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Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark

Most of my friends will be quick to tell you that I have a very twisted sense of humor and a fit of giggles is often followed by extreme coughing as I often laugh so hard that I forget to breathe…and yes, on a few occasions I’ve passed out from laughing too hard.

muertos3I recently got quite tickled over phrases that can and often do sound dirtier in my head than they’re originally intended. One example is, “Things go bump in the night.” Even now I have the stupid little grin on my face, because all I can think is, “They do if you’re lucky!” As I was taking these pictures with the adorable little “dia de los muertos” pillow in the background I kept thinking about silly crass remarks like, “Killed it!” Which led to a series of much more disturbing thoughts that I won’t even begin to share.
*sneezes in Nish’ direction*            Oh! Excuse me!

This is one of the things I actually like about myself and I don’t think we acknowledge our good traits enough. Sure, we’ll put ourselves down and some of us can even accept a compliment, others not even that. How are we supposed to convince other people that we admire their qualities if we can’t even acknowledge our own? I don’t mean go bragging about something you can do. I mean personality traits. I have a wicked sense of humor and I enjoy it. While I know its not for everyone and is often ill-timed, I happen to think I’m pretty darn funny….most of the time. I’m no comedian, but I sure amuse myself and that counts for something, right? I realize there’s a fine line here. Some will go about telling the world how nice they are and how generous they are, but honestly…that’s not at all what I mean.  I’m thinking more along the lines of traits you essentially live with. How you are when you’re all alone with yourself. Are you kind to yourself? Do you make yourself laugh? Can you love yourself? (with the Hitachi, Nikole!) Have you pampered yourself lately? Why wait for the kindness, humor, love, and attention from someone else? Show yourself a good time!

muertosAnd I can’t even get through all that positive affirmation stuff without the dirty thoughts and yes, I’m quite sure it has nothing to do with my booty being on display. Okay, fair enough, the pictures probably don’t help, but hey, you’re still reading!
Yeah, so love yourself however you see fit, but do love yourself, even the dark and twisted parts of yourself. Cuz I’ve got to somehow tie this all back to the title I gave this post and really don’t want to change…so appreciate your weirdness and don’t be afraid of the dark.

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I should really try to get more sleep before writing this stuff, huh? Get the lights will ya? Thanks….zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…oh…*snorts*…deets….below…zzzzzzz.

wearing:
TRUTH HAIR Debra –  variety
CATWA HEAD Gwen
IKON Hope Eyes – Ice
MG – Necklace – Raisa
Slink Physique Mesh Body Hourglass
[HoR] Rule Bodysuit (*new* @ Swank)
Blueberry – Blaire Skirt  (*new* @ Collabor88)
REIGN.– CLASSIC JANE HEELS AND STOCKINGS (*new* @ Collabor88)

scene:
:CP: Waltzer Chair Muertos (*new* @ TMD)
Maxi Gossamer – H&G – Curtains (*new* @ FaMESHed)
poses by Bauhaus Movement

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Head in the Clouds

Head in the clouds
Got no weight on my shoulders
I should be wiser
And realize that I’ve got
One less problem without ya!
Ariana Grande Problems

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How often do we resolve to let go of someone or something, only to keep grabbing it at, to keep talking about it…even a year, sometimes even years, after the fact? We know life is better, yet we keep diving into that memory bank forcing ourselves to relive or romanticize the past.  I’m not pointing fingers at anyone, trust me that I don’t know a single person that doesn’t do this to some degree. We all have at least one ex that did a real number on us and permanently altered our outlook on life. I’m not talking about that feeling of falling backwards through some musical portal because of an unexpected song. I’m talking about still making decisions hoping that someone is still watching. With all the social media at our fingertips its easier than ever to keep tabs on ex friends and lovers. Easier for us to be stalked, too.

William Shakespeare said, “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.”

I can only imagine what he would think of said stage with all of the ways we put on a show these days. One look at YouTube will prove that anyone can be on film these days. So, back to what I was saying…why? Why do we insist on parading our lives about like peacocks displaying our plumage? I can tell you that peacocks are showing off in the hopes of getting laid…so what’s our excuse? Most of us would immediately jump to the defense and deny that we’re trying to seduce an ex. So why are we seeking their attention? What are we hoping to gain? Oh look what you lost. If our value was recognized, it wasn’t for the photos or actions done after the break. Not to mention that what we’re doing is pretty damn obvious to everyone around us. I can only come up with one answer: We didn’t honestly let go…we’re simply swinging in and out of the past. When we’re truly ready to let go we’ll soar high and leap from that swing and move on to another area of our proverbial playground without looking back. Gawd, my brain hurts sometimes…*facepalms*
In the meantime, may we all get the attention we seek and get even closer to leaping off the swings, running across the playground and sliding into our future. Nothing wrong with having our head in the clouds, so long as we keep our feet on the ground. I’ll see you at the playground! *winks*

wearing:
hair: pr!tty – Kyla (*new* @ The Forest)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
L’Etre – Hestia Mesh Ears
^^Swallow^^ Ear Cuff Cross
*MUKA* Collar Love
*MUKA* Cuff Love
[HoR] Tease Bodysuit for Her  (*new* @ SWANK)
{le fil casse} spring leg cage
[BREATHE]-Tango Heels (*new* @ The Forest)

scene:
pose in featured image: shi.s.poses dreamy clouds #4 complete w/background & attachments (*new* @ You.Gatcha Event )
{anc} cirque de reverie .15/ blanc / balloon stands

close up pose by Del May

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Tea Party? Nah! Let’s drink wine!

“Welcome to the Tea Party
Want to be my VIP?
You didn’t RSVP
That’s ok, that’s ok
Welcome to the Tea Party (oh oh, oh oh)
Want to be my VIP?”
~Kerli “Tea Party

Ok, so when I first saw the Garden Soiree Set by unKindness at Collabor88, I immediately had the above mentioned song in my head. I knew I had to have a little gathering of my roommates for a photo. Anyone that knows my crew, knows that we’re not exactly tea drinkers…so it had to be a wine party, right? Well, imagine getting five very creative and strong personalities together, suggesting a theme and giving them some freedom to express themselves…yeah, madness ensued.

tea eh wine partyI am very fortunate that they let me believe I had any sense of control while shooting these photos or that I had any influence at all over their outfits. I said, “Go for it…be bizarre…be creative.” I should have known that Rom would show up in his favorite boots. Tracy, of course, shows up in as little as possible. Afterall, “Tracy’s flickr” is our favorite answer to all Cards Against Humanity questions (try it, it works). When I told them to hop on the pose stands I had filled with poses from Del May, Grace immediately asked if she could be passed out on the table. It only seemed natural that she would be, so I had to say yes. I knew the minute I saw the dress from sYs that I’d be wearing it for the party and when Sino saw it, he quickly put together his own stunning look.
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Being surrounded by friends this way was amazing and I’m not sure I can even begin to explain the conversations we had while I shot these photos, but I can’t recommend the experience enough. I know we all gather at clubs and dance to our favorite DJs. That is so much fun in its own right, but please if you’ve never done it…have a party at home with your closest friends. Ask them to dress in theme and break out the cameras, because THIS?
Yeah, in almost 10 years on the grid, these types of little parties have always been my favorite. We might not have been genuinely drunk in real life, but we sure were high on life and I’m so grateful that I was able to catch this madness on virtual film. Even when things went a bit haywire with my poses stands, the fun continued.
tea party madness
The Garden Soiree Set inspires the oncoming of fall and it just so happens that its mine and Tracy’s favorite season…no, that has nothing to do with the fact that both our birthdays are in October…pssshaw! Its the time of pumpkins, caramel apples, cinnamon candles, hot cocoa…ok, lots of apple things…Halloween…falling leaves…all sorts of good stuffs! So, we got a little excited…and its really a very lovely set, despite the madness represented here. All the credits for the peeps and the scene are listed below, to make it easier a brief description of who is who is first.
Sady (moi) is the one sitting on a stacked set of benches, all the way on the left.
Grace is that voluptuous woman on the table.
Rom is the man on the table…the one with the sexy boots.
Sino is our dapper soldierish captain man in the front.
Tracy is the half naked one in the mask, sorry, Tracy….guess that mask didn’t do you much good there.

Sady is wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Sari hair (*new* @ Collabor88)
*LODE* Head Accessory – Leila [brown]
CATWA HEAD Destiny
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
erratic / cuffs / gold
[MANDALA]Sinra Rings Season2 (*new* @ Collabor88)
[sYs] TRIANON dress (fitted & body mesh) – royal (*new* @ Collabor88)
REIGN.- Olympus Heels  (*new* @ Collabor88)

Grace is wearing:
hair:[sYs] SHINZO hair  (*new* @ Collabor88)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[MANDALA]Sinra Rings Season2 (*new* @ Collabor88)
Rowne.Damir Sheer Dress (*new* @ Collabor88)
[VALE KOER] CRUEL HEELS (*new* @ Collabor88)

Rom is wearing:
hair: [NO!Project]  Kellen
.::SAMURAI::.. Cyrus Mesh Head
^^Swallow^^ Ears Goth BLACK
Bokeh – Monacle
[Deadwool] Moustache
[NikotiN]   Cigarette_ Damier
Slink Physique MALE Mesh Body
UC_leather_harness_black_men_Slink
[House of Ruby] Shine Thong for Him – Gold
::GB:: Metallic nail  Gloves
::GB::Silver wand
BTTB eir heels – black – male SLINK

Sino is wearing:
(epia) – Modern Officer Cap
#TheMeshProject (BETA) Head(m) – Moody
**RE** Savage Ear Piercings
.:E.A.Studio:. Piercing Bare Code Gold
**RE** Keal Nose Chains – Male
[CX] Venom Septum
[The Forge] Iron Clad Collar
#TheMeshProject (BETA) Deluxe Body
[The Forge] Iron Clad Pauldrons
.random.Matter. & Le Morte – Aeson Gloves
**RE** Savage Claws & Rings
[CX] Carnal Rings
GizzA – Embroidered Outfit – Jacket
GizzA – Embroidered Outfit – Pants
Razor/// Dread Boots

Tracy is wearing:
hair:[LeLutka]-MALEFICENT tresses
CATWA HEAD Annie
.ET. L’odeur du cuir Bunny Mask Black
=Zenith=Muted Coven Collar
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
.aisling. Sofia Chestlace
erratic / scarlett – bra
erratic / scarlett – panty
Baiastice_Velvet long gloves
erratic / cuffs / gold
REIGN.- POINTED TOE BOOTS

ALL poses are by Del May any editing was done using AnyPose

Scene:
part one…landscaping (done by Luis Lockjaw)
=EliBaily= Ivy
{vespertine – tile skipping path/plain}
[we’re CLOSED] white flowers
{vespertine– old wooden fence/browns dots}
[we’re CLOSED] tree 1C bare
Skye Land Forms
*alirium* DwarfForest [OldGold]

part two…table (set up by me)
unKindness: uK- Garden Soiree Benches (*new* @ Collabor88)
unKindness: uK – Garden Soiree Table (*new* @ Collabor88)
*LODE*Decor – Snapdragon Vase Big [dark violet]
unKindness: uK – Garden Soiree Place Settings (*new* @ Collabor88)
BAZAR Paris – Wine bottle spilled

 

Posted in Fashion, Second Life

Weed or Flower

“A weed is but an unloved flower.”
Ella Wheeler Wilcox

This simple line from Ella Wheeler Wilcox’s poem, “The Weed,” is so poignant. Without the love and kindness of those around us, would we not all feel like weeds? I cannot fathom where I’d be if not for the mingling of my spirit with the spirits of others throughout my life. Each one leaving its imprint on my soul. Each one playing its own role in my journey. Occasionally we are lucky enough to find a spirit that shines so strongly, that even after one short week of knowing them…we know our life will never be the same.

Keep your hearts and minds open as you go through life to insure that you allow such loving energy into your life. Allow yourself these blessings, for we are each deserving, and there is no need for us to be weeds…let love in and allow yourself to bloom. ♥

delicate flower

*Besom~ Burn Down *Gothics*
^^Swallow^^ Ears Pax BLACK (*new* @ The Arcade)
.5 [ kunst ] – Spike Labret
(r)M, Posture Collar, No.02
**RE** Cora Harness (*new* @ Tres Chic)
[HoR] Net Unisex Bodysuit – Floral (*new* @ 􀀁 Swank Events)
#EMPIRE – Iris (*new* @ We<3RolePlay)

pose: GingerFish Poses -Get What I Want 4-CURVY

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Good Girl

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”
Anaïs Nin

I’m by no means about to blog about bdsm or the D/s lifestyle. Believe it or not, even I have some limits, but I will say that from the right man…those two words, “good girl”
…well, they make parts of me melt and on that note, take a gander of some of the deliciously naughty goodies on display…NOT ME, you pervs…*winks*

good girl

CATWA HEAD Candy
IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)
hair: +Spellbound+ Lost // Chapter I : Earth (*new* at ROMP)
lingerie: [HoR] Lacey ♥black exclusive fatpack bonus♥ – (*new* at Bombshells)
collar & cuffs: **RE** ReVoX Avo Set
rings: ieQED chaos.ring 1, 3, 4, & 8 (*new* at Kustom9)

pose: . Infiniti . – Good Girl – 8 (*new* at ROMP)