Posted in Animals, Collabor88, DOUX, Events, Fashion, Glam Affair, Maitreya, Reign, Second Life, shoes, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative

Mondays Aren’t So Bad

Monday mornings are something that most people dread and complain about. A few years ago, I changed my mind about them. My sister, Kess, has always loved Mondays and it was her perspective that changed my mind, as well. You see, Mondays are the start to a whole new week. That means a fresh start, a fresh list of things to do…and if there’s things not finished from the week before? Welp, its a chance to tackle those things, too! I’m writing this on a Monday morning (not sure when I’ll actually post it) and I’ve already been knocking things off my list right and left. It feels so good to be so productive…even the sun is shining. While, most days I hiss at the sun, today it feels pretty damn good! So, for all those people that hate on Mondays, just change your perspective and you’ll see that Mondays aren’t so bad, afterall.

asteroid box doux reign rezzroom

wearing:
hair:  DOUX –  Marcela hairstyle @ Level
^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Avril Skin – Lelutka @ Cupid Inc.

AsteroidBox. Nina Suit @ Collabor88
REIGN.- LESLIE CHUNKY HEELS @ Collabor88

[Rezz Room] Pack European Cat Baby @ Equal10

pose: :LW: Bento Poses – Loving Art @ The Liaison Collaborative

location: BKLYN

 

Posted in Cynful, Dahlia, DOUX, Glam Affair, Lelutka, Maitreya, Second Life

Another Time Zone

Dating in Second Life can be tricky, especially when there are major time zone differences. Joe and I are making it work, but its not always easy. There’s a 7 hr difference between us and he’s got a pretty busy real life schedule. Fortunately for us, I’m available more often than I’m not. So, I’m able to work around his schedule more. Sometimes though, real life gets in the way and this picture epitomizes how it can feel sometimes when planning a surprise for the one you love in another time zone.

doux cynful dahlia peaches dustbunny

wearing:
hair:  DOUX –  Eleni hairstyle @ Equal10
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Ella Skin – Lelutka

Ascendant – Valentines Nails @ Cupid Inc
(Yummy) Bestie Ring Set @ Cupid Inc
Cae :: Eternal :: Collar @ Kinky
Cynful Strappy Set @ FaMESHed X

pose: :LW: BENTO Poses – Have It All

scene:
Dust Bunny & Con . Florence Bedroom . Bed . @ Anthem
Dust Bunny & Con . Florence Bedroom . Nighstand . Grey @ Anthem
Dust Bunny & Con . Florence Bedroom . Lamp . Silver @ Anthem

.peaches. Bae’s Journal – Lover

Dahlia – Posh – Champagne Tray – Brut / Silver @ Cupid Inc

Dahlia – Tranquility – Marble Candles – Silver @ Equal10

Posted in Events, Fashion, Glam Affair, Lelutka, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping

No Hat, Yet, Sis!

Would you look at that? Sady got herself a Valentine! Well, he found me, but the point is we’re together and we’re happy. It’s been a very long time since I seriously dated anyone in Second Life. I tried to date a friend of mine a few months ago, but that just didn’t work out for us and he eventually left Second Life. He even gave me his avatar. That’s two guys that have given me their avatars now…so, if you need a male model, hit me up! LOL Hmm, maybe I should change my name to the Black Widow! RIP Joe, you’re doomed now! Nah, I really like Joe…I might even love him…*blushes*
Alright, so I’ll fill you in…cuz everyone keeps asking the same question. “How did you meet?” Well, we actually met years ago at a club named Exodus that my sister owned. (Technically, she still owns it, but she closed it a few years ago.) Apparently he was a noob then and I was too caught up in some other bullshit to remember him. Though, to be fair, I did remember his name. Turns out he also dated a dear friend of mine. The minute I realized he had dated my friend, Tempy, I had to talk to her. Unlike so many people in the world, I don’t like to date men that my friends have dated. (Another reason I’ve been single so long.) Well, not only did Tempy give her blessing, but she’s become our biggest cheerleader. In fact, I’m not sure that I would even be with him now if not for her encouragement. Ffs, I got off track again! Why didn’t you stop me? I know…I know, you couldn’t if you tried.
Okay, so he hit me up on Facebook with a joke about a meme I had shared. He had my attention straight away with his sense of humor. From there, we met inworld to hang out…and well, we’ve been inseparable ever since. He’s pretty freaking amazing. He’s made me laugh, cry, yawn (time zones suck), and most of all…he’s made me very very happy. He’s even battled my demons (an ongoing job, sadly) and nothing I’ve done has run him off yet. *grins*  Now here’s the part that my sister will latch onto…he’s even mentioned a wedding..*shudders*…I told him he can propose on our one year anniversary. Until then, no more wedding talk…so to Kess, “NO HAT YET, SIS!”

tableau vivant blossom & seeds ana poses

wearing:
hair:  Tableau Vivant \\ Lovely hair @ Cupid Inc
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [Glam Affair] Ella Skin – Lelutka

Cae :: Eternal :: Collar @ Kinky
Blossom&Seeds Imperia @ FaMESHed X

pose: Ana Poses – Ebony Oak

scene:
BackBone Hanging Dream Lounger – Neutral

dust bunny . gentlemen’s treats basket @ Cupid Inc

.peaches. Be Mine – Candy Hearts
.peaches. Be Mine – Condom Clutter

Posted in Collabor88, DOUX, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

My Therapy

I initially began this blogging journey of mine as a form of therapy. Now I’m in actual therapy. As my therapy progresses, I’m getting to some pretty hardcore subject matter. Poking demons that I’ve struggled to shut down for most of my life. Things I couldn’t begin to get raw about in such a public format. As I work on myself more and more each week in my real life, I find my tolerance for some of the mental games that take place in Second Life getting smaller and smaller. I watch as other people completely melt down over things that seem so ridiculous, but I know that those people are feeling something so real. It absolutely breaks my heart to see people walking around with so much rage, hate, and misery. It’s truly sad to know that there are people out there that genuinely find joy in the faults of other people. I find it completely heart wrenching that some individuals find comfort in pointing out the flaws of other people. I am by no means perfect, but one thing I have never done is tell lies about people to make them look bad. I have never spread vicious rumors hoping to destroy someone else’s happiness. The world is ugly enough and I feel that it is up to us to be as positive as we can, to celebrate the success of others, to embrace the hopes of one another, to remove ourselves from situations that make us unhappy, so that we can truly share and promote that positive energy. I truly hope that anyone out there that is wasting their energy on hatred will find some inner peace so that they can find happiness. Just imagine a world full of happy people…isn’t it beautiful?

asteroid box doux gabriel little fox ana poses

wearing:
hair:  DOUX – Marie hairstyle @ Collabor88
^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Ginny (LeLutka&Bom) @ Uber

AsteroidBox. Crystal Collar @ ROMP
(Yummy) Bestie Ring Set @ Cupid Inc
::GB::Snood short sweter @ Collabor88
Little Fox – Harness leggings @ Anthem

pose by Ana Poses

Posted in Catwa, Events, Fashion, GingerFish, Gingerfish Poses, Maitreya, RAMA, Second Life, {le fil casse}

People DO Change

I really hate the phrase, “A leopard never changes its spots.” I disagree with the meaning behind it, completely. If meant literally, then its just a fact. However, it is rarely said with literal intent. It refers to people not being able to change their true character. I just do not believe that’s true. I believe that people can and do change, especially with age. Now, I understand that the phrase is actually refers to people’s innate traits, but again, I know that people DO change. I know they do, because I have…several times. The older I get, the more I evolve and change. I think that’s true about most people. No matter how old you, think back to who you were 7-10 yrs ago. I certainly hope you changed. We learn and we grow, to suggest otherwise is simply ridiculous to me. To suggest that someone cannot or will not change is really quite an insult. It’s like suggesting there’s no hope or reason to continue living and learning.

the garden
Then again, what do I know, I’m just another sexy avatar in a gorgeous leopard print bodysuit. *winks*

wearing:
hair: Navy+Copper – Ivy (*new* @ Belle)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
ears: .:[PUMEC] :. – / Mesh Ears\ – Winter Flower
SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia

{le fil casse} Payton Bodysuit (*new* @ ROMP)

pose: GingerFish Pose Lush set (*new* @ eBENTO)

#selfie_RAMA – Festival Flower Wall RARE

Posted in CandyDoll, Catwa, Collabor88, Eudora3D, Events, Fashion, Maitreya, RunAway Hair, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Love IS Blind

How many red flags do we ignore, because we THINK we’re in love? For whatever reason, we’ve set out sights on that person. Suddenly, all the signs that will be so crystal clear to us in the future are excusable.
There were so many signs when I first met my ex husband. He lied. Repeatedly. He lied about his job and I decided that he was just embarrassed by his actual position. He thought it would be more impressive if he had the same job as his friend that brought him into Second Life. I thought it was cute that he was worried about what I’d think. *rolls her eyes at herself* He lied about his living situation. He lived at home with his mother, but he told me he lived with a roommate. Again, I excused it as cute that he was worried about what I thought. That’s two lies before we even met in person. *sighs* He lied about sending me a package in the mail. Turns out, there never was a package. *hangs her head* I racked that up as a stupid lie, but no biggie. Just one of those lies should have been enough to turn my ass around and go the other direction.
He lied about several other things and yet…my dumbass still married him. Look where that got me! Now I’m not even sure he ever loved me. I think I was just an escape from a life he hated. *shrugs* It is what it is, but you can be damn sure I won’t be falling for that trap again!

love IS blind

wearing:
hair: [RA] Ary Hair – Fatpack (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
ears: .:[PUMEC] :. – / Mesh Ears\ – Winter Flower
SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia (*new* @ Cupid Inc)

Wicca’s Wardrobe – Elowen Necklace [Silver]
(Yummy) Art Deco Rings (*new* @ C88)

_CandyDoll_ Misty Dress (*new* @ C88)
Eudora3D Aerendyll (Enchantment)

pose by Bauhaus Movement combined with the pose in the hair hud
Helix – This is Sick Backdrops – The Bearded Guy (*new* @ Unik)

Posted in Catwa, Collabor88, Events, Fashion, Maitreya, Second Life, TMD

Fade Into You

“I want to hold the hand inside you
I want to take the breath that’s true
I look to you and I see nothing
I look to you to see the truth
You live your life, you go in shadows
You’ll come apart and you’ll go black
Some kind of night into your darkness
Colors your eyes with what’s not there
Fade into you
Strange you never knew
Fade into you
I think it’s strange you never knew
A stranger’s light comes on slowly
A stranger’s heart without a home
You put your hands into your head
And then smiles cover your heart
Fade into you
Strange you never knew
Fade into you
I think it’s strange you never knew”
~ Mazzy Star – Fade Into You

sweet home alabama

she is wearing:
hair: –FABIA– Mesh Hair < Silvia> (*new* @ Unik)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia (*new* @ Cupid Inc)
nails: alme. MS Gold Triangle Tip (*new* @ Belle)

(Yummy) Art Deco Rings (*new* @ C88)
[Aleutia] Betty Top & Panties (*new* @ ROMP)

pose: PURPLE POSES – Couple 692

**his hair: Dura-889 (*new* @ TMD)

for information regarding the background see previous post: Nothing Lasts

Posted in Catwa, Dahlia, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Foxcity, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping

Don’t Worry

“Let advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.” ~Winston Churchill

Do you find yourself beginning your thoughts with ‘what if?’ What if the store is out of my favorite brand of wine? What if I don’t get that job? What if rains tomorrow? Worrying about things that haven’t’ even happened puts you in a state of stress, where you waste so much energy worrying about things you have no control over.  Well, here’s a suggestion. Rather than focusing on all those ‘what ifs,’ that are on your mind, create a solutions list. If the store is out of your favorite wine, think about an adequate substitute. Afterall, that’s not the end of the world. Keep sending out your resume and take those interview appointments. What else are you going to do if you don’t get THAT job, right? Pick an outfit that won’t be destroyed by the rain, have an umbrella ready, and a hairstyle that won’t take on a mind of its own. Now if it rains, it doesn’t matter so much, because you are fully prepared and you’re going to look great!
By going from worrying to planning mode, you can have a variety of solutions on hand regardless of the outcome. Besides worrying doesn’t change anything, but planning sure can.

loveless

wearing:
hair: Moon. Hair // Unwritten (*new* @ Belle)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
amara beauty – Reflective Eyes (*new* @ Unik)
SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia (*new* @ Cupid Inc)

Dahlia – Jacqueline – Headband  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Dahlia – Jacqueline – Earrings  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Dahlia – Jacqueline – Necklace  (*new* @ FaMESHed)
(Yummy) Curator Rings Set
Ascendant – Flirt Nails (*new* @ Cupid Inc)
Narcisse– Jamie Sweater Dress ( (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: FOXCITY. Numb Bento Pose Set

Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Events, Gingerfish Poses, Maitreya, Pose Fair, Second Life, shopping

Best Part

I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day, but I will say that the very best part is the day after Valentine’s day when all the candy goes on sale! Mmmm, discounted chocolate! This year is going to be extra special, not only will there be a sale on chocolate but there’s a documentary coming out on Amazon Prime titled: Lorena. I’ll just let that sit with you all…*grins*…I just know that this year, I’m looking forward to February 15th. I’ll be curled up in my bed with a box of chocolate, a bottle of wine, and the remote….I can hardly wait!

best part of valentine's

wearing:
hair: TRUTH VIP Kaijah
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
SU!– Osanna Eyes (new @ LEVEL)
SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia (*new* @ Cupid Inc)

JUMO Originals – Amanda Earrings (*new* @ Unik)
DISORDERLY. / Rose Au Chocolat / Petits Box

Blueberry – Demi – Fur Stole & Dress Set

pose: GingerFish Poses – Candy is Dandy Set (*new* @ Pose Fair)
*****includes piece of chocolate in left hand
*****also comes with a heart shape box of chocolates not shown here

scene:
FOXCITY. Photo Booth – XO
FOXCITY. Optional Prop – Heart Clusters

Posted in Bondi, Events, Foxcity, Second Life, The Liaison Collaborative, TMD, Vanity Event

Heart Shaped Glasses

“Don’t break
Don’t break my heart
And I won’t break your heart-shaped glasses
Little girl, little girl
You should close your eyes
That blue is getting me high”
~ Marilyn Manson – Heart Shaped Glasses

heart shaped glasses
As if I could blog these glasses and not think of that song…lol.

wearing:
hair: –FABIA– Mesh Hair < Lera> (*new* @ TLC)
head: CATWA HEAD Denice
SU!– Piercing Set 07 Septum & Nose Studs
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: #PUMEC – Sophia (*new* @ Cupid Inc)

BONDI . The Mad Cupid Sunglasses (*new* @ Vanity)
Fortuna – jewelry set Angela (*new* @ Unik)
Astralia – Kitty chain ring
Ascendant – Flirt Nails (*new* @ Cupid Inc)
Yasum*Belinda* (*new* @ Unik)

pose: FOXCITY. Glitz Bento Pose Set
ninety – Odaiba Backdrop (*new* @ TMD)