Posted in Catwa, Collabor88, Cynful, Events, Foxcity, Reign, Second Life, shoes, shopping

The Five Year Rule

Quite some time ago, I saw a Cher interview in which she said that he mother gave her some advice that she now calls the five year rule, “If its not going to matter in five years, then its doesn’t matter.”

Clearly, this is easier done than said, but when you really think about it, its good sensible advice. I’ve applied this as often as I can and it certainly helps with the little stuff. Oddly enough all that little stuff adds up and once you let go of the anger over all that little stuff, its like a giant weight off your shoulders. Like you got rid of a huge problem, but really you just let go of the little ones. It really can make a big difference in your daily life. So, the next time you find yourself getting upset over something, ask yourself if it will matter in five years.

princess

wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Latte Hair (*new* @ C88)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
eyes: –SU!- Astrid Eyes
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Emmy (*new* @ C88)

(Yummy) Comfy Cozy Ring Set (*new* @ C88)
[Cynful] Pajama Silk Set (*new* @ C88)
REIGN.- UNICORN SLIPPERS

pose: FOXCITY. Partition Bento Pose Set
[Merak] – Leather Loveseat (White)

Posted in CandyDoll, Catwa, Events, Fashion, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

Dear Customers

Dear Customers,

Obviously, this is not aimed at every single customer in the world or even on the grid. However, it is aimed at enough people that I took it upon myself to use a blog post for the article. I’m not going to bitch at you or try to insult you, because customers are wonderful. Yet, there seems to a few things in Second Life that most customers seemed to be a bit confused about, so I’m going to try and help both the customer, as well as the designer, with a few helpful tips.

  1. Contacting the designer for any reason. First thing I recommend is looking at the designer’s profile. Most designers have specific instructions for common issues and a list of contacts for the fastest response. Follow those instructions. I promise, they’re there for a reason.
  2. Keep it Simple. Whatever the directions say to do…do it. Don’t go over the stop with long drawn out explanations. Designers are smart, they know what keywords mean. So, instead of explaining why you made a double purchase, just stated: Double purchase….and whatever else the designer needs from you.
  3. Transaction History. People, please, learn what this is…it is your friend and can save you so much frustration down the road. It surprises me how many people don’t know how to do this. You go to SecondLife.com  and log in. On the left, there’s a drop down menu for Account, then a clear and precise option for Transaction History. This will open up a variety of options with your most recent transactions listed, along with other pertinent information. Copy & paste what you need.
  4. Be polite & patient. Chances are if you’re having an issue with the fit or not receiving your item, other people might be, too. The designer might be dealing with complaints as quickly as possible. Being nasty and rushing the designer is not going to encourage them to help you any faster.
  5. Designers are human, too. Please remember that just like you, designers are people with lives in RL and some even manage to have one in SL. However, they are very busy and deserve some time off without having to hide on an alt. Being courteous takes you a long way.
  6. Profiles are important. Please read designer profiles, customer service profiles, etc. Make sure you are contacting the correct person and it might not hurt to double check what your sending to make sure its got all the right info.
  7. Legacy names matter! I personally like to sign my notecards with a copy of my calling card. Just type your name into your inventory search and you’ll find yours. This makes it easier for the designer to find you. However, if for some reason a calling card is too difficult for you…-_-…please copy your legacy name, not your display name. You cannot be searched by display name and it is not the designer’s job to play detective to figure out who sent them what.

That’s it for now, my lovelies. However, my regular readers know I love doing these “Dear _______” posts. So, there you have it, the first directed at customers. Happy Shopping!

mornings

wearing:
hair:  DOUX – Danna hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
^^Swallow^^ Princess Bento Rings
_CandyDoll_ Noelia (*new* @ UBER)

pose: [KoKoLoReS] Coffee Break pose pack (includes coffee cup)

Posted in Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Home Decor, Reverie, Second Life, The Liaison Collaborative, {le fil casse}

What I Am

Somethings never change. *laughs* So, I have boxes of notebooks and loose papers filled with words I’ve written, notes I’ve taken, letters, poems, short stories, essays…just anything and everything. So, I’ve been going through a lot of this stuff, realizing that I don’t need a lot of this crap and since I’m sort of starting over, why not declutter my life before I turn into a hoarder, right? I got really tickled as I was going through this one notebook. I remember I had sat down with my friends and stacks of note paper. We sat around drinking coffee, laughing, talking, and whenever one of us thought of a good topic for me to write about or a question for me to answer, we wrote it down, folded up the paper and dropped it in this shoebox. The goal was to take out a piece of paper at least once or twice a week, and respond to the topic, date it, and maybe, if I felt like it, I would share with them later on. I didn’t.

However, I came upon that notebook and found an entry dated the 2nd of February, 1999. So, twenty years ago, here’s what I wrote in response to a topic that said: My Worst Habits

I’d have to say that my worst habit would be smoking cigarettes. I’ve tried to quit several times. Apparently, I have not tired hard enough. I also cuss way too much. It’s not attractive, ladylike, or professional Its unnecessary and I need to quit that, too. I procrastinate too much. I smoke too much weed. It has affected my memory and it makes me lazy. I don’t think I’ll ever quit all together, but I surely need to ease up. I have a lot of bad habits and I need to make a list of the ones I want to change, and if need be, replace them with more positive ones.

Just to drive home the point of me sharing this…I still smoke, I still cuss too much, procrastination has become an art form, and I still smoke weed. Though not nearly as much as I did back then. I think back then, I smoked no less than a couple ounces a week. *shrugs* I had a good deal in place and that was my life. Those were some good times, but the real point is a line from one of my favorite songs ever, “What I am is what I am…”
If you don’t know Edie Brickell & New Bohemians….check it out. Yes, its older than most of my readers, but like all the best music…it is timeless.♥

little decisions

wearing:
hair:  .ICONIC.JEWEL. (*new* @ TLC)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
^^Swallow^^ Princess Ears
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola
{le fil casse} Beverly Dress  (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose by Bauhaus Movement

scene:
Nutmeg. Distressed Grand Piano Dark
Nutmeg. Vintage Metronome
DaD – Blowing Curtain B
{Reverie} Honey Pie Aged Books and Candles

Posted in Bueno, Catwa, Events, FaMESHed, Fashion, Lamb, Second Life, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative, Uber SL

Cruel Wold

“I’m putting you out of your misery
‘Cause darling you’re dragging me down
I wish I could say that I’m sorry
But I’m over that, now I’m taking you out
It’s a cruel, cruel world
I used to see beauty in people
But now I see muscle and bones
You know I never wanted to hurt you
But I’m sorry, my friend, this is the end
So I’m saying my goodbyes
Goodbye to my good side
It only ever got me hurt
And I finally learned
It’s a cruel, cruel world
It’s a cruel, cruel world
Erase you from my mind
I’m sorry, but I
I’m cutting all the ties
So I’m saying my goodbyes
Goodbye to my good side
It only ever got me hurt
And I finally learned
It’s a cruel, cruel world
It’s a cruel, cruel world
Cruel, cruel world”
~ Phantogram – Cruel World

in the eye of the beholder

wearing:
hair: Lamb. Wildflower (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

NANIKA Lillith
BUENO-Mini Vest (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: an lar [poses] The Katya Series (*new* @ TLC)
location: The Forty Thieves Hideaway

Posted in Bueno, CandyDoll, Catwa, FaMESHed, GingerFish, Gingerfish Poses, Gos, Landscaping, RunAway Hair, Second Life, shoes, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative

Recharged

I’ve made this conscious decision not to let this year get the best of me, but the truth is I battle with depression and even more so in the last few years. My friend, Tracy, told me one of the most profound statements about depression that has ever stuck with me. She said, “Depression lies.” I really analyzed that statement or perhaps my demons did in the hopes they could prove it untrue. In my effort to deny my depression too much power, I’ve resorted to sleep. Though sleep often eludes me, there are certain combinations of medications that will knock me out for hours on end. Obviously, I cannot take these medications daily for regular sleep, or I’d be full blown addicted in no time. However, when my view of everything in the world is tainted by depression and cynicism, I know its time to avoid people and turn my back on the world. I know I need to shut down. Let my demons have my dreams. I can wake up from those. I can’t always shake the thoughts the demons plant. Today was one of those days. I was overwhelmed with loneliness and pain and envy…self-doubt…self-pity…self-loathing. The list goes on and on. Today was a day like that. It can be paralyzing which is just another reason why its easier to sleep than battle my demons. Today, my only defense was shutting down and hiding under my blankets. I’m recharged now and ready to fight back, wish me luck. ♥

wishing for a wish

wearing:
hair: [RA] Stacy Hair (*new* @ FaMESHed)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

_CandyDoll_ Domi Jumpsuit (*new* @ Kinky)
[Gos] Tamara Ankle Boots (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: GingerFish Poses – Gloss set (*new* @ TLC)

scene:
anxiety %chicago build1
BUENO-NightSpot Loft Building
BUENO-After Hours Loft Building

Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Cynful, Exploration, Fashion, GingerFish, Gingerfish Poses, RunAway Hair, Second Life, shopping

Bowl of Weedies

Watching YouTube videos in the morning with a nice bowl of weedies, it just gets the day off to a great start. That fresh cup of tea or coffee, freshly sticky packed bowl, and a whole day to yourself. It’s not something I do very often, but on the rare occasion that I do, it really is quite special. Listen to what YOU want, sleep, eat….or don’t…go outside…do whatever you want…So, if you’ve never waked and baked, I highly recommend it…at least once. Take a day to yourself and just let go…let your mind travel to places you never imagined it could go.snapshot_064

wearing:
hair:  [RA] Joyce Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

:::ChicChica::: Unisex bong
[Cynful] Adore Sweater
Blueberry – Juju – Pleated Skirt
Izzie’s – Fishnet Stockings

pose: GingerFish Poses – Give Good Face

location: The Forty Thieves Hideaway

Posted in Catwa, Cynful, Events, Exploration, FaMESHed, Fashion, Second Life, shopping

Sady goes red!

That’s right, part of the changes for the new year, include a new primary hair color. I’ve had dark red hair in both worlds over the years. After a life changing event 3 yrs ago, I bleached the red from my real hair and swore off the color. I thought things couldn’t get worse than they did in 2015, but the world has gone out its way to prove me wrong. I had red real hair when I started Second Life in 2006. In Second Life, I started off all tan with black hair. By Easter of 2007, I was in red hair and didn’t change until probably 2012 or so…then I slid into blond and stayed there for the most part. Meanwhile, in real life, I kept the red hair all but one year until Jan of 2016. I’ve been blond in both worlds ever since. This year I’m reclaiming the things I’ve always loved, but have punished myself with deprivation of said things simply because someone else in my life didn’t like it. I’ve walked around broken glass, because of other people’s paranoia, suspicions, and unfounded accusations. I’ve let so many people use me and trample over my for so long that I forgot who I am.

I am the girl that does what she wants, says what she wants…and if you really want to know how I feel about something, you just have to ask, because my lack of filter delivers the truth. So, brace yourselves, cuz Sady is starting this new year on fire! (You might see a few more blond pics that were taken before NYE.)

Turning Red

wearing:
hair: DOUX – Angeline hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

[Cynful] Adore Sweater
[Cynful] A Girl’s Thing Jeggings Set (*new* @ FaMESHed)

pose: *!R.O!* Picture This BENTO Pose
location: The Forty Thieves Hideaway

Posted in Blueberry, Catwa, Events, Fashion, Lamb, Legal Insanity, Second Life, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative, Uber SL, vinyl

Just sit next to me

“Don’t say nothing
Just sit next to me
Don’t say nothing, shh
Just be, just be, just be”
~ Paloma Faith – Just Be

take time to relax

Sady is wearing:
hair: Lamb. Wildflower (*new* @ Uber)
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

Blueberry – Juju – Sweater
VINYL – Fallout Open Fly Jeans (*new* @ Uber)

pose: CORPUS – Pyaar (*new* @ TLC)

Cruel is wearing: Legal Insanity – Fitz jeans outfit

Posted in Catwa, Collabor88, Cynful, Second Life, shopping

A Ski Mask and Some Rope

Tracy Redangel met my Challenge to Challenge post by suggesting a ski mask and a jump rope. I swear I think she chose those things just to get me worked up. She knows my mind is going straight to porn! However, as the holidays have been exceptionally hard on me this year, I can’t help but think of all the good uses for a ski mask and a rope…like hanging my ex from a tree…or his whore. Both bring a nice little smile to my face. Thank goodness its not illegal to fantasize about murder. I could never actually do it, of course, but these thoughts dance through my head often. Especially when you go to a party and see another ex there with the whore HE left you for, too. Yeah, I get it. I suck. Don’t date me…oh wait…that would imply someone was trying. *cracks up*
So goes life, I’ll just be over here with my murderous fantasies. *grins*All I Need Now

wearing:
hair: DOUX  – Zoe hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

[BODY FACTORY] Shanks Mask
*FU*KME* COLLAR CHRISTMAS BLACK POM POMS
[Cynful] Aurora’s Classy Shawl (@ Collabor88 until Jan 6th)
[Cynful] Aurora’s Classy Dress (@ Collabor88 until Jan 6th)

Posted in CandyDoll, Catwa, Collabor88, Events, Exploration, Fashion, Foxcity, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Diamonds & Mud

Yes, I’m still processing challenges from my Challenge to Challenge post. Today I’m addressing RubyStarlight Writer‘s challenge. She suggested diamonds & mud. Unfortunately, I’m very sick in RL and all I can think of is that a stripper named Diamonds is a star mud wrestler. Yeah, I know, its weak, but so am I atm. I’m sorry, Ruby. Right now, I just want to crawl into a grave and pull a blanket of dirt over me.

sounds like a fairy tale

wearing:
hair: DOUX – Zoe hairstyle
head: CATWA HEAD Lona
body: –Belleza– Freya
skin: [theSkinnery] Paola

.random.Matter. – Moonbul Glasses
_CandyDoll_ Izzy Blouse (C88 until Jan 6th)
_CandyDoll_ Izzy Leggings
_CandyDoll_ Izzy Boots

pose: FOXCITY. Loner Bento Pose Set (*new* @ Limit8)
location:  The Forty Thieves Hideaway