Posted in Catwa, Events, Fashion, Foxcity, Kustom9, Maitreya, RunAway Hair, Second Life, Shiny Shabby, shoes, shopping, Tres Chic


I appreciate when my friends are compassionate and tell me that I should not feel guilty about something I’ve done or been part of by suggesting it was not my fault. Sadly, whether I am at fault or not, if I played a part in something that makes me FEEL guilty. I’m going to feel guilty. Nothing is going to change that until I forgive myself. People in SL love to warn other people about each other. I get it. If you are truly concerned about me, you want to protect me. However, how can you truly know how one person will be with me? Your experience is yours, not mine. So many times, I’ve been warned about someone I dated. The things I was warned about never happened to me. So, let me make my mistakes and stop trying to infect me with your fears. Furthermore, your enemies are not my enemies just because they are yours. If I choose to dislike someone, it is of my own accord, not because you told me to. This does not mean I am disloyal to you. It means I have a mind of my own. You can not wear a tag, proclaim to be something and expect me to respect your so called title or self appointed position in life, especially in SL. If you get my respect, you earned it. If you don’t deserve it, you sure as hell won’t get it.
I don’t need you permission to feel anything. I don’t need your permission to laugh, to cry, or even be hysterical. You do not live in my mind, you cannot possibly understand it the way you think you do. I joke around a lot about doing what I want, but in all seriousness? I DO WHAT I FUCKING WANT! You do not get to shame me for the way I speak, write, laugh, dance, flirt, or anything else. Your approval is not required, nor is it necessary. If you like me, fine. If you don’t, you are free to walk away. No one is going to beg you to stay. I’ve only chased one person in my life. I caught him, then I could hardly get rid of him. Now he’s dead. The lessons learned were mine, not yours. If you think I’m going to chase you for any reason, you’re in for a very long wait.
I’m not suggesting I will never ask for opinions or advice. I’m merely saying that I am in charge of my feelings, no one else. So, if I don’t feel guilt when you think I should….or I do feel guilty when you think I shouldn’t….fuck off and don’t tell me how to feel, motherfucker!


Sady is wearing:
hair:   [RA] Lana Hair – (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: Glam Affair – Polly – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – Jamaica
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Rise Again
07. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Bra Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
08. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Corset Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
09. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Thong Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
12. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Ears Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
15. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Collar Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
17. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Cuffs Black (*new* @ Epiphany)
19. Dead Dollz – PlayBunny Shoes RARE (*new* @ Epiphany)

pose: FOXCITY. Lucid Bento Pose Set (*new* @ Kustom9)
FOXCITY. Photo Booth – Feels (*new* @ Tres chic)
:CP: Winter Warmer Chaise (Adult) Biblio


Posted in Animals, CandyDoll, Catwa, Events, Fancy Decor, Fashion, Foxcity, Home Decor, Jian, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping, unKindness

Like Lovers Do

Hey Violet – Like Lovers Do

I see you watching me
Eyes on your target
Mix drinks and smoke rings
It’s already started
It won’t be too long before me and you
Are doing what lovers do
Clothes on the floor
We’re exploring our bodies
Getting you off is my new favorite hobby
Lipstick on your neck brands like a tattoo
Cause that just how lovers do
Oh, love is just another four letter word
But that never stopped nobody
Oh, either way we lose
Just like lovers, just like lovers do
His and hers closets are perfect for skeletons
Hiding resentment and shared infedelities
Cheers to regret, wash it down with some booze
Drinking like lovers do
Oh, love is just another four letter word
But that never stopped nobody
Oh, either way we lose
Just like lovers, just like lovers do
That’s how it goes
So take care like a grown-up
Life’s not a fairytale, it’s hard to own up
Hire a hitman to take care of you
And end it like lovers do
Oh, love is just another four letter word
But that never stopped nobody
Oh, either way we lose
Just like lovers, just like lovers do
I see you watching me
Eyes on your target
Mix drinks and smoke rings,
It’s already started
Let’s roll the dice and we’ll both make our moves
Playing like lovers do


hair: TRUTH Halona (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Uma
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
skin: DeeTaleZ  “Merrylu” Mixedtype
_CandyDoll_ Paula Dress

pose: Foxcity Beach Bunny Set

:CP: Dove Rug (*new* @ Uber)
Fancy Decor: Callot Cabinet (*new* @ Uber)
Fancy Decor: Annular Clock (silver)
Fancy Decor: Stack of Books II (*new* @ Uber)
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Catch All
Fancy Decor: Pinecone Candle (*new* @ Uber)
Fancy Decor: Callot Mirror (*new* @ Uber)
Refuge – Spark Lamp Shimmer Silver Larger
Dutchie maledom chair 2.0
Dutchie mesh leather poof chocolat
:CP: Dove Book & Tea (*new* @ Uber)
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Paper Pile
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Agenda RARE
[Commoner] Break-Up Survival Kit / Personal Massager
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Snail Mail
:CP: Dove Bench (*new* @ Uber)
Ariskea[Sage] Succulent 2
Ariskea[Sage] Succulent 1
Kinky Cat Decoration (Black)
Qausi – Pleasure Box
Quasi – Kink Toy Shelf V.2
JIAN Wall-Mounted Betta Tank (*new* @ Uber)
uK – Pony Girl Rocker Wood (*new* @ Kinky)

Posted in Apple Fall, Bound Box, Collabor88, Events, Fancy Decor, Jian, Pale Girl Productions, Second Life, Tannenbaum, unKindness

Warm On A Cold Night

I promise I’m trying to get back to actually writing wit my blogs, because its what I do. I’m just going through a hard time right now. I’ll be alright. I know that, but for now I am still hurting too much to talk about it.

Honne – Warm On A Cold Night

Like a rabbit in headlights
They’re stunned by all your charm
And I feel so damn lucky
To have you on my arm
And I can’t help but wonder
How we ended up alright
And I love you like no other
‘Cause this has never felt so right
Yeah you can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
Yeah you can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
I want to treat you something special
Give you what you deserve
I want to take you to paradise
In a 1950’s Merc
And I can’t help but wonder
Just how we ended up alright
And I love you like no other
And this has never felt so right
You can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
You can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
Girl you can keep me warm
You can keep me real warm
There’s just one thing
Girl you could have anyone
So why you choosing me and not leaving me on my own
Girl you could be with anyone
So thanks for making me your number one
You can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
Yeah you can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
Yeah wrap me up and keep warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night
Oh yeah you can keep me warm on a cold night
Warm on a cold cold night

Cuddle Weather

hair: TRUTH VIP November – Ginevra
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
*MC* Naughty & Nice Lingerie (Dec Bound Box)

pose: Foxcity On Point set

uK – Countryside Cottage (*new* @ C88)

Violetility – Winter Wonderbed (Dec Bound Box)

:CP: Winter Isle Lounge Set (*new* @ District20)
-:CP: Country Home Coffee Table Winter
-:CP: Country Home Chessboard
-:CP: Winter Isle Countdown
-:CP: Poetry Pinecone Lights
-:CP: Winter Isle Candles
-:CP: Winter Isle Deer

Kalopsia – Little Tree Deco
Kalopsia – Pompom Rug (white)

Mutresse-#Elfie-Naughty Elf (*new* @ Arcade)
Mutresse-Silenced-Naughty Elf (*new* @ Arcade)
Mutresse-Assasin-Naughty Elf (*new* @ Arcade)
Mutresse-Protesting-Naughty Elf (*new* @ Arcade)

O.M.E.N – Christmas Morning – Gift Box – Silver (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

Fancy Decor: Gordon Collection Fatpack (*new* @ C88)
-Fancy Decor: Pillar Fireplace (white)
-Fancy Decor: Pillar Candles (white)
-Fancy Decor: Gordon Candlestick (silver)
-Fancy Decor: Wooden Box (plain lid)

Fancy Decor: Cavalieri Side Table

SAYO – Joy Holiday Sign

Second Spaces – snow day books – messy stack

Di’Cor Rayon Living Set (*new* @ FaMESHed)
-Di’Cor Rayon Armchair
-Di’Cor Rayon Planter
-Di’Cor Rayon Photo Frames

Silence. – Make Today Amazing

Refuge – Spark Lamp Shimmer Silver Larger

NOMAD // Kitty Choir

PILOT – Gift Mouse [Deer]

The Loft – Tivoli Christmas Stockings

*HEXtraordinary* Vintage Ceramic Christmas Tree Light (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

Apple Fall Happy Santa Figure (Creamy)

JIAN Christmas Tree 2017 Decorated (*new* @ FaMESHed)

dust bunny . porcelain deer . ivory
dust bunny . knitted stool
dust bunny . cocoa & cookies tray

Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Fancy Decor, Fashion, Home Decor, Jian, Lybra, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Tannenbaum, Uber SL

Deva’s Question

I have to admit I was a bit nervous when I did the post, “Dangerous Proposition.” For one thing, I wasn’t sure if anyone would even read the post, much less comment with a suggestion. While there hasn’t been a great deal of responses, I did get enough to keep me writing a bit longer. Today, I’m going to attempt to answer Deva Westland. She said, “You know… one thing I would ask you, blog wise… is kind of that “What would you say to your younger self” thing. I know you gave excellent advice to new bloggers the other month, but is there anything you have learned about yourself, or SL/ your SL through blogging which has been interesting?”
Leave it to Deva to ask me such a loaded question. The problem with talking to myself in the past is that the younger me wouldn’t listen. She never did. I still don’t. I try to, I promise I do, but I’m a student of Hard Knocks. The most valuable lessons in my life have been learned the hardest way possible. I’ve learned a lot more about photography and a good bit about promoting my blog. I’ve learned to become a blog manager and that I actually love being a blog manager as if not more than blogging itself. I just love seeing how creative people can be and I’m blown away by some of the talent. It really does show when a blogger loves what they do vs a blogger that clearly does blogging for free stuff and attention. That’s about as clear of an answer as I can give, Devalicious. I’m not sure if I did your question justice, but I tried. ♥

blue xmas

hair:  .Olive. the Merry Hair (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
head: CATWA HEAD Lilly
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
LYBRA . Soft Coat Blue  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Blueberry – Cake Leggings
N-core ABBY (*new* @ District 20)
JIAN Portable Purritos 4. Grey (*new* @ Arcade)

pose: Foxcity Me Time Set

.gypsy heart. Festive Backdrops – Snowy Cliff (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
:CP: Vetur Twinkling Stars (*new* @ Uber)
Trompe Loeil – Hammered Silver Sleigh (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Wire Tree (silver)  (*new* @ Tannenbaum)
Fancy Decor: Tree Decorations 2 (*new* @ Tannenbaum)

Posted in CandyDoll, Events, Fashion, N21, Pretty Mess, Second Life, shopping, unKindness


There aren’t many guarantees in life, even the stuff sold with “satisfaction guaranteed” can’t really hold true. However, there’s one thing that never fails a woman with large breasts. Tanks tops! Sleep in a tank top or some slinky little nightie with spaghetti straps and you are guaranteed to wake up with one if not both of your titties out.


hair:  *Besom~Peach (*new* @ N21)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
[White~Widow] Charade – Black – RARE
Pretty Mess – Caasi (*new* @ N21)
_CandyDoll_ Nina Shorts (*new* @ N21)

pose: Foxcity Hair Days Set

:CP: Mimi’s Bakery Bed
:CP: Mimi’s Framed Cutter Art
uK – Betty’s Boudoir Lamp Table Zebra (*new* @ REWIND)
uK – Betty’s Boudoir Mirror Zebra (*new* @ REWIND)

Posted in Death Row Designs, Fancy Decor, Home Decor, Jian, Second Life, shopping, unKindness

Being Grateful

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~ Melody Beattie

Once upon a time I kept a gratitude journal to remind myself of things I had to be grateful for every single day. It’s funny how something so simple can change your perspective on everything. At first, I would do this every morning, to ensure a good attitude for the day. After a while, I notice that by the end of the day, I still had complaints. I had physical pain and I do every single day. Something might go wrong, a bad day at work…a bad hair day…cat got sick…fought with my mom, etc. Eventually, I decided it was better for me to write in my gratitude journal at the end of the day, because it made the bad things not so bad. So, that bad day at work? I was grateful to have a job. That bad hair day? Thank goodness it was long enough to pull up. My cat threw up? Well, at least it was nothing serious. I love my cat. Fought with my mom? I’m so glad to still have her in my life. There will always be things to bring us down, but we will also have things to be grateful for, too. If you are reading this, it means you have internet and that’s a luxury, believe it or not. Lots of people don’t even have a home, much less the internet. So, let’s all find some gratitude in our lives and change our perspective on the bad things in our lives. ♥

industrial loft


:HAIKEI: Old industrial skybox
Con.&floorplan. lazy chairs
Con.&floorplan. lazy sofa / black A
:CP: East Side Mono Rug
BALACLAVA!! Chevron Screens
dust bunny . potted rubber tree
dust bunny . fiddle leaf tree
DRD – GG – Disgruntled Cat Perch (October Group Gift)
JIAN Halloween ’17 Group Gift :: Disgruntled Lounging Cat (October Group Gift)
Fancy Decor: Chain Lamp
=EliBaily= Ivy
uK – Industrial Frames
Fancy Decor: Leather Pillow
Fancy Decor: Burlap Pillow
12 Fancy Decor: Tray Table
13 Fancy Decor: Lathed Candles
The Loft – Lotus Holder
NOMAD // Industrial Coffee Table // .07
15.erratic / lsm – magazine & news
Fancy Decor: Lock Box
The Loft – Yoga Tray
JIAN Feline Frights 11. Black Wanderer (*new* @ Epiphany)
Fancy Decor: Industrial Cabinet
Fancy Decor: Raven Canister
Fancy Decor: Books & Bookends (black)
Fancy Decor: Chain Candles
Fancy Decor: Belt Shelf
Fancy Decor: Potted Aloe
Fancy Decor: Leaning Frames
Fancy Decor: Edison Lamp
:CP: Modern Industrial Planter
:CP: Industrial Repurposed Explore
:CP: Industrial Repurposed Journey

Posted in Collabor88, Cosmopolitan, Cynful, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, pr!tty, Second Life, shopping, United Colors


So, Friday was my birthday and on Thursday night, Cynthia of Cynful presented me with the jeans you see in this post. Officially my new favorites, not just because I’ll never forget the name of them, but because they fit like a glove. I love these jeans so much! I can’t imagine that every thoughtful detail in these jeans was about me, but I certainly do appreciate every detail. The stitching, the ASS…omg, Josh’s response to my jeans was, “I want Cynthia to make my ass look THAT good!” To which I quickly replied, “SHE’S MINE AND YOU CAN’T HAVE HER!” *giggles* I will however generously share her with the rest of the ladies on the grid…you’re welcome. Ok, real quick about the details again…not only did she do her standard Belleza-Hourglass-Maitreya sizes, but she was thoughtful enough to create two fits for flat feet and heels.  As I recently acquired some adorable toe rings (not pictured) from Astralia…I’ve been running around barefoot all weekend.
Ok, so I had a full two day hangover! Listen, I have a problem, okay? I love tequila and it loves me…well, it used to. I think we broke up this weekend. Tequila is an abusive lover….*nods*…just seduces me over and over until before I know it, I’ve consumed an entire 750ml bottle of 1800 Gold. *hangs her head* I know, I know….I should be dead. A skype call did happen, but not like my old ones where I’d call everyone on my damn list…lol. This time I had Tracy and Grace watching out for me, trying their best to keep me in check. I still managed to say some pretty embarrassing things, luckily the company I keep these days is pretty good and I’m not too worried about being judged or them running about blabbing about my drunken rhetoric. God bless, Dusty, Joe, Tracy, and Grace for having to hear me puke my guts out…even though every time I could take a breath between heaves I’d call out, “I’m okay….” and “I’m sorrry.” To which I could hear them laughing, as I’m sure they found it quite humorous that I was worried about them having to listen to me puke. I’m pretty sure at one point I passed out briefly as I was informed later that I was basically afk for about 45 mins.  Needless to say, Saturday when I woke up I still felt drunk and very sluggish. While sober by Sunday, my mind was still a ball of fuzz. Monday is here now and I’m feeling back to my normal oddball sober self. Whew! I honestly don’t think my ass will be getting drunk ever…okay, for a very long time. *nods seriously*

I had a fantastic birthday and I am so grateful to all of my amazing and wonderful friends that found time to celebrate with me and to those that were quite sad that they weren’t able to make it. I am truly blessed with some of the most amazing friends on the grid. Never thought I could say that about so many people in SL and actually mean it. ♥

sweet dreams
Just kill me now, while I’m all cute in my new jeans.

hair: pr!tty – Jill (*new* @ Seasons Story)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body
tattoo: .Identity. Body Shop – Deep Within

SU!– Bento Piercing Set 03
SU!– Bento Piercing Set 03 Labret
SU!– Bento Piercing Set 03 Nose Rings
SU!– Bento Piercing Set 03 Snake Bites
SU!– Piercing Set 05 (*new* @ Industrie)
SU!– Piercing Set 05 Bridge
SU!– Piercing Set 05 Snakebites
EF: Sophistique Cuffs (*new* @ FaMESHed)
UC_Julie_Fringe_vest (For Max)
[Cynful] Sadystika’s Flare Jeans (*new* @ C88)

pose: FOXCITY. Slow Motion Bento Pose Set  (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)
:CP: Natalie Patio Sofa

Posted in Apple Fall, Death Row Designs, Home Decor, Second Life, unKindness

Living Room

One of the greatest parts of blogging decor is that when you move and new stuff starts coming out, not only do you have all these great rooms to decorate for your blog…you can leave it up to live in if you so choose! That’s exactly what I did with my latest unKindness items! I got the fireplace from the September round of FaMESHed and the frames on the mantel are currently at ManCave…it was all too perfect. Paired it all up with some of my favorite furnishings from the last couple of years and presto. I present to you my very eclectic boho living room. Yes, this is in my SL house…more stuff will end up on the shelves as I collect it but for now, this is how it looks and we love it! Click the photo to go on over to flickr and get a closer look!♥

living room

DRD – Boho Backyard – Curtains
DRD Boho rug
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Stacked Magazines
floorplan. photo box – Indee Teepee Gift
Apple Fall Mercantile Bookshelf
=Zenith=Little Groot
The Loft – Lotus Holder
TA Lotus Incense
Intrigue Co. – Plushie Pals: Stinky the Skunk
Zaara [home] : Copper frangipani bowl *pink*
(fd) Mortar And Pestle
Zaara [home] : 12 Jaipur blue pottery
Apple Fall Grass Pot
uK – Fireplace Fountain Vintage White
uK – Dude Art Floor Set (*new* @ ManCave)
[ keke ] the prince
Apple Fall Nardyas’ Tulips in Mason Jar
:CP: Desert Rose Lantern Lemon
[Con.] Hanging Fishing Float – Red
:CP: Desert Rose Lantern Lemon
Apple Fall Mercantile Bookshelf
:CP: Modern Industrial Planter
California- VW retro bus (Bazar)
ARIA– Dido Vase With Lillies
*HEXtraordinary* Flying Monkey Incense Burner – Gold
16.erratic / coc – butterfly jar
Intrigue Co. – Plushie Pals: Flight the Dragonfly – RARE
15.erratic / coc – dragonfly jar
The Loft – Yoga Tray
Zaara [home] : Ethnic lanterns RARE
:CP: Lotus Spa Ottoman Pink
junk. wannabe boho. rug. two. (store closed)
:CP: Desert Rose Sofa
:CP: Desert Rose Table
LISP – Mesh – Candle Diffuser Tray – With Flame 3li – Dark
tres blah– Hodgepodge – Wine Duet
BIGBULLY Clive Tea Set
:CP: Desert Rose Camp Rugs
GW Living Room Set Neat – Orchids
Trompe Loeil – Hanging Moon Chair Double

Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Mesh Body Addicts Fair, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

Something There

It had been such a long day at work. All she could think about was going home, letting her hair down and getting in the pool. She loved nothing more than lounging around the pool in evenings and tonight would be no exception. She even had a new bikini, not that anyone was going to see it…well, unless her hot new neighbor happened to join her. She still wasn’t sure if her neighbor was even into girls, but the company would be nice either way. A few drinks might bring out the truth and she had plenty to choose from, there was something there…whether her neighbor felt it or not, she sure as hell did.

its been a long day

hair: TRUTH Margarita (*new* @ Uber)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
eyeshadow: –SU!– Smokey Eyeshadow +CATWA APPLIER+
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[ kunst ] – Lucy choker (*new* @ Uber)
::SG:: RingQueen Nai MAITREYA (*new* @ MBA Fair)
Kaithleen’s Bikini (*new* @ MBA Fair)

pose by Foxcity edited with AnyPose
Trompe Loeil – Zohra Oasis
:CP: RollerDisco Slush
:CP: Natalie Patio Palm Plant
:CP: Natalie Table
{what next} Palisades Drinks Tray
:CP: S’mores Camp Lounger 1
Ariskea [ Porcelain] Tropical Plant 2

Posted in Events, Fashion, Home Decor, ON9, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping, The Annex, Uber SL

Sweet Dreams

Many years ago, seems more like a lifetime ago, I had a roommate that kept chocolates in her nightstand. At first I thought it was strange that she had chocolates at all, as she was very weight conscious to the point that her other friends and I would worry about her. However, she had quite a few nightly habits that I learned about over time. The chocolates were just one of them. You see, her thing with the chocolates was that she would eat one or two each night before bed. She said that was to insure she had sweet dreams. I did try this little trick and sometimes I can do it, but sadly, I’m much like my friend Tracy and I cannot stop with just one of two. I end up eating like five! Okay, Tracy would eat the whole bag, but this isn’t really about her. *laughs* Okay, its not really about anything, except me wishing all those that remember their dreams to have sweet ones, cuz I’m pretty sure I’ve cornered the market on weird ones and nightmares.

time for bed

:  TRUTH Taren (*new* @ Uber)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  [White~Widow] DarkTower  (*new* @ Uber)
The Annex – Ava Vintage Teddy

pose: FOXCITY. Show Off Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)

:CP: NorthHaven Bed
:CP: NorthHaven Night Table
:CP: NorthHaven Peony Jar
:CP: NorthHaven Lamp