A strong spirit transcends rules. ~Prince

How true it is…I just wrote yesterday about “differentness” and how I struggled to find my place in the world after we quit moving. Prince played such a huge role in my road of self discovery. I’ll share one quick story and then get on with the picture and credits, because I’m just very sad today. We lost such an amazing talent and truly magnificent spirit.

In the 8th grade (shut it about my age), a group of us would all meet in the band room to listen to Prince’s Controversy album, because none of our parents would let us listen to it at home. That album means more to me than most people would imagine. R.I.P. Prince and thank you for sharing yourself with the world. ❤


IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)
Moon. Hair // – Blondes – Mysterons (*new* at C88)
.Shi : Headphone [V1.Black] RARE
[Cynful] Hey Bae Top – Eggplant
[Cynful] Hey Bae Pants – Eggplant
*MUKA* Garter Thigh Socks – Lara
{Livalle} Chyna -Lace up Platform Boots

pose: Purple Poses Trish 02

decor left to right:
[ keke ] huge cozy up pillow – pink
::KKs:: Paint your life – pillow crown
floorplan. record shelf / stained
Stereo & components (floor records & cassettes): [ kunst ] – Vintage (complete set)
Toro. Wallhanging + Lights {Morrocan}
Apt B // Douze Roses – Crate Pillows

BAZAR  Stockholm-Headphones (decor) & Stockholm-Music tapes
:CP: East Side Blush Rug

photographed in:
Apt B // Old & Rusted – Attic RARE



“I didn’t belong as a kid, and that always bothered me. If only I’d known that one day my differentness would be an asset, then my early life would have been much easier.”
Bette Midler

My father was a soldier in the U.S. Army. While very young (2-10yrs old), we moved a lot. Each time we did, I would reinvent myself…hoping that I would fit in. Sometimes it worked. Sometimes it didn’t. Eventually we quit moving and I was lost. I didn’t know how to continue being just one person. I longed to reinvent myself again and again. The only way I could do that was with fashion and for many years, I was considered quite odd as I might dress punk, but hang out with preps….it only got weirder when I began mixing different styles into my own little mad creations. I think this is one of the biggest reasons that I love Second Life and have become such an intense shopaholic in a virtual world. Fashion. I can be preppy today and hardcore Goth the next or better yet? Mix them up! Its fantastic fun…at least for me…and since you’re reading a blog about SL fashion, I’m going to guess you agree. *winks* (BTW, more events going on than I can shake a stick at, so there’s more reasons than ever to SHOP TIL YOU DROP)

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IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)
Tattoo: [White~Widow] Charade – Black – RARE (*new* at Epiphany)
Hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Monica – Basics (*new* at Kustom9)
Gloves: **RE** Bad-Kitty Gloves Pack 2 – RARE (*new* at Epiphany)
Arnbands & bracelets: **RE** MoonFlight Bracelets FatPack
Necklace: ::TI:: Black Feather Collar
Chest: *EB* Neck Corset – “Pia” (*new* at Cosmopolitan)
Corset: *EB* Corset – “Pia” (*new* at Cosmopolitan)
Skirt: [Cynful] Leather Mini Skirt (*new* at Cosmopolitan)
Boots: Phedora. Willow High Boots

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(yes, that skirt is that short….you’re welcome…*wiggles & giggles*)

A Butterfly

Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.  ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

I cannot think of a single thing to say that could elaborate on this quote. It is simple and direct. This quote serves as a reminder to be patient and keep your eyes open. That elusive butterfly will eventually land upon you and when it can be truly marvelous.

In the meantime….let there be shopping!


IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)
hair: Exile::Dancing on my own 16. Sparkle RARE
necklace: EarthStones Butterfly Necklace – Whisper
holding: .Enfant Terrible. Moondchild animated butterfly black
dress: UC_Floral_corset_black (*new* at The Liaison Collaborative)
shoes: N-core BUTTERFLY “Silver”


Good Girl

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”
Anaïs Nin

I’m by no means about to blog about bdsm or the D/s lifestyle. Believe it or not, even I have some limits, but I will say that from the right man…those two words, “good girl”
…well, they make parts of me melt and on that note, take a gander of some of the deliciously naughty goodies on display…NOT ME, you pervs…*winks*

good girl

IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)
hair: +Spellbound+ Lost // Chapter I : Earth (*new* at ROMP)
lingerie: [HoR] Lacey ♥black exclusive fatpack bonus♥ – (*new* at Bombshells)
collar & cuffs: **RE** ReVoX Avo Set
rings: ieQED chaos.ring 1, 3, 4, & 8 (*new* at Kustom9)

pose: . Infiniti . – Good Girl – 8 (*new* at ROMP)

Spirit of Wine

O thou invisible spirit of wine, if thou hast no name to be known by, let us call thee devil. William Shakespeare

Those that know me well, know that Tequila is my drink of choice, but on occasion I do enjoy a nice glass of wine. I’ve been exploring red wines quite a bit recently and have discovered I’m not a fan of California Reds, but I’ve taken quite a liking to Italian Reds. On that lovely grape flavored note…I enjoyed a virtual glass while posing about on BellePoses’  Nic Bath Sofa which I snagged while shopping The 100 Block yesterday morning. Perhaps I had more wine than I should have…as you can see, by the time I was done…well, I needed a nap.


.LeLutka.Dakota hair
IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)
{ Speakeasy } Crazy Cat Lady Tattoo (*new* at The Season’s Story)
OXIDE Emee Necklace
[HoR] Lace front Bodysuit – Pale Pink- Omega
POMPOSITY – Handcuff Leash Holder Ring No.2 (The 100 Block)
#EMPIRE – Crocus (*new* at The Season’s Story)

also pictured:
BellePoses – Nic Bath Sofa (*new* at The 100 Block)
:CP: Stardreamer Rugs

Wine 2

Keep Busy

“One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.” ~Lucille Ball

What a great quote and something I’ve definitely applied to my life lately. As life spins out of control around me, I desperately grasp at anything I can control as somewhat of an anchor. I watched my best friend, Kess, go through a whirlwind of emotional hurricanes recently. My heart ached for her, as she struggled with all that was going on in both her real life and second life. I learned something from her during that time and it was just this very topic. Keep busy and control what you can. I’ll never be able to thank her enough for her continued support and the life lessons she’s shared with me. Nor can I thank my other dearest friends…Tracy, Grace, and Ava for their encouragement and support as my life continues to spin out of control.

With that said, this was part of the reason I decided to rejoin the blogging world and in doing so I’ve encountered some amazing people. One such person is the lovely Olgita Ruby, the owner of [HoR] House of Ruby. She taught me that my name in Russian translates to sadist female, which tickled me to no end, then she was kind enough to show me how my name looks in Cyrillic. (Садистка) On that note, let me tease you a bit with a shot of one of her many lovely designs. I do hope that your minds will all be open to learning something new today and above all else, keep your chins up, and keep busy. ♥


Moon. Hair // – Blondes – Mysterons (*new* at C88)
IKON Triumph Eyes – Glass
Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[theSkinnery] Sonya (Catwa Applier) – honey (*new* at C88)

lingerie: [HoR] Hearts Lace Bodysuit (with stockings) – Baby Blue – Omega
shoes: #EMPIRE – Sage (group gift)

Raise Hell

Its Friday and every Friday I make a conscious decision on whether or not to drink and raise a little hell in Second Life. A lot of this depends on my closest friends. Let’s face it, getting drunk alone in front of a computer screen…just sad, but do that shit with some of your best friends on skype and the next thing you know you’re flashing your pretty black bra just as your best friend’s husband walks past her screen to catch this live video performance.

Either way it goes, I think tonight I’m going to kick up my heels and raise a little hell…so if you see me out and about on the grid tonight, play nice…cuz depending on my poison…well…my name is Sadystika for a reason. *winks*

I raise my glass to all of you and hope that you have a great weekend, whether you choose to be naughty, nice, or a little of both. Please drink responsibly (gigglesnorts)….okay, just don’t drink and drive, k? Stay your ass at home…hell, IM me inworld if need be, but lose those keys! ❤

raise hell

Catwa Head Sarah
Maitreya Body Lara
[theSkinnery] Grace (Catwa & Maitreya Appliers)
[White~Widow] Midnight in Paris
IKON Odyssey Eyes – Apex
.LeLutka.Dakota hair

upper arms: [LNS DESIGNS ]CIRCE ARM TORQ (black)
goggles: K_gs Patrick
face piercings: :HV: The Minimalist [Ink]
belly piercing: ~Misha Jesuil~ Belly Ring Heart for Maitreya Lara
blunt: *The Collective* Rolled Joint (100% Mesh) v3

**RE** Coraline Gloves Maitreya (Tres Chic)
:::insanya::: JaneTop – Solid Pack (anyBODY)
Blueberry – Lola Shorts – Black
Phedora. Marfin boots (anyBODY)

Background: RAMA – #selfie_RAMA Modern Garage
Willow Home – Vintage Pipe Light – Copper
[ zerkalo ] Wheels (deco)
bike: [sau]mouse[Lite][Black]
Cans: [Commoner] Binge Watcher’s Survival Kit / Energy Drinks & .Reckless. Craft Beer
moonshine jar (inworld freebie, hit me up for a free copy)