Posted in Events, Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping


The whole point of the REWIND event is to take us back in time, let us have some fun with some looks of yesteryear. Well, they’ve done it quite successfully this round. Not only did the stores nail the theme, but the layout of this event made me want to go back before its over and take some pictures. I just hope I remember. *laughs*
By far one of my absolute favorite finds is the Vivienne Outfit from Dead Dollz. This is for several reasons. For one thing, the name reminds me of one of my favorite shows from the 80s, The Young Ones. I could not help but think of Vyvyan Basterd and how much I loved that show. There were only like 12 episodes, but I saw them all more than once and it never failed that my mother would walk in during one of the most disgusting scenes. Being a clean freak, she would shudder and wonder wtf was wrong with me!
Another reason I love this outfit is the bold yellow and navy option I chose…well, it has me feeling a bit like a punk super hero! I could crash lame parties and bring them to life with the likes of Sex Pistols, Dead Kennedys, Black Flag, and The Ramones! I could get down and show them some rocking moves as the party slid into a more chill feeling with some David Bowie! You’re feeling it, too, huh? Yeah, this event definitely brought me to life in some very fun ways!
Go get your REWIND on and see what you come up with, because there’s absolutely no shortage of plaid, black, skulls, and safety pins at this round.

serenade me

Sady is wearing:
hair: Moon. Hair. // Edge (*new* @ REWIND)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Sintiklia – Nancy Choker (*new* @ REWIND)
Astralia – Punk is not dead Bracelet (Bento Maitreya) (*new* @ REWIND)
.::Dead Dollz::. Vivienne Outfit (*new* @ REWIND)
#EMPIRE – Coreopsis

pose by Del May
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *3* (*new* @ REWIND)

Posted in Events, Fashion,, Kustom9, Pretty Mess, RedMint, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

The Edge

Its a music blog. Why? Because the world makes me sad and the lyrics to this song have really been weighing heavy on my mind lately. So, I’ll provide you with the link and this time, just a few of the lyrics. You can look up the rest if you feel so inclined. I don’t have a whole lot to say, because well, I just don’t. Shocking, I know, but even I run out of things to say sometimes.

Aerosmith Livin On the Edge

“If chicken little tells you that the sky is fallin’
Even if it wasn’t would you still come crawlin’
Back again
I bet you would my friend
Again and again and again and again and again”


hair(r)M Hair, No.49’17
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: DeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Blueberry – Shyla – Knotted Top
Pretty Mess – Jersey Skirt (*new* @ Uber)
fri. – Edie Sandals (*new* @ Kustom9)

pose by Bauhaus Movement
location: Hazardous

Posted in Events, Exploration, Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping, The Annex, We <3 Role-Play

Welcome To My Darkness

“Welcome to my darkness, I been here a while
Clouding up the sunlight, hurting for a smile
Or something, but something always turns into nothing….

….Acting like I’m heartless, I do it all the time
That don’t mean I’m scarless, that don’t mean I’m fine
But you’ll see, when someone else makes you this way”
Bishop Briggs – Dark Side

Its no secret that I have a dark side, I make jokes about my dark side being the side of me that likes pink, girly things like unicorns and cupcakes. I’m actually not a huge fan of those things, but its hard to hate things that bring so much joy to others. The truth is that my dark side is probably my truest side. Few people in my life have seen the darkest parts of my soul and I doubt anyone else ever will. I work really hard to keep it in check, because it can frighten people. It makes life harder than it already is.
Even the mild hints at my dark side tend to frighten people. My fascination with black clothes had my mother convinced I was a devil worshiper when I was only 19 and at one point I had black hair with blonde roots, as I am naturally blond. I was obsessed with Robert Smith of The Cure and did my make up a lot like his. Goth wasn’t a thing then, not like now. At my last job, all my co-workers had scriptures and crosses…family photos decorating their cubicles. I had skulls and dragons. When I told them I’m not a Christian, they assumed I was a devil worshiper, too. I had to explain that atheists don’t believe in the devil either. *laughs*
As, I’ve grown older, I have found more of a balance between the dark and the light. It’s helped me quite a bit and opened my world in ways I never imagined possible, but I will always embrace the dark as much if not more than the light. Its just who I am. Just like I will probably always go to sleep with the TV on…the only shows being those about crime, naturally….preferably serial killers. *grins*
I’ve recently made some changes to the way I’m blogging. I’ve been writing short stories or scenarios to go along with the photo. This is just a way to bring that balance into my creativity. I love writing, but I will admit that I’ve enjoyed writing the scenes much more than opening myself up and sharing such intimate parts of myself. I can’t promise that I will always write a story or scenario for each post, but I do think I’ll be doing it a lot more in the future. I hope that you, my readers, enjoy them as much as I do. If not, there’s always the option to just scroll on down to the details. ♥

dragon lady

: (r)M Hair, No.53’17  (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Kibi – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – America (*new* @ Crystal Heart)
eyes: :Conviction: Viscous Eyes [HUD]
eyeshadow: –SU!– Smokey Eyeshadow
lipstick: –SU!– The Matte Lip Poison
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
*katat0nik* (dark) Cloud Dragon
The Annex – Mei Cheongsam (*new* @ We<3Role-Play)

pose by Bauhaus Movement
location: Sky Willow Asian Escape

Posted in Events, FaMESHed, Fancy Decor, Home Decor, Landscaping, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping, unKindness

Presentation is Everything

When I was growing up, my mom always made a thing about meals. The table had to be set just right. If food was being put on the table it had to be in just the right serving dishes with just the right serving spoons/forks. I was always fascinated by her dinner rituals. The table had to be set before she would begin cookiing. There had to be a table cloth and place mats. The silverware had to match and be just so. I’d ask her why setting the table in such a manner was so important and she would say, “Presentation is everything!”
As I got older, I realized that not only was my mother just a decor nut, but she loved cooking and she loved showcasing the meals she had so lovingly prepared. Even the simplest of meals had to be prepared a certain way. A sandwich with chips/crisps had to be cut diagonally and spread apart with the chips/crisps piled up between the two halves. As a teen I would roll my eyes are this and think she was absolutely crazy. Now, I realize she’s rubbed off on me and not only do I also like to present my plates of a food in an attractive manner, but I love a well set table.

the table

From watching cooking shows, I’ve learned that the more beautiful the presentation, the more likely the diner will enjoy the meal. Something about the psychology of the food being pleasing to the eye. I’m grateful that I grew up in a home where we dined together, even though many of our family meals were awkwardly silent. *laughs*
Now, in Second Life, I find myself bringing some of that tradition into my SL homes. Despite the fact that I don’t do family RP and rarely “use” the kitchen or the dining room. I feel like I must have both! Luckily for me, I can set any kind of table I want…anywhere I want. I love the idea of outdoor dinner parties so I’ve brought together two of my favorite designers, unKindness and Fancy Decor to create my own beautiful dining presentation.

dinner party

Fancy Decor: Concrete Block
uK – Villa Pergola Dark (*new* @ Limit8)
Fancy Decor: Davis Long Panel
Fancy Decor: Davis Fence Window
uK – uK – Metal Stiks w/Lights L.E. Silver (*new & Limited Edition* @ Limit8)
dust bunny . pilea peper plant (*new* @ FaMESHed)
dust bunny . areca palm plant (*new* @ FaMESHed)
dust bunny . pink medinilla plant (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Monstera Print A (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Trompe Loeil – Caparra Wall Ivy Corner Left + Lights
Trompe Loeil – Caparra Wall Ivy Corner Right + Lights
Fancy Decor: Monstera Print B (*new* @ FaMESHed)
dust bunny . potted rubber tree (*new* @ FaMESHed)
DRD – Industrial hanging lights
Fancy Decor: Bonham Rug (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Bonham Dining Table (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Triangle Candle (silver) (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Forest – Wine botttles by Bazar
Fancy Decor: Turvy Wine Glass (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Bonham Place Setting (silver) (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Fancy Decor: Geometric Placemat (*new* @ FaMESHed)
Forest – Flower pot by Bazar

Posted in Bueno, Events, Fashion, Gingerfish Poses, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Waiting Game

Alright, so this is going to be another lyrics post and I’m going to add a little something at the end. Feel free to listen, read along, or skip to the details. *winks* You know I’ll never know.

BANKS – Waiting Game

I’m thinking it over
The way you make me feel all sexy but it’s causing me shame
I wanna lean on your shoulder
I wish I was in love but I don’t wanna cause any pain
And if I’m feeling like I’m evil, we’ve got nothing to gain

What if I never even see you cause we’re both on a stage
Don’t tell me listen to your song because it isn’t the same
I don’t wanna say your love is a waiting game

Baby I’m thinking it over
What if the way we started made it something cursed from the start
What if it only gets colder
Would you still wrap me up and tell me that you think this was smart
Cause lately I’ve been scared of even thinking ’bout where we are

What if I never even see you cause we’re both on a stage
Don’t tell me listen to your song because it isn’t the same
I don’t wanna say your love is a waiting game

What if I never even see you cause we’re both on a stage
Don’t tell me listen to your song because it isn’t the same
I don’t wanna say your love is a waiting game

need you now

I played this song for Josh while I was preparing this post and he just wrapped me in his arms and whispered, “It was smart.”
I melted as last night was our 7 month anniversary. For some that doesn’t seem like a long time, for others its an eternity. For me, its something pretty special, because I honestly thought I had a four month expiration date as the last 3 people I dated in SL never stuck around longer than 4 months, regardless of who decided to end it. So, to Josh, I have this to say, “If your love is a waiting game…I’ll wait.”♥

: #Foxy – Vixen Hair  (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
skin: Glam Affair – Kibi – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – America (*new* @ Crystal Heart)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
BUENO-Jun Bikini Top (*new* @ Uber)
BUENO-Denim Cut Shorts (*new* @ Uber)

Exposeur – Erik’s Moroccan Oasis – Gold (*new* @ The Gacha Guardians)
*****contains poses by GingerFish Poses******

Posted in Events, Fashion, Mina Hair, Phedora, Second Life, Self Reflection, Shiny Shabby, shoes, shopping, {le fil casse}

Dark Side of the Moon

So, the Crystal Heart event started and Sailor Moon seems to be an ever present influence on this event. I’ll be honest, I don’t know a lot about this event and probably less about Sailor Moon. I admit it, okay? I’m not big into anime. Never was my thing. I’ve watched a few and I can certainly appreciate the art form and the story lines, but there’s other stuff that I find far more interesting. However, one thing that seems to be pretty constant at these types of events are the bright colors and soft colors. Well, deep down inside my favorite clothing colors with always be black, white, and red. Soooo…I decided to try my hand a darker version of Sailor Moon…Sady Moon…or we’ll just go with Dark Side of the Moon, okay? It was a challenge for me to say the least, but I had fun with it. You can certainly get more creative with all the wonderful color choices offered with this dress and these boots. I do wish I had been able to show you more about these boots, because they’ve put a lot of work into them. So, for the sake of the boots, I’m including the ad pic below the details, so you can see the intricate work Phedora has put into them.

doing my best

MINA – Luna (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
eyes: :Conviction: Viscous Eyes [HUD]
eyeshadow: NOX. Onyx Liner [CatWa Applier HUD]
lipstick: –SU!– Nixu Lip Gloss Catwa
skin: Glam Affair – Kibi – Catwa Mesh Head Applier – America (*new* @ Crystal Heart)
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
.:E.A.Studio:. Piercing Bare Code Silver
1.::GB::Lip piercing (Catwa Kathy) (Cross chain) RARE (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)
.:::G.ID:::.Slava Chains Black
=Zenith=Cosy long Gloves – Maitreya
{le fil casse} Usagi Dress  (*new* @ Crystal Heart)
Phedora ~ Mercury Boots ~ 28 C.  (*new* @ Crystal Heart)

pose by Foxcity
build: anxiety %goodnight


Posted in Animals, Events, Fashion, Mina Hair, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping, {le fil casse}

Lil Sady Peep

Soooo, I was going to try and write a little story about Lil Sady Peep counting her sheep, trying not to lose them and how each time she tried, she’d fall asleep, but I got drunk last night for the first time in ages. Yes, I know some of you find that rather shocking, but its true. Naturally it was tequila, but I’ve been on some new medications for the past few months and when my alarm went off reminding me to take said medicine at the same time I take it every night…well, my drunk ass took it. THAT was a bad idea. Those meds did not pair well with tequila and I spent about an hour throwing up, when I should have been crawling into bed. I did eventually make it to bed and I managed to stay hydrated through the night. This morning? Well, I don’t have the headache that usually accompanies a hangover, I merely have a fog. So, there shall be no story about lil Sady Peep and her silly sheep. You get a picture of a super sexy outfit from {le fil casse} that you can find at Loot Box and some hair from MINA , one of many you will find at the Hair Fair.
On that note, I wish you all a wonderful Sunday…and if its a holiday weekend for you, I hope you will stay safe….and hydrated. *chuckles*

lil sady peep

MINA – Fiona (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
{le fil casse} Agnes Top Maitreya RARE (*new* @ LootBox)
{le fil casse} Agnes Sleeves Maitreya Sky (*new* @ LootBox)
{le fil casse} Agnes Belt Maitreya Sky (*new* @ LootBox)
{le fil casse} Agnes Skirt Maitreya RARE (*new* @ LootBox)
{le fil casse} Agnes Thigh Socks Maitreya Sky (*new* @ LootBox)

pose by Foxcity
sheep by Jian

Posted in Chic Moda, Events, Fashion, Mina Hair, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

Seeing Red

A run in with a stupid plumber really has me seeing red! Here’s the story or you can skip to the credits. Your call, but I need to vent and its my blog. So, I’ll do what I want! *laughs*
So, the relief valve on our hot water heater has been leaking hot water. We’re catching it in a bucket, letting it cool and using the water for the plants. So that its not a total waste of water. We have American Home Shield which is an insurance that covers appliances…like water heaters. So, we call them, and they send out a plumber. We only have to pay $75 and he should fix it. Easy peasy, right? We already knew what needed to be done, but didn’t know how to replace that valve so that’s why we called.
This moronic plumber shows up and says that we need something called a relief tank that is $375 and not covered by AHS. I’m in the other room with the dog, listening to him try to sell this crap to my mom, right?
So, I step out of the bedroom and start asking questions. He walks out of the house while I’m talking to him. He sits on our patio for a few minutes on the phone, then steps back in and says, “I got another call. I gotta go!” So, I start asking him why he can’t fix this and why his solution makes no sense. This dude gives me the hand and walks out and leaves.
Well, Sady, how do you know he’s wrong, if you’re not a plumber?
I’ll tell you how. For one thing, we’ve lived her over 20 yrs and never needed any release tank before. Secondly, there’s no place for such a thing. Third, I’ve been in over a dozen other condos where we live and NO ONE has such a thing! There’s not freaking room in these condos for such a thing! Furthermore, when we suggested that he simply replace the valve like it suggested online, he said, “Well, I could, but if its leaks again we’ll be right back here in 3 months!” Uhm, wouldn’t that be OUR problem? He tried to tell us that we had to pay him anyway, but in his hasty escape, he forgot his check and never gave us a work order! Good, cuz he didn’t fix anything and shouldn’t get paid.
I’m convinced he’s been unclogging toilets with his mouth, cuz he’s full of shit!
seeing red
hair: MINA – Emma (*new* @ Hair Fair 2017)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  [White~Widow] DarkTower  (*new* @ Uber)
piercing: 1.::GB::Lip piercing (Catwa Kathy) (Cross chain) RARE (*new* @ Shiny Shabby)

ChicModa // Aly Skirt

pose & background from FOXCITY.

Posted in Events, Fashion, Home Decor, Rebel Hope, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping

You Don’t Know Me

“You don’t know me when I don’t know you
you don’t know me when I don’t know you”
Pleasantville Wentworth (You Don’t Know Me)

I have to admit when I first heard this song it was while watching Wentworth on Netflix and while I highly recommend the show, I have to admit that this song is just as mesmerizing. I had to find it. This proved easier said than done, because the apparently it is simply the theme song. At least that’s the only version I could find. It reminds me of how guarded I can be. How people only know what I want them to know about me and while I’m pretty much an open book, I have my secrets. Despite how well some know me, they will never really know me, just as I can never really know another.
I was going to write about being stoned and how great being high can feel, but the truth is that getting high for me is more than a recreation…its an escape. It allows me to escape pain and all the crap that clouds my truest self. When I smoke marijuana (or partake in edibles) I am lifted above the facades and masks that I put on to pretend I’m normal. Deep down I’m anything but normal and I have some pretty strange views of the world around me. There’s another line in the song that I really connect with that reminds me of time that I spent behind bars. That’s right, I’ve been to jail and almost went to prison. Perhaps I’ll tell my readers that story some day.

“one two three four never tell them what you saw
five six seven eight stay in line don’t be late
nine ten eleven twive now i know a place called hell”

stoned af

: *Besom~Sandy (*new* @ Uber)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
!Rebel Hope – Cheri Mesh Top
!Rebel Hope – Roxy Mesh Leggings

pose: FOXCITY. Bento Sits VOL1
scene: DRD CS – The Joint Coffee Shop

Posted in Events, Fashion, Home Decor, ON9, Second Life, Self Reflection, shopping, The Annex, Uber SL

Sweet Dreams

Many years ago, seems more like a lifetime ago, I had a roommate that kept chocolates in her nightstand. At first I thought it was strange that she had chocolates at all, as she was very weight conscious to the point that her other friends and I would worry about her. However, she had quite a few nightly habits that I learned about over time. The chocolates were just one of them. You see, her thing with the chocolates was that she would eat one or two each night before bed. She said that was to insure she had sweet dreams. I did try this little trick and sometimes I can do it, but sadly, I’m much like my friend Tracy and I cannot stop with just one of two. I end up eating like five! Okay, Tracy would eat the whole bag, but this isn’t really about her. *laughs* Okay, its not really about anything, except me wishing all those that remember their dreams to have sweet ones, cuz I’m pretty sure I’ve cornered the market on weird ones and nightmares.

time for bed

:  TRUTH Taren (*new* @ Uber)
headCATWA HEAD Kathy
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo:  [White~Widow] DarkTower  (*new* @ Uber)
The Annex – Ava Vintage Teddy

pose: FOXCITY. Show Off Pose Set (*new* @ ON9)

:CP: NorthHaven Bed
:CP: NorthHaven Night Table
:CP: NorthHaven Peony Jar
:CP: NorthHaven Lamp