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The 3F Rule

“I can swear, I can joke
I say what’s on my mind
If I drink, if I smoke
I keep up with the guys
And you see me holding up my middle finger to the world
Fuck your ribbons and your pearls
‘Cause I’m not just a pretty girl”
Maggie Lindemann – Pretty Girl

My mother was raised in a strict Christian home by a single mom that was too proud to accept charity of any kind, thus she worked three jobs to keep the bills paid. Yet, somehow never missed church or disciplining her daughters by reminding them to carry themselves a certain way. Afterall, what would people think? My father was raised in a very abusive home and was often hidden away from the public by his single mom. She would lock him in the basement on weekends so that she could pretend she only had two children, whose father had died during WWII. (Mind you he died in prison, not the war, but she conveniently left that part of the story out.) My father’s dad had left when he was only 3yrs old to pursue his drinking and drug addictions. Eventually my father joined the U.S. Army, where once again, life was all about appearances.
Needless to say, my parents expected me to behave a certain way. They taught me how to converse with adults politely, then disappear, as children were meant to be seen, not heard. My parents finally divorced when I was in high school and my mother was so beside herself with grief that she quit imposing so many rules on me. That was when I began to develop my own style and discover the person I wanted to be. I didn’t want to cater to society’s norms. I wanted to in the exit door and leave through the entrance. I wanted to wear short skirts over leggings with ripped tee shirts and wild hair.
For years, my mother tried to make me a princess. She wanted to decorate my room with ruffles and canopy beds. I wanted my mattress on the floor with tons of pillows. She quickly became very much like her own mother and repeatedly said to me, “What will people think?”
I didn’t care what people thought! If they didn’t know me, how could they have a proper impression of me? Based on my clothes? The color of my skin? The color of my hair? My eyes? Eventually I discovered the 3F rule and I’ve pretty much lived my life that way ever since.
The 3F rule is simple: If you are not Feeding me, Financing me, or Fucking me….you get no say in how I live my life and your opinion means nothing to me. I was never going to be what my mother wanted me to be, nor did I want to. Yes, she was feeding me and financing me at the time, but she still needed to let me be me…or there would be a fight. There were many of those over the years until she realized she was never going to win. I was not going to be this super feminine little princess that sat around waiting for some prince charming, because I learned early on…you can never truly know another person. The only person you can truly know is yourself and that’s the person you should be true to.

The 3F Rule

hair.:EMO-tions.. *PAOLA* (*new* @ Vintage Fair)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara

.LYBRA . SADIE (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose by GingerFish Poses
background: RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Circles Studio

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What if….Happy Plate

Alright, boys and girls and everything in between, gather round…its time for another disturbing peak into the meanderings of Sady’s mind.
Earlier today, my mother cooked the most delicious meal of grilled pork chops, mashed potatoes with gravy, green beans, and cheddar biscuits. As my fork dove into the green beans I thought, “I’m about to make a very happy plate out of this meal.” Now, that may sound rather odd to some of you, but growing up in the South (I can’t speak for other regions) it was fairly common for mommas to tell their kids to make a happy plate or no dessert or you can’t go back out to play or  some other dire consequence that no child wants to hear. So, the goal was to make a happy plate. To make a happy plate, you had to eat everything on the plate.
So, as I found myself thinking that I was about to make a happy plate (with no consequences other than a full belly) I thought to myself, “What if…plates were actually happier when the food was on them?” I know! What if all this time we’ve been robbing these poor plates of their joy by taking away the only thing that indeed does make them happy. Afterall, we all want to serve a purpose, right? What purpose does a plate serve while tucked away nice and clean….and EMPTY in a cabinet? What joy can be found by lying around dirty in a sink piled up with other dirty dishes and utensils? What if moms had been making the happy plates all along, only they didn’t know it? Worse yet, moms were sadistic and actually wanted to steal the joy of the plates? We weren’t making happy plates at all…we were serving evil mothers and their maniacal manifests! *gasps* We were making UNhappy plates!
As I finished my plate, I knew that it was a silly notion. I mean, plates are inanimate objects without feelings, right? My mouth was happy. My tummy was happy. Mom was certainly happy that I enjoyed the meal. The plate served it’s purpose, right? It held my food for me…so, the plate WAS happy…for a little while.

happy-plate2

One thing is for sure, my pixels are hella happy in this Goal Digger dress from Cynful. I swear that store is named correctly, because this dress is cynfully delicious! I’ve dressed it up with jewels, but there are some pretty slay worthy stripe options available with this dress…so slay worthy, in fact, that the word Slay is proudly displayed across the back. Not to worry, that’s only with the sporty stripes. If you want to shine and go out sleek and elegant, then save the stripes for another day. This dress is so complete, you don’t even need to wear your body under it. Wanna save on complexity? Take off the body, wear some hands and feet, you’re all set. And we all know that for every HUD you remove you improve your performance and cut down on your contribution to lag.
There was some serious time and work put into this design and it shows. Looks at how the wrinkles and shadows of the material are strategically placed, making it look so realistic and yummy! To put it in the words of the first man that saw me in this dress, “WOW! That dress is gorgeous! You look amazing!”
So to all of you I wish happy plates, happy pixels, and happy shopping! *winks*

wearing:
hair:.Shi Hair : Discorded / Unisex (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
head: CATWA HEAD Catya
ears: .:E.A.Studio Ear Nepthune
skin: [theSkinnery] Opal (Catwa Applier) honey
eyeshadow: Izzie’s  – Soft Shimmer Eyeshadows (Catwa Applier)
lipstick: ::SG::  Clara Lips for CATWA Heads only!
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
hands: -VA-F-VISTA BENTO PROHANDS FEM

EF: Communique Full Jewelry Set
[Cynful] Goal Digger Dress (*new* @ Collabor88)

poses by Gingerfish Poses -Curves Set