? Be crazy. Be you. Love drama? Do it up. Hate drama? Stay away from it. Wanna dance? Crank up the music and dance. Who cares? We all have to get through this thing called life one way or another…so if you’re not crazy….why not? C’mon, let’s all go crazy.

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Are we gonna let the elevator
Bring us down, oh, no let’s go
Let’s go crazy, let’s get nuts
Look for the purple banana
‘Til they put us in the truck, let’s go
All excited but we don’t know why
Maybe it’s ’cause we’re all gonna die
And when we do, what’s it all for
Better live now before the grim reaper
Come knocking on your door

wearing:
hair: tram H0210 hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: LOTUS. Louise Skin Applier 04 (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
tattoo: [ATI] Simon.(*new* @ Elite)
EF: Springleaf Earrings (*new* @ FaMESHed)
EF: Springleaf Necklace (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Narcisse– Nelly Lace up Dress (*new* @ Kinky)

pose: [ Focus Poses ] Naughty Chair 2
[Bad Unicorn] 02 Hype-Beast Backdrop

LOTUS. Louise Skin (*new* @ SKIN FAIR)
:::insanya::: JennaShorts – Solid (*new* @ Whore Couture)
pose by an lar
Lotus

Posted in Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Shadows

“Memories of shadow’s haunt me,
From the years when I was young,
Things that used to terrify me,
Are the things, That I’ve become”
~Yelawolf’s Shadows ft Joshua Hedley

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This song was released in perfect time for the Halloween holiday and as haunting as the music is, the lyrics are equally haunting. They inspired me to stop and just think about how many things I said I’d never be, yet here I am those very things. Kinda makes me wonder if the reason things that used to terrify me where sort of an intuitive look at my future and my mortality. Although, I cannot remember a time that I was afraid to die. I’m not a thrill seeker, mind you. I’ve just simply never been afraid to die, which to some seems particularly strange because I am not the least bit religious.
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Anyway, its a great song and I hope you’ll give it a listen. Perhaps you can listen as you wander about the Bloody Horror Fair, because if there’s any event out there to get you in the mood for Halloween and all things deliciously dark…this is the one! I found myself wandering about there late last night. I stumbled across this super comfy hoodie from Annex that is very similar to one I had in RL years ago.
As always there are multiple events going on across the grid and this shopping junkie tries her best to find her way through them all!

wearing:
/Wasabi Pills/ Dakota Mesh Hair
CATWA HEAD Gwen
CATWA Mesh Eyes
Glam Affair – Pia Applier ( Catwa / Tumble ) America 02
Izzie’s – Catwa Dark Metallic Eyeshadows Appliers
.:E.A.Studio:. Piercing Bare Code Silver
[BODY FACTORY] LX Necklace (Black)
The Annex – Raven Hoodie – Skeleton (*new* @ Bloody Horror Fair)
**RE** Bad-Kitty Gloves Pack 2 – RARE
:::insanya::: Ripped Leggings HC
Pure Poison – Raysa Boots   (*new* @ Uber)

poses by Bauhaus Movement
location: Whole Wheat

Posted in Events, Exploration, Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Results

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. ~Willie Nelson

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I first became aware of the power of positive thinking in high school. I had changed schools mid year in the eleventh grade. It was the first time I had ever changed schools mid year. My parents had always been very careful about that and despite that high school being the eighth school for me, it was still a first. To be honest, it was something I had always wanted to do and finally my parents divorce was allowing me this privilege. A few months after that another girl was transferred to my final public school and we were instant friends. She called it PMA, Positive Mental Attitude. I had never heard of it and it began to change my life.
Like most teenagers, I was convinced that my life was the most tragic of them all. Little did I know how truly sheltered my life had been. The amount abuse inflicted upon me by my father was merely a foundation for the damage I would do to myself later in life. It was nothing compared to what others would do to me later. Yet, in moment of lucidity, I would draw upon that PMA that learned about in high school and it ALWAYS brought change…positive change.
It’s not always easy to maintain that positive mental attitude, but its a lot easier than allowing yourself to be sucked into an undertow of negativity and toxicity. I write a lot about walking away from toxic people and taking control of your life to keep those negative people out. However, I know that I am my own worst critic and I believe that most of us are like that. There are boundless articles online about maintaining a positive attitude and the power of positive thinking. I won’t bother writing all of that out. I merely encourage you all to seek out at least one article about it and try it for yourself.
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Now about these photos! I saw this hair on Flickr and had to hunt it down. Its such a fun style and so versatile. I femmed it up a bit, but imagine all the ways you could enhance a role play outfit. Which is what I started off doing by pairing it with this Feral dress by Cellar Door, but then my own style kicked in and before you know it…tadaaa…I had paired it with these adorable stockings and retro heels and yeah…here I am!
If you’re like me, you love to explore the grid and part of exploring is finding great places to take pictures. My friends Kobie and Kess had told me about Whole Wheat a while back and I even managed to get over there to take a photo about a week or two ago. However, they just moved and they’re in the process of setting up new scenes. I found a few that were extremely tempting, but tis the season for all things pumpkin so I jumped right into this lovely little fall scene. There are already several amazing scenes, so when you’re done reading that article, cuz I know you’re gonna…go check it out for yourself! ♥

wearing:
*~*Damselfly*~*Ivey
CATWA HEAD Dyana
L’Etre – Hestia Mesh Ears
.:E.A.Studio:. Box Piercing Bare Code
.5 [ kunst ] – Spike Labret
.4 [ kunst ] – Septum Keeper
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Prodigy Ink–7P-Paradise Tattoo
!Cellar Door Feral
SPELL :  PENTAGRAM RING
fri.day – Lovey.Stockings
:::insanya::: Sabrina Heels (*new* @ Retro Rewind)

pose in featured image by Kirin
other poses by Di’s Opera Poses
location: Whole Wheat