Posted in Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Glam Affair, Kustom9, Lybra, Maitreya, Second Life

I need a condom for my heart

Anytime I see condoms tucked into clothing, be it underwear or thigh high boots, I think of Pretty Woman, when Julia Roberts pulls out the assortment of condoms and proclaims that she’s a safety girl. So, condoms protect our genitals from most things…too bad there’s not a condom for our hearts. It would be nice to trust what’s in front of you without getting slapped in the face with a brick wall of pain only days into dating someone, right? I mean, I personally think that I’m pretty guarded. I’ve been successfully single now for two years. I open myself up to the possibility of something good for a few days and where did it get me? You guessed it…slapped in the face with the harsh realities of this cruel grid. I’m reminded once again that I’m not good enough. You’d think by now, I’d get it…and for the past two years I did. Technically, I haven’t broken that stride, because anything that doesn’t last more than a week does not make a relationship. It simply makes one vulnerable enough to get hurt. Thanks, Life, you did it again.
Please don’t comment with some hippy dippy love shit about how I’m worthy, blah blah blah…I truly appreciate the efforts, but they are wasted on me. My life has more than proven that I’m not those lovely things that make one a lovable partner. Lucky for me, I make a great friend and I also have some pretty epic ones. So, all is not lost. ♥

feeling the sun

Basics:
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
SU!– Piercing Set 06
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Maria @ Kustom9

hair: TRUTH Alias
Dahlia – Camilla – Collar @ FaMESHed X
amias – NADIA gloves 1
LYBRA . ROSY @ FaMESHed X
Mug – April Thong @ FaMESHed X

pose by Double Take

Posted in Catwa, Events, Fashion, Maitreya, Narcisse, Phedora, Phoenix, Pose Fair, Quasi, Second Life

Kindergarten Tired

I use the term kindergarten tired all the time, but most people don’t always know what I mean. Think back to when you were like 4 or 5 yrs old. As if we were trained at birth, we did not want to go to sleep. We wanted to say up as late as the grown ups! There’s a story my mother loves to tell about me when I was in kindergarten and that’s where I coined the term. My bedtime was at like 7pm. Around 5pm, I started asking if it was “sebin otock” yet. I asked the question so many times that they asked me if I was tired. Of course, I denied being tired. Bedtimes are for babies, afterall. By 6pm, my parents were done and decided to lie, “Yes, its seven o’clock, you better get to bed.” I was so tired I cried as my mom made me wait until I had pajamas on.

kinder tired

wearing:
hair: :::Phoenix::: Brittany Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: [theSkinnery]  Iris (Catwa Applier) toffee
Narcisse– Dahlia Bra & Panties (*new* @ Blush)
Narcisse– Dahlia Pelerine & Garter (*new* @ Blush)
Phedora ~ Sisley boots (*new* @ Kinky)

pose: double take: down and out 4 set (*new* @ Pose Fair)

Quasi – Risque Bed
anxiety %generation skybox

Posted in Events, Exploration, Fashion, Kustom9, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes

Family Ties

“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” ~Richard Bach
I haven’t started a blog with a quote that wasn’t a song lyric in a while, but this topic has been on my mind for some time now. Father’s Day occurred only two days ago and as I scrolled through Facebook I saw message after message about people’s fathers. Some were well wishes, some shared memories of fathers past, and then there were people like me that avoided the subject altogether. I can’t know why others avoided the subject, but I know why I did. I even had to tell Skype (yes, outloud) to stfu. Skype had a message that said, “Fathers are people, too!” My response was, “Not all of them! Some of them are monsters!” I don’t think its a secret that I’m another girl on the grid with daddy issues. Given how common abusive fathers seem to be, we’re merely statistics.
However, I’m not going to waste this post or your time bitching about my father. Instead, I want to embrace the blessing of family bonding with people I’ve never even met face to face. Like many other people in Second Life, I am part of a family. I don’t always feel like part of the family, as most of them really don’t talk to me much and to be fair, its not like I go out of my way to hunt them down and pursue conversations either. Yet, I do feel like a few of them would truly be there if I needed them.
I think the truest “family” I have on the grid would probably be the cunts. Now, hold on, don’t get your britches twisted, we call ourselves the Cunt Cult and we’re a group of besties. At the core there’s four of us, there’s a fifth one, but she’s off living the real life. (She fell in love! SQUEEEE!) Kess, Tracy, Grace, and I have built a bond unlike that I’ve ever known before. We’re not a clique. We don’t go around doing the whole mean girls thing, dressing alike, following a leader. Although, if we did, Kess would be it…she’s bossy like that. *laughs* My point is…while some of us don’t have traditional families in real life or even partake in family groups on the grid, we have each other. We have that bond between friends that is as strong, if not stronger, than any family ties I’ve ever known. For that, I am grateful.
I have so many circles of wonderful friends inworld that I am so grateful for and I love them each dearly. Though we may not speak every day and some not even every week, we are there for one another when it counts. I’m also grateful for my fur babies in real life, because they are just as much a part of my family as my mother or my husband. Even though they can’t make me coffee in the morning.
So, whatever kind of family ties you have, hold them close, hold them dear to you heart, and don’t wait for some “holiday” to celebrate them. Tell them today that you love them, because none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow.

family

wearing: 
hair
:  Lamb. Home (June Luxe Box)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica (*new* @ Arcade)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
UC_Jane_Fringe_mini_dress_slate (*new* @ Kustom9)
#EMPIRE – Wandflower (June VIP Group Gift)

pose by Double Take
location: The Mill 

Posted in Fashion, Landscaping, Second Life

What I Need

In the real world, I live in the Southern U.S. region and there are some pretty common phrases around these parts that have various meanings depending on the context in which they’re used. One of those is “Y’all need Jesus” or “You need Jesus.” I refer to the state of Alabama (where I actually live, don’t judge me) as the buckle of the bible belt. So, you can just imagine how often this particular phrase is used. It always amuses me a bit, because I am not religious at all, nor am I a Christian. While I do believe I have a spiritual connection and don’t dispute that there are definite powers greater than me, there’s not a particular religion to which I subscribe.

jesus hq

When I say it, and I think this is true for most people that say it, I’m telling someone they need help. I’m never serious when I say this, because I’m the person that suffers from such bizarre insomnia that I actually dream about not being able to sleep. People ask me all the time, “Do you ever sleep?” I promise I do, its just here and there. Sometimes, I can’t sleep more than an hour or two a day. Other times, I can’t stay awake for more than an hour or two. The latter usually happens when my body is beyond tired and the only way I can shut off this insane brain of mine  is by popping a Xanax. Once that kicks in, I’m useless until it wears off. Given my snail’s pace metabolism, that can mean a day or two at least.
With that said, my friends (especially my SL friends) find it particularly funny when I use this phrase. They also thought that I needed both this shirt and this hair…so here I am proudly claiming my Southern roots and all the silly phrases that go with it.

So…while the rest of y’all need jesus…my ass needs some sleep. LOL!

Blues. Layne (*new* @ Hair Fair 2016)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
IKON Odyssey Eyes – Apex
[NikotiN]    Rainbow_Black  RARE
.02 [ kunst ] – Chin flower RARE
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Prodigy Ink–7P-Paradise Tattoo
-tres blah- Knotted Raglan – Y’all need Jesus
**RE** Precious Nails & Rings – Square
{MYNX} Pocket Capri’s

pose by double take
backdrop by industy7: _i7_urban studio_post apocalyptic set RARE (*new* @ The Epiphany) and if you look through that window, you’ll see some of the Concrete Jungle gacha set by unKindness…also @ The Epiphany

Posted in Fashion, Second Life

Baja Moment

Yes, I’m a cornball and tried to use Baja as a play on words. It worked in my head, just go with it. LOL. Sooo, I was out exploring the grid late one night, looking for a beach sim that I could actually rez on and remembered that someone had told me about a group of beach sims belonging to some “Baja” group. Yes, that’s how I remembered it…stay with me here. Search is my friend, so Baja…typed it in and found my way to a beautiful trio of sims belonging to the group *Baja Norte*. For a small group fee of only L$250 I was granted rezzing rights on all three sims.
Baja Cove

I wandered about this luxurious seaside paradise for at least two hours, just admiring all the beautiful scenes before breaking out my poses and getting to work. Its a gorgeous area that I can’t recommend highly enough and if you’re lucky you might encounter a friendly face or make a new friend.
baja cove 2

Be sure to pack your poses, you camera, and your swimwear, because the scenery commands photography and well….you know you’ve got more summer clothes than you can shake a stick at. With all the fantastic summer themed shopping events going on, there is plenty of inspiration to go around. Enjoy your summer! ❤
baja cove 3

TRUTH HAIR Harmony [Ponytail] (comes with an updo also)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
**RE** LUX Innamorata Set (earrings & necklace)
Mimikri – Luna Paillettes Top (*new* @Cosmopolitan)
Mimikri – Luna Leather Hot Pants (*new* @Cosmopolitan)
**RE** Zaria Bracelets
.:Hermony:. FilterCigarette
**RE** LUX Soleil Anklets Medium

poses: double take
location: Baja Cove

baja cove 4

 

Posted in Fashion, Home Decor, Second Life

Home

“Home is where my habits have a habitat”
Fiona Apple

I don’t do a lot of decor posts, but you can bet when I do I am crazy about the way it all looks. I have a few go to stores in SL that have long been my habitual furniture stores and so long as Cheeky Pea is in SL, Isla Gealach’s creations will have a place in my virtual home. I’ve watched her store grow over the years and I love that it has gotten the recognition it deserves. I could gush about her store for hours, but lets not digress.

I am continuously surprised by the amazing creations I find for my home across the grid and events like Uber are one of the reasons I have discovered some new ones. You like that little segue? LOL…If you haven’t gotten over to Uber yet, you’ll definitely want to check out the Desert Rose Set by Cheeky Pea. This set even has new animations and poses that will not disappoint you.

cheeky.jpg

This round of Uber is a must shop, but then again so are Summerfest and N21. So much shopping, so little time…and lets not mention my linden allowance. I’m pleased as punch that I was able to tie some old stuff with some new stuff to make my virtual home reflect my spirit.

I was also fortunate enough to do the same with my avatar. Snagging this delicious lingerie set from Reverie and pairing it with accessories, both old and new. I am one happy little shopper!

wearing:
Tableau Vivant \\ Yoann hair (*new* @ Summerfest)
CATWA HEAD Dyana
LUXE. Choi Lip Ring (*new* @ N21)
[atooly] mia spiked hoops .silver.
(Yummy) Talisman Charms – Dreamer  – Silver   (*new* @ N21)
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{Reverie} ‘Belles’ Lingerie Set  (*new* @ Uber)
arm & thigh chains: Zaara : Raksha Body jewelry (*new* @ Uber)cheeky1

Furnishings & Decor:
sofa, rug, pouffe, lanterns & coffee table: Cheeky Pea Desert Rose Set (*new* @ Uber)
uK – Starfish Frame Set Blue
PILOT – Flower Mirror [Ombre Teal]
:CP: Delilah Blossom Sheer Curtain
:CP: Old Fence Frames
end tables: *ionic* Small coffee table
+Half-Deer+ Baby Kraken – Tangerine Drop (*new* @ Summerfest)
Intrigue Co. – Plushie Pals: Ocho the Pacific Octopus (*new* @ The Arcade)
LISP – Mesh – Newspaper and Coffee – Blue
*AF* Flower Cart Paperwhites
cats: Mutresse-Witty Cats (*new* @ The Arcade)

poses: double take

cheeky2