Posted in Apple Fall, DOUX, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Kustom9, Legacy, Lelutka, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping, skin, Uber SL, vinyl, [BREATHE]

a beautiful conversation about life

I was hanging out with some of my favorite people last night and one of them made a comment about “lazy homeless” people. I quickly jumped on the defensive. As I have been homeless on a number of occasions in my 20s and there was nothing lazy about my situation. Of course, I encountered loads of other homeless people during those times. I had to explain that while there are some people that simply don’t want to be responsible members of society. However, the bulk of the homeless people I encountered were anything but lazy. As being homeless is not an easy way to live. People that live in shelters must abide by an excess of rules put in place to keep things as orderly as possible. There are curfews and requirements one must continuously make to continue their stay and many shelters have limitations on how long people can reside there. I don’t have specific numbers, but I’d dare say that the majority of homeless people have not chosen that lifestyle as their preferred method of existence. Plus there are far more living without shelter. That is NOT an easy way to live. Its beyond dangerous. Once a person is homeless, it is safe to say that getting back on your feet is ridiculously hard. As I pointed out to my friend, what is the first thing you do the morning of a job interview? Shower, right? If you have no home, you have no shower and probably don’t have much in the way of a clean nice outfit to wear.
Anyway, the point is, don’t be so quick to judge people in situations you can’t begin to understand. Turns out that one of the other people there had also experienced homelessness and was glad that I spoke up. Meanwhile, our uninformed friend was enlightened and apologized. I didn’t find the apology necessary, but it was appreciated. I was especially glad that we were all able to have such a beautiful conversation about life without hate or disgust. I won’t name them, because too many private matters were discussed and only my part of the story is mine to tell. I suspect they might read this and because they might I want to give them to know something. I love you and I’m so grateful for your friendship. I look forward to getting to know you even better in the years to come. ♥

Clearly that has nothing to do with the photo. So, I’d like to add that if you have not gotten the Spring Decocrate, this set from Serenity Style is worth getting it, just for this set. Even if you didn’t pre order it, its worth the price. Go grab yours. I have to pay full price, too, cuz I forgot to pre order…lol. You’ll also notice I’m wearing the new Lost Girl dress from Vinyl. This is the first dress Vinyl has released in ages and its so cute! AND it goes perfectly with these new wedges that Breathe released at the Arcade! So get out your wallets, its time to go shopping!!

a beautiful conversation about life

hair: DOUX – Lucy hairstyle @ LEVEL
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 2.5
body: [LEGACY] Meshbody (f) Special Edition (1.3)
skin: PUMEC — SARAH @ Kustom9
tattoo: *Bolson / Tattoo – Antheia @ Anthem

VINYL – Lost Girl Dress @ Uber
[BREATHE]-Mizuko Wedges @ Arcade

pose: Ana Poses – Saturday Night 8 @ Arcade

Scarlet Creative Charlotte’s Corner House Boat or Cabin

outside: Serenity Style– Eggs Farm Backdrop @ Uber Hometown

Serenity Style-Spring Colors Breakfast Set for Decocrate Spring
-Serenity Style- Spring Colors Breakfast Table
-Serenity Style- Spring Colors Breakfast Tray [LINKED]
-Serenity Style- Spring Colors Breakfast Chairs (blue, pink, yellow, & green)

Serenity Style– Vintage Treasures – Doors
Serenity Style- Vintage Treasures – Bookshelf

..::THOR::.. Think Green Gacha Set @ Arcade
-..::THOR::.. Hanging Crate
-..::THOR::.. Organic Hanging Tote
-..::THOR::.. Vintage Table Fan – Mint
-..::THOR::.. Greenhouse Stool – Cream
-..::THOR::.. Owl & Books
-..::THOR::.. Vintage Watering Can – Mint

  1. Apple Fall Blanket Curio
    Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 7
    Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 8
    Apple Fall Books – Arrangement 10
    West Village Sculpted Turtle – Verdigris

Di’Cor Snail Figurine @ FaMESHed

dust bunny . quirky planters 2 . kitty planter
dust bunny . quirky planters 3 . rainbow planter

Ariskea[Marguerite] Pitcher Flowers – Pale @ Anthem

[Fetch] Spring Treats – Bun Mug RARE @ Arcade

MADRAS Ooty Turtle Tea Pot Seafoam

CHEZ MOI Sleepy Kitty @ Arcade
CHEZ MOI Plant Vase 1,2, & 3 @ Arcade

The Loft & ARIA – Branwyn Rug

tarte. hanging trailing jade plant

{vespertine} hanging succulents. – string of pearls

Posted in Apple Fall, Collabor88, Events, FaMESHed, Fancy Decor, Home Decor, Second Life

Do we really want to hurt each other?

I don’t know if its as present in other forms of social media as it is on Facebook, but it’s there that passive-aggressive behavior seems to thrive in the forms of elusive memes mysteriously aimed at the poster’s offender. However, this is not the only place or form of said behavior. It’s also exhibited by avoiding people and repeatedly making up reasons to avoid particular individuals as a way of expressing distaste for certain people. I’m pretty sure we’ve all done that. These behaviors are often destructive, but odds are that we all are guilty of this at one time or another. With a little research and a bit of work on ourselves, we can learn to understand the causes and how to properly deal with our emotions. In doing so, we can become mentally healthier and reduce hurting those we love. At the end of the day, do we really want to hurt each other? I know I don’t.

elm living room

Di’Cor Elephant Sculpture @ FaMESHed

West Village Florentine Collection
Apple Fall Aspidistra in Wicker Planter
Apple Fall Book & Nectarines Tray
Apple Fall Althea Rug – Antique Light
Apple Fall Verdant Oil Painting
Apple Fall Fern Specimen
Apple Fall Liberty Sketchbook
Apple Fall Silver Antiqued Rabbit
West Village Abby Candle – Brass
Apple Fall Leather Strapped Trunk

Ariskea[Amitie] Flower Lamp Sage

DISORDERLY. / Nude Spring Entry
DISORDERLY. / Nude Spring Entry / Candle
DISORDERLY. / Nude Spring Entry / Decorative Egg
DISORDERLY. / Nude Spring Entry / Mirror
DISORDERLY. / Nude Spring Entry / Vase
DISORDERLY. / Nude Spring Entry / Side Table

Elm. Anabeth Living Room @ C88
Elm. Anabeth Books & Candle
Elm. Anabeth Coffee Table
Elm. Anabeth Succulent
Elm. Anabeth Vase
Elm. Anabeth Sofa #1 [PG]
Elm. Anabeth Armchair #1 [PG]
Elm. Tuliana Potted Plant

17 Fancy Decor: Jones Aloe Plant
Fancy Decor: Books and Plant

Foxwood – Hanging Plants – Small
Foxwood – Hanging Plants – Large

hive // potted plants . cordyline tree . pot c

MudHoney Photo Room 6

(Luc.) Dandelion’s Wish, Wall Art

Posted in Dahlia, Home Decor, Landscaping, Second Life

Patio Project

With most of us stuck at home, no one actually said we could not go outside. We’re just supposed to be social distancing, right? One thing we’ve done in real life to not only give us something to do, but to give us a change of scenery is to redo our patio and garden area. Yes, we made a rush to the garden center before it was too late. It was easy to social distance ourselves in there, as most people were racing after toilet paper and other essentials. We had done that early on, so that wasn’t an issue for us. For three days, we have weeded and planted, until our patio area is looking as fresh and lovely as ever. Now, we have a lovely area to sit outside and enjoy an unobstructed view of the neighborhood in some very lovely weather. (BTW, by “we” I meant my mom.)
I decided to follow suit in Second Life, by creating an area Chris and I to enjoy each other’s company tucked away in our little concrete patio…secluded from the rest of the world.♥

crate moss&mink

Di’Cor Buddha Decor

Ariskea[Tahoe] Japanese Prele
Ariskea[Amber] Giant Plant Philo [Healthy]
Ariskea[Kuva] Cute succulent
Ariskea[Fog] Succulent Plant
Ariskea [Ophelia] Big Plant
Ariskea[Pacif] Macrame Divider – Original
Ariskea[Bambi] Hanging Basket Plant [2]

Dust Bunny & Con . Florence Bedroom . Pillow Basket

crate Peaceful Peacock Porch Full Set
crate Peaceful Peacock Porch Chair – PG
crate Peaceful Peacock Porch Side Table
crate Peaceful Peacock Porch Plant

Dahlia – Malarkey – Margarita
Dahlia – Malarkey – Margarita Pitcher

Foxwood ~ Delilah ~ Spaniel Resting

hive // jolly coffee table chest

{moss&mink} Pandora chaise & Tara Planter @ FaMESHed
{moss&mink} Tara Paradise Planter (Floor)
{moss&mink} Pandora bamboo chaise
{moss&mink} Tara Paradise Planter (Stand)

(Fundati) Ivy Leaves

Posted in Apple Fall, Collabor88, Events, Fancy Decor, Home Decor, Second Life

Look, Trouble, No Jaundice!

In one of my recent decor pics, my amazing sl nephew, Trouble Dethly, told me that my picture was too yellow….I made a joke about the room being jaundiced and he was so busy going on and on about how it should be more blue that he missed it. I mean, c’mon, that was funny, right? Anyway, he’s always been pretty spot on with his advice, regardless of the fact that I liked my jaundiced photo and one of my friends wanted to move into a room that really didn’t have much in the way of seating…but I digress. So, to counteract the jaundice room, I did this…a blue room, just for Trouble…now I’ll wait to see how he likes this one!

refuge fancy decor mutresse

Di’Cor Sam Decor Shelf [Light]

Apple Fall Althea Rug – Antique Dark
Apple Fall Hydrangea Bunch – Blue

dust bunny . hanging plants . ivy planter
dust bunny . hanging plants . cheese plant
dust bunny . spotted begonia
dust bunny . hoya plant
dust bunny . pilea peper plant

Fancy Decor Ellis Collection @ C88
Fancy Decor: Leaning Art
Fancy Decor: Ellis Console
Fancy Decor: Ellis Canvas (texture change)
Fancy Decor: Ellis Sculptures
Fancy Decor: Ellis Lamp

ionic : MISTICA gacha @ Equal10
ionic : Munch (Geometric wall decor)
ionic : Delicate fire (Wire wall decor)
IONIC : Mistica – RARE

MudHoney Photo Room 1

Mutresse-Quirky Corgis-16 @ Arcade
Mutresse-Quirky Corgis-09 @ Arcade
Mutresse-Quirky Corgis-02 @ Arcade

Refuge – Lissanna Prism Lights
Refuge – Lissanna Chair Off White
Refuge – Lissanna Pedestal Table Off White
Refuge – Lissanna Photo Ladder Light Wood

Posted in Animals, Bueno, crate, Dahlia, Events, Fashion, Foxcity, Home Decor, Lamb, Lelutka, Maitreya, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

Linger

So, a few days ago or so, I did a post titled, Sady’s Soundtrack. In this post, I provided a link to a YouTube playlist of mine and offered my readers a chance to ask me about any of the songs and why they are so special to me. Well, I didn’t really figure anyone would ask, but my friend, Troy, did shoot me an IM on Facebook and asked about the song Linger by The Cranberries. I was immediately falling back into memories of days lying on my bed, staring out the window listening to this on my headphones. He would stand in the doorway and watch me singing.
You see, I was living in a Three Quarter House at the time, that’s kind of like a half way house, but with more independence and less rules. This house was also co-ed. His room was down the hall and naturally we were not supposed to be dating. There were hella good reasons for that, but I was in my twenties and you couldn’t tell me anything. *still can’t* He was such a bad boy. He was older by a couple of years and he looked just like Tupac. (Everyone said so.) He was smart and funny. He was also bad news…they all warned me, but again, I wouldn’t listen. The funny thing is when I first fell in love with that song, we had just met. Little did I know that was some serious foreshadowing come to life. For an entire year of my life, he had me wrapped around his finger and very much made a fool of me.

lamb asteroid box little fox crate

Sady is wearing:
hair:  Lamb. Lover
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [the Skinnery] Ashley (Lelutka) @ Uber

AsteroidBox. Mya Bodysuit @ Whore Couture
Little Fox – Piper leather boots @ Kinky

pose: FOXCITY. Night Sassy Bento Pose Set

scene: 

Basement – Groove Night – The Bearded Guy

Di’Cor Handbag Clutter

BUENO-Journals Clutter-If Not Now When

crate Octagon Wall Shelf
crate Barclay Bed Aqua

Dahlia – Conjure – Candle – Black
Dahlia – Lazy Days – Vintage Clock – Copper .06
Dahlia – Conjure – Dried Herbs – Roses
Dahlia – Baby Robert – Antique Lamp – Silver – 1
Dahlia – Curious – Sparkle Bottle – Teal
Dahlia – Jardin – Roses in Brown Tin
Dahlia – Joanna’s – Macaroon Box
Dahlia – Lazy Days – Bundled Kitty – Brown – 03. RARE
Dahlia – Amore – Gem Chocolates – White
Dahlia – Lazy Days – Lashes Pillow – Blush 30
Dahlia – Lazy Days – Hot Water Bottle – Grey 14

dust bunny . areca palm plant

Garbaggio // Shoe Clutter White

MH Rosebud Dresser

18.erratic / lsm – clothing clutter – woman

Eudora3D Suitcase + Props Browns @ Uber
Eudora3D Vintage Trunk + Props Browns @ Uber

CELESTE – Glitter Square 4m – Static

Posted in Bueno, Dahlia, Events, Home Decor, Second Life, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative, {what next}

Dressing Room

I think most women would agree that it would indeed be lovely to have an entire room in which to get dressed. I know I would and I don’t even like to leave the house! Though to be completely fair, I imagine it would be a complete mess and nothing like those gorgeous walk-in closets that we tend to see on those shows that give us a tour of homes belonging to the rich and famous. Of course, if one could afford such a luxury, I suppose it would also be favorable to hire someone to clean up behind us. I think I’d rather have someone to do my hair every day, especially if I could relax my head in a shower bowl and receive a daily scalp massage!

Lagom tlc+

Di’Cor Handbag Clutter

BUENO-Unicorn Charger -Pink

Can’t Even – Be Fresh as Fuck

Con & Dust Bunny . Gracie Living Room – Bag Clutter

Dahlia – Sika Affection – Books – VIP

dust bunny . clothing rack . neutral
dust bunny . sweet dreams . alarm clock . silver
dust bunny . quirky planters . pug
dust bunny . sweet dreams . books
dust bunny . quirky planters . snail

Elm. Nia Books [Pink]

23. Garbaggio // Shoe Clutter – Kylie Studded
20. Garbaggio // Shoe Clutter – Andrea

+Half-Deer+ Carefree Bikini Clutter – ALL – Offside Thong
+Half-Deer+ Carefree Bikini Clutter – ALL – Floor Bra
+Half-Deer+ Socks Clutter – Tex. Change – Flat Messy Pair
+Half-Deer+ Lingerie Clutter – Pink – Flat (Panties)
+Half-Deer+ Neck Tie Clutter – Tex. Change – Flat A
+Half-Deer+ Cutie Clutter – Hair Accessories (Pastel)
+Half-Deer+ Lingerie Clutter – Nude – Flat (Bra)

Lagom – Artsy Makeup Set @ The Liaison Collaborative
02. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Makeup poster ]
08. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Trashcan ]
11. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Shelf Hair ]
07. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Lipglosses ]
04. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Big Plans ]
09. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Shelf Dryer ]
13. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Desk ] RARE
12. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Chair ]
10. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Shelf Makeup ]
05. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Palette ]
06. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Single Shadows ]
03. Lagom – Artsy Makeup [ Eyeshadow Lightstring ]

Lagom – L’ete a Paris set 
03. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Fondation ]
11. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Drawer ]
08. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Hairbrush ]
10. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Makeup bag black ]
06. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Makeup brushes ]
04. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Brushes Jar ]
05. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Conceler ]
12. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Lipstick shelf ] Rare
07. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Makeup Palete ]
02. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Mascara ]
01. Lagom – L’ete a Paris [ Mirror ] Rare

PILOT – Bunched up Vneck [Vintage Red]

{what next} Emily Jewellery Box – closed

.: vive nine :. Stacked Boxes w/ Shoes

Hangry – Floral Drink – Peach {Rez}

~TDC~ Heels & panties – red

[tmk] flower dog

Izzie’s – Rain Boots decor pink

Posted in Events, Fashion, Home Decor, Kustom9, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

I got this need for you

Looking you over and you don’t know my name yet
But by the time you looked away, already knew I couldn’t fake it

I got this need for you, forming in my beating heart
I knew the meaning right away, we only yesterday were worlds apart

I think I may love you
If you give me some time
Maybe you’ll love me too

I got this thing for you
If you come closer I can whisper in your ear
And if you wanna walk away
I’ll tell you all the things I know you wanna hear
~ Banks – Warm Water

asteroid box refuge

Sady is wearing:
hair:  [monso] My Hair – Julia @ Kustom9
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Charm Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Ginny (LeLutka&Bom) @ Uber
Ascendant – Defiant Nails @ Kinky
AsteroidBox. Isabelle Lingerie @ Frou Frou (opens Feb 10)

pose: [..::CuCa Designs::..] Midnight Chat Laptop

scene:
Refuge – Sophie Bed

Di’Cor Renee Candelabra [Floor]

BackBone Kinky Toy Rack

PILOT – Adult Toy Box [Valentine]

Posted in Apple Fall, Events, Fancy Decor, Home Decor, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL, unKindness

Impersonate a rattlesnake

“People in bars are always claiming to be boxers, hoping thereby to ward off attack, like a black snake will vibrate its tail in leaves and try to impersonate a rattlesnake.”
― William S. Burroughs, And the Hippos Were Boiled in Their Tanks

KraftWork Bar

DaD “Hillside House” @ Uber

Di’Cor Rayon Statue

Mithral * Arrowhead Plant (White Pot)
Mithral * Wall Pipe Display (Silver)
Mithral * Anthurium Vittarifolium
Mithral * Anthurium Clarinervium
Mithral * Lemon Lime Philodendron

West Village Frederick Tufted Bench – Cream
Apple Fall Handbag & Scarf
Apple Fall Wine Glasses

Architect. After hours Assenzio Bottle

Dahlia – Babylon Eclectic – Handbag – Black – RARE 2

dust bunny . hanging plants . ivy planter

06 Fancy Decor: Wine Decanter

hive // hanging devil’s ivy plant . light

KraftWork Lemton’s Modular Bar @ Uber
-KraftWork Lemton’s Bar . BAR STOOL
-KraftWork Lemton’s Bar . FRONT BAR DOUBLE WHITE WOOD
-KraftWork Lemton’s Bar . FRONT COUNTER DOUBLE WHITE WOOD
-KraftWork Lemton’s Bar . FEET REST

[ kunst ] – Nomada Whisky glass #2
[ kunst ] – Nomada Whisky bottles
[ kunst ] – Scotch glasses (x6)
[ kunst ] – Glenfirstclass bottles (a)
[ kunst ] – Nomada Whisky glasses x6
[ kunst ] – Scotch glass (b)
[ kunst ] – Scotch glass (a)
[ kunst ] – Nomada Whisky glass #1

Nutmeg. Disarray Bag w/ Papers Beige

White Cat – Standing

220ML – Alabama Style [Case w/ Cigar]
220ML – Alabama Style [Cigar Cutter]
220ML – Alabama Style [Peanuts]
220ML – Alabama Style [Sealed Bottle]

220ML – Bolanos Tequila – Lemon

*chronokit* WoodCarving Elephant

:::ChicChica::: Bottle of champagne

uK– Cast Iron Elephant

Echo – Avery – Roll Top Cabinet

Posted in Apple Fall, Dahlia, Events, Home Decor, Reign, Second Life, shopping

Meditation and Serenity

It’s no secret that I’ve been in therapy for a while now and I can honestly say that it is making a huge difference. However, one of the suggestions my therapist has made was to find a perfect spot for meditation. If I had the space available in real life, I’d like to imagine that it would be a beautiful serene spot very much like this one. Unfortunately, this is one of those things that simply isn’t quite feasible for me to do in real life. I have a very lovely living room that is hardly used, but I can’t lock the cat and dog out, nor can I leave nice things lying around as Mr Mayhem will surely make it his mission to destroy them. No, he’s not the dog. He’s the asshole I call a cat. The only thing that Zoey destroys are plushies and food. *laughs*

peaches and more

scene assembled in: DaD DESIGN “Woodpecker Cottage”

.peaches. Virajas Day Bed V2

.peaches. Tap That App – Books
.peaches. Tap That App – Laptop and Books

Apple Fall Plaster Candles
Apple Fall Books Occasional Table w/ Blanket
West Village Lily Leaves Spray
Apple Fall Books & Map

Dahlia – Vintage Memories – Bird & Books – RARE 3
Dahlia – Sika Affection – Books – VIP
Dahlia – Newport – Vintage Monochromatic – Books – Robin Egg

Di’Cor Indoor Planter [Group Gift]
Di’Cor Renee Candelabra [Floor]
Di’Cor Buddha Decor

dust bunny . hanging plants . ivy planter
dust bunny . sweet dreams . books

Elm. Nia Books [Blue]

hive // hanging devil’s ivy plant . light
hive // sleek hanging light . white

KraftWork  Farmhouse Romance . Bag of Hearts Rose @ Epiphany
KraftWork Farmhouse Romance . Lovers Rug Jeans @ Epiphany
KraftWork Farmhouse Romance . Wheel of Flowers Love Rose @ Epiphany

Loft & Aria – Brewer basket w/Books

REIGN.- BOOKS AND HEELS- # 22

Serenity Style– Jacob’s Books

tarte. draped curtain (ivory)

tres blah– Hodgepodge – Stacked Magazines
-tres blah- Hodgepodge – Wine Duet
-tres blah- Eclectic Collection – Hot Lips Phone (Pink)

striped mocha – hanging lotuses – white/green

Posted in CandyDoll, Events, Fashion, Home Decor, N21, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Matching Shoes

The shoes have to match! And if you’re not wearing anything, lay back in a sunset and let your shoes match your nipples. What? It’s a thing….ask Tyche, she matches her panties to her nipples…if she’s wearing any. *grins* If you’re a girl, go buy the shoes. If you’re a straight man….you’re welcome? *giggles* Yeah, that’s all I’ve got for this one.

shoes

wearing:
hair: .LeLutka.Dakota hair.
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
_CandyDoll_ Luiza Heels (*new* @ N21)

pose: Foxcity Sits Vol3 Set
Di’Cor Carson Leather Chair