Posted in Catwa, DOUX, Fashion, Home Decor, Maitreya, Second Life, shopping, Uber SL

Just Dinner and a Movie

While setting up for this picture, I was thinking about how awkward it can be on a first date. That got me to thinking about one of the worst dates I’ve ever been on in real life. I had signed up for one of those online dating websites, long before smart phones and dating apps were even a thing. Like match.com or something along those lines. Anyway, I had been talking to this one guy quite a bit in an instant messenger kinda thing. In fact, it was probably on yahoo, cuz that’s what I used all the time back in the day. We finally decided to meet for dinner and a movie. I agreed to meet him at a shopping center.
When he arrived, his appearance startled me. He wasn’t a bad looking man, but his clothes were long out of style and ill fitting. Right away, I felt that inner sigh and thought, “Okay, its just dinner and a movie. Not big deal.” He wanted to go into the store for some cough drops, so I agreed to go in with him. I was familiar with the store and he wasn’t, so I knew I could show him right where they were. For a solid ten minutes he carried on about a $0.25 price difference between name brand and store brand. My thought quickly became an silent mantra, “It’s just dinner and a movie.”
He wanted to drive, so we hopped in his car and headed for the deli that we had agreed upon. We were keeping this light and casual. “It’s just dinner and a movie.” Given that he had been so seemingly offended by the price of some cough drops, I had decided to myself that I would be paying my own way. (I never go on a date without being able to cover my own costs.) I ordered my food and paid for it without even hinting for him to pay for it, then stepped aside so he could order his own. We didn’t talk about that at all, we simply had an awkward conversation about his recent divorce while we ate. Dinner was fine and I was feeling a bit better about the date.
We get to the theater and I let him approach the ticket booth first. I was curious to see if he’d at least offer to buy my ticket. He did. I was actually surprised that he asked for two tickets and paid without hesitation. Of course, as we went inside he made a comment about how the concession stands were a complete and total scam. I couldn’t argue with that, plus I wasn’t expecting anything after the cough drop debacle. He tried to hold my hand during the movie. He was rejected. I was not interested in holding his hand. At this point he had already been friend zoned.
After the movie, we’re riding back to my car and I’m looking at his CDs. I said, “You can tell a lot about a person by the type of music they keep in their car.” (This was true, once up on a time.) He was curious what I thought of his collection and proudly announced that his favorite band was Nickelback. He even asked me what that said about him. My reply was, “That you lack an introduction to better music.” *grins* Not surprisingly, he had never heard of Perfect Circle, which I was obsessed with at the time. So upon getting to my car, I grabbed a CD and we sat and listened to a few songs in his car. *sighs* This is when things took a drastic turn.
The song, The Nurse Who Loved Me, started playing. Less than two minutes into the song he starts bawling like a teenaged girl after her first break up. I didn’t know what to say. When the song was finished, he explained that his ex wife was a nurse. She had cheated on him repeatedly and dragged him through a very muddy divorce. I listened and nodded. Meanwhile, I’m thinking that I’ve got to get out of here. He finally stopped crying and carrying on about his horrible ex wife. I opened the door and thanked him for the date….THEN he had the nerve to ask if he could see me again. I shook my head and said, “Dude, you’re not ready to date yet. You need to get over your wife before you date anyone else.”
I closed the door and went home. I couldn’t help but laugh, because I knew I would be telling this story for years to come.

doux addams barley

Cruel is wearing:
hair: Dura-B89
head: CATWA HEAD Daniel
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Darkness Ears
body: [Signature] Gianni Body

::GB:: Lip piercing
::GB::Graphic Bomber Jacket @ Uber
::GB::Striped sweatpants @ Uber

Sady is wearing:
hair:  DOUX – Oribe hairstyle
head: LeLUTKA Nova Head 1.0
ears: ^^Swallow^^ Charm Ears
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
skin: [theSkinnery] Ginny (LeLutka&Bom) @ Uber

Addams // Addison Wrapped Scarf
Addams // Addison Loose Sweater
Addams // Addison Leather Pants with Belt
Addams // Addison Mid Heel Boots

poses in the stools listed below

scene:
Barley – Austin Complete Set @ Belle
-Barley – Austin Bar Table
-Barley – Austin Coffee Wall Rack
-Barley – Austin Stool
-Barley – Austin Table Tray
-Barley – Coffee Sign
-Barley – Rose Trio Set
-Barley – Single Cup of Coffee
-Barley – Love Breakfast Tray

Posted in Animals, Apple Fall, Bueno, crate, DOUX, Events, Fashion, GenusProject, Glam Affair, Home Decor, Maitreya, Second Life

Settle Down

Hold on, to me as we go
As we roll down this unfamiliar road
And although this wave (wave) is stringing us along
Just know you’re not alone
Cause I’m gonna make this place your home

Settle down, it’ll all be clear
Don’t pay no mind to the demons
They fill you with fear
The trouble it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found
~ Phillip Phillips – Home

tetra reign crate barley rezz

wearing:
hair: DOUX – Paula hairstyle
head: GENUS Project – Genus Head – Classic Face
skin: [Glam Affair] Nina Applier [ Genus ] @ Anthem
body: Maitreya Mesh Body

TETRA – Neva – Bomber jacket
TETRA – Neva – Turtleneck
TETRA – Neva – Leggings
REIGN.- KODI BOOTIES

holding:
BUENO– Taco Bag
REIGN.- DEAN BUCKETBAG @ FaMESHed

pose: Secret Poses – Annie 3

decor:
AF Paris Loft Skybox RARE

Barley – Scandinavia @ SaNaRae
Barley – Scandinavia Bench – Teal – PG
Barley – Scandinavia Books
Barley – Scandinavia Wall Art

crate Dandelion Daybed Set
crate Dandelion Daybed Side Table
crate Dandelion Daybed Rug
crate Dandelion Daybed PG
crate Dandelion Daybed Accent Tree
crate Dandelion Daybed Pendant Lamp

DISORDERLY. / Cozy Piles / Tea & Cookies

Mithral * Vertical Wall Pipe Hanger (Silver)
Mithral * Monstera Adansonii (White Pot)
Mithral * Maranta Red Herringbone (Copper Pot)
Mithral * Lemon Lime Philodendron (Wood Pot)
Mithral * Arrowhead Plant (White Pot)
Mithral * Hanging Propagation Set (Light Wood)
Mithral * Philodendron Verrucosum (Concrete Pot)
Mithral * Philodendron Plowmanii (Concrete Pot)
Mithral * Anthurium Clarinervium (White Pot)
Mithral * Hanging Philodendron Micans (Concrete Pot)
Mithral * Anthurium Vittarifolium (Wood Pot)
Mithral * Branch Wall Display (Blue Glass)

[Rezz Room] British Shorthair Running
[Rezz Room] British Shorthair Jumping
[Rezz Room] Adult Labrador Retriever Animesh (Companion)
[Rezz Room] Bengal Cat Play
[Rezz Room] Cat Toy

Posted in Bueno, crate, Events, Kustom9, Second Life

Solitude

“There are days when solitude is a heady wine that intoxicates you with freedom, others when it is a bitter tonic, and still others when it is a poison that makes you beat your head against the wall.”
― Sidonie-Gabrielle Colette, Oeuvres complètes en seize volumes

barley crate consignment

[Con.] Mobile Library – Black LI: 5

BUENO– Rug -Block LI: 6

C L A Vv. Glass Ball Lamps Mono LI: 2 @ Kustom9

crate Swingers Sofa – Black LI: 7 @ FaMESHed X (until Jan 6)

Fancy Decor: Ruben Canvas LI: 1

Barley – Napa Valley @ Belle
Barley – Wine Wall Rack 1
Barley – Wine Floor Rack
Barley – Wine & Wisdom Chalkboard Sign
Barley – Cheers Bitches Chalkboard Sign
Barley – Wine & Laugh Chalkboard Sign
Barley – Wine Time Chalkboard Sign

[andika New year’s Cake Set]count down//4Li @ Kustom9
[andika New year’s Cake Set]Table @ Kustom9

Hangry – Wine – Merlot {Rez} @ Kustom9
Hangry – Veggie n Pepperoni Pizza {Rez} @ Kustom9

02_{-Maru Kado-} Cat2_sleep (1Li) @ The Epiphany
03_{-Maru Kado-} Cat2_sleep (1Li) @ The Epiphany
RARE_{-Maru Kado-} Cat2_bite (4Li) @ The Epiphany
10_{-Maru Kado-} Cat2_sit (1Li) @ The Epiphany

Posted in crate, Dahlia, Home Decor, N21, Second Life, Shiny Shabby, shopping

The Fullness of Life

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. ~ Melody Beattie

nutmeg barley dahlia foxwood

MINIMAL – Noble Skybox

Ayla. Old Scars @ Shiny Shabby
-Ayla. Old Scars – Book Pedestal
-Ayla. Old Scars – Crystal Chandelier
-Ayla. Old Scars – Lace Frame
-Ayla. Old Scars – Ornate Chair (grey)
-Ayla. Old Scars – Picture Frame

5. Ayla. – Christmas Goodies – Snowman Drinks @ Epiphany
9. Ayla. – Christmas Goodies – Cinnamon Sticks Board @ Epiphany

Ayla. Autumnal Tones – Mouse Lamp (lying)
Ayla. Autumnal Tones – Mouse Lamp (sitting)
Ayla. Autumnal Tones – Mouse Lamp (standing)

Ayla. Loft Bedroom – Laundry Sack
Ayla. Loft Bedroom – Pillow w/Cloth

Barley – Cornwall Set @ N21
-Barley – Cornwall Set – Hanging Shelf
-Barley Cornwall Set – Charcoal Dresser

16 – crate Lofty Livin Art Frame

Dahlia – Amore – Gem Chocolates – White
Dahlia – Amore Frame – Brown
Dahlia – Baby Robert – Antique Lamp – Copper – 2
Dahlia – Babylon Eclectic – Handbag – Brown – RARE 1
Dahlia – Concetta – Closed – Tea Tin – Green
Dahlia – Conjure – Black Magic – Crystal Ball
Dahlia – Conjure – Dried Herbs – Cumin
Dahlia – Conjure – Energy Ball – Black Moonstone
Dahlia – Denmark – Blanket – Beige
Dahlia – Gokotta – Bon Bons – Chocolate – Spilled 20
Dahlia – Gokotta – Croissants 14
Dahlia – Gokotta – Cushion – Green 8
Dahlia – Gokotta – Flower Arrangement 3
Dahlia – Gokotta – Lounging Pillow – Beige 6

Foxwood – Cozy Wingback – Leather
Foxwood – Cozy Kitty – Chair
Foxwood – Cozy Kitty – Lay Decor

Mithral * Branch Wall Display (Blue Glass)

Nutmeg. Warm Respite Set @ Shiny Shabby
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Armchair Adult
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Books
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Console Table/V1
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Fireplace Tools
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Fireplace/V1_1
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Firewood Bins/V2
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Floor Blanket
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Lamp Long
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Messy Armchair Adult
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Ottoman Cuddle
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Papers Bonus Item
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Rug Adult
-Nutmeg. Warm Respite Tray

Nutmeg. Attic Hideout Vase1
Nutmeg. Attic Hideout Vase2
Nutmeg. Attic Hideout Vase3

Nutmeg. Countryside Dream Books w/Spruce Branch
Nutmeg. Countryside Dream Knitting
Nutmeg. Countryside Dream Wooden Chest

Nutmeg. Disarray Bag w/ Papers Beige
Nutmeg. Disarray Clutter
Nutmeg. Disarray Old Jar Plant
Nutmeg. Disarray Wicker Basket Light v2
Nutmeg. Disarray Wooden Candlestick
Nutmeg. Disarray Wooden Candlestick 2

Nutmeg. Vintage Metronome

Posted in Apple Fall, N21, Prism Events, Second Life, shopping, Tannenbaum, Uber SL

Why wait?

“My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?”
― Bob Hope

barley and more
The stockings are for Grace, Kess, Sady, & Tracy. ♥ I love you all.

22769 – Vintage Santa Wood Statue LI: 2 @ Tannenbaum

Apple Fall Pine Cone Garland LI: 4
Apple Fall Heritage Christmas Tree – Golden White LI: 16
9. AF Christmas Banner (Santa) LI: 1

DISORDERLY. / Golden Pines @ Belle
DISORDERLY. / Golden Pines / Loose / Painted LI: 1
DISORDERLY. / Golden Pines / Trees / Painted LI: 1
DISORDERLY. / Golden Pines / Stands / Painted LI: 1
DISORDERLY. / Golden Pines / Deer / Painted LI: 1
DISORDERLY. / Golden Pines / Vases / Painted LI: 1

floorplan. paper x-mas tree LI: 1

+Half-Deer+ Christmas Stocking – Unicorn (White-Polkadot) LI: 3 @ Tannenbaum
+Half-Deer+ Christmas Stocking – PomPom (Green-Knit) LI: 3 @ Tannenbaum
+Half-Deer+ Christmas Stocking – Paw (White-Polkadot) LI: 3 @ Tannenbaum
+Half-Deer+ Christmas Stocking – Wings (Red) LI: 3 @ Tannenbaum

JIAN Kitten Booties :: Decor Sleepies (Rez me!) LI: 1

Jian :: Silly Shibes – Sleepy Pup RARE LI: 9

KraftWork Christmas Poem Night @ Tannenbaum
KraftWork Christmas Poem Night Pillows Adult LI: 2
KraftWork Christmas Poem Night . Wool LI: 4
KraftWork Christmas Poem Night Rug LI: 3

KraftWork Sienna’s American Pleat Curtain LI: 2 @ Uber

O.M.E.N – Waiting for Santa Paws – Knotty Dog LI: 6

Refuge – Tree Frame Red Animated
Refuge – Tree Frame Natural Animated
Refuge – Tree Frame Green Animated
Refuge – Winter Scene Twinkling Stars

Barley – Montreal Complete Set @ N21
Barley – Montreal Flower Pot w/ Cones
Barley – Montreal Crate w/ Cones
Barley – Montreal Candlestick
Barley – Montreal Stool w/ Pillows
Barley – Montreal Wreath Decor
Barley – Montreal Lantern
Barley – Montreal Shot Glasses Decor
Barley – Montreal Candles w/ Holder
Barley – Montreal FIreplace
Barley – Montreal Window Decor
Barley – Montreal Shutter Decor

Posted in Animals, Blueberry, Collabor88, Events, GenusProject, Kustom9, Prism Events, Second Life, Tannenbaum

Cherish one another, please.

I’ve spent the majority of my adult Christmases alone. This year won’t be very different. It’s not a great feeling and its one I wish no one ever had to feel. It can be absolute hell for some and the darkest of hours for others. I’m not suggesting that anyone hover over their friends, but please…if each of us take a moment to reach out and wish each other a good day…offer a shoulder if needed or able…a silly little joke…something personal. Not just a generic, “hey, how are you?” Ask something that requires them to think of an answer, not give you that auto pilot reply, “I’m fine.” If we all do this for one another, we will remind one another that we matter….all of us matter. Be kind and grateful to one another and for one another. There are no guarantees that they will still be part of our lives next year. Cherish one another, please.

prism barley blueberr tableau

hair:  Tableau Vivant // Avril hair  @ Collabor88  (Nov)
head: Genus Head – Baby Face
body: [LEGACY] Meshbody (f) (1.1)
skin:  — PUMEC #RARE 2 – KATE – MAY   @ Kustom9

Astralia Clothing – Xmas Flamingo Sweater FLF Nov 29, 2019
Blueberry – Power Play – Jeans
Blueberry – Power Play – Boots

pose in:
Xmas Ladder Tree (Adult) CHEZ MOI LI: 12 @ Tannenbaum
w/Xmas Gifts CHEZ MOI LI: 1

22769 – Dear Santa LI: 1

Ariskea[December] Star Wreath LI: 3

hive // fir tree . a LI: 3
hive // fir tree . b LI: 4
hive // fir tree A . snowy LI: 4

[Merak] – Christel’s Daybed PG LI: 15 @ Tannenbaum

PLAAKA SquirrelNutCracker

[Rezz Room] Pomeranian Snowman Animesh @ Tannenbaum

Barley – Raleigh Complete Set @ Belle
Barley – Raleigh Candle Holder – Black
Barley – Raleigh Accents
Barley – Raleigh Wall Centerpiece – Black
Barley – Raleigh Cannister
Barley – Raleigh Side Table 1
Barley – Raleigh Presents
Barley – Raleigh Candlesticks
Barley – Raleigh Home Sweet Home Pillow

Junk Food – I Believe Snowglobe @ Tannenbaum

Yokai – Plush Christmas @ Tannenbaum
2.Yokai – Plush Christmas – Santa Teddy Bear (red)
1.Yokai – Plush Christmas – Plush Christmas Gift RARE
13.Yokai – Plush Christmas – Candy Teddy Bear (green)

Yokai – Glowing Teddy Deer (Frost) @ Collabor88  (Nov)

*HEXtraordinary* Sitting Krampus Plushie- Chocolate @ Tannenbaum

 

 

Posted in Chic Moda, Eudora3D, Events, Fashion, GenusProject, Glam Affair, Home Decor, Kustom9, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

Clean Breaks

I’m not sure what it is about the holidays and the new year that pushes people forward…to make hard decisions and stand by them. Perhaps it has more to do with New Year’s…New Year, new me, new resolutions. We all make some sort of resolutions in the new year. We might not declare them with punch drunk pride, but inwardly I think most of kind of vow to do better. It’s a time for clean breaks and fresh starts. So, to all of you ripping off those painful but long overdue bandaids….Here’s to making the hard decisions and all their consequences. *raises a glass*

chicmoda barley

fashion:
hair: Stealthic – Allure
head: Genus Head – Baby Face
body: [LEGACY] Meshbody (f) (1.1)
skin:  [Glam Affair] Lady Applier @ Belle
lipstick: alaskametro<3 “Holly” lipstick @ Uber

[ILAYA] Madita Necklace @ Uber
ChicModa // Penny Sweater Dress @ Uber
Eudora3D River Boots @ Uber

pose: Diversion – Cold Days @ Belle

decor:
Barley – Oslo Complete Set @ Access
-lamp, table, basket, & accents

[Merak] – Emma’s Armchair @ Kustom9
[Merak] – Emma’s Otoman @ Kustom9

[Merak] – Fall Blankets

JIAN Kitten Booties :: Decor Sleepies

[BDKX] -//- Merry Krampus

 

Posted in crate, Events, Home Decor, Second Life, shopping, The Liaison Collaborative, {what next}

So torn

I am so torn right now between the Autumn decor that is everywhere and the holiday decor that is falling across the grid like a steady snowfall. I’m doing my best to squeeze in as much Autumn as I can before we slide into full blown Winter. Naturally, I will need to take a beach break along the way at some point, cuz BIKINIS! I am falling more and more in love with decor by the day. This can’t be a surprise given the influx of decor posts I’ve been dropping lately. Its not my fault. Look at the stuff in this scene! Between Crate, Barley, and Sway’s…what was I supposed to do? Resist? Ok, I’m going to need you to put that crack pipe down now.

barley crate sway &amp; more

22769 – Autumn Cage LI: 6

*alirium* DwarfForest [Ember] LI: 3

crate Harvest Entryway  Set @ Belle
crate Harvest Entryway Branch Bag LI: 2
crate Harvest Entryway Bench P.G LI: 2
crate Harvest Entryway Pumpkin Chandelier LI: 6
crate Harvest Entryway Shelf LI: 2
crate Harvest Entryway Trunk LI: 2

#2 Elm. “Book Nook Gacha” Autumn Suitcase LI: 3

HPMD* Garden Tree09 with Lights – red a LI: 7

hive // start of autumn journal . group gift LI: 1

SAYO – Fallen Autumn Set – Foliage Deco LI: 6

Sway’s [Lukas] Autumn Porch @ The Liaison Collaborative
Sway’s [Lukas] Autumn Porch LI: 18
Sway’s [Lukas] Autumn leaves on floor LI: 2
Sway’s [Lukas] Bench LI: 5

{what next} Fall Harvest Wheelbarrow LI: 6

Barley – Autumn is Here Set 
Barley – Autumn is Here Tartan Pillow
Barley – Autumn is Here Tray w/ Pitcher and Cups
Barley – Autumn is Here Mugs
Barley – Autumn is Here Medium Pumpkin
Barley – Autumn is Here Set
Barley – Autumn is Here Little Pumpkin
Barley – Autumn is Here Sign
Barley – Autumn is Here Pumpkin w/ a Message
Barley – Autumn is Here Pumpkin Duo
Barley – Autumn is Here Pumpkin Bucket
Barley – Autumn is Here Linen Pillow
Barley – Autumn is Here – Paris in the Fall Pillow

Posted in Events, Home Decor, Kustom9, Second Life

A little teaser

Okay, I know I’m an atheist, but I absolutely love Christmas! For the past few years, I’ve been in such a dark place I’ve been oblivious to the holidays for the most part. Not this year! This year, I’ve got the bug and I’m excited about decorating and embracing the spirit of the holiday. I’m not financially capable of giving out gifts the way I’d like to, but I’m definitely full of holiday cheer. So, here’s just a little teaser of things to come. ♥

Barley Nutmeg

Barley – End of Fall Set @ Enchantment
-Barley – End of Fall Wall Decor
-Barley – End of Fall Rocking Chair
-Barley – End of Fall Fir Tree
-Barley – End of Fall Crate
-Barley – End of Fall Boots

Nutmeg. Holiday Clutter Complete Set @ Kustom9
-Nutmeg. Holiday Clutter Books
-Nutmeg. Holiday Clutter Ladder w/Decor
-Nutmeg. Holiday Clutter Stool / 1
-Nutmeg. Holiday Clutter Wooden Angel Bonus Item