The last few days have been absolutely nuts and I’m ready to just chill out. I’m ready to have some fun. I don’t exactly have a plan, but I’m pretty damn sure I’m about to stir up some trouble somewhere. Not the bad kind that drama queens stir up, but you know, the bratty kind at which I excel. *grins* So, you’ve been warned, you can join in or run for your life.
But this thing was happening
Swallow my pride, let it ride
And parted, but this body felt just like mine
I got worried
I looked over to the left
A reflection of myself
That’s why I couldn’t catch my breath
Oops! There goes my skirt droppin’ to my feet, oh my
Oh! Some kind of touch caressing my legs, oh my
Oh! I’m turnin’ red who could this be
Mmm, I was lookin’ so good I couldn’t reject myself
I looked over to my left
Mmm, I was feelin’ so good I had to touch myself
I looked over to the left
Mmm, I was eyein’ my thighs, butter pecan brown
I looked over to the left
Mmm, Coming out of my shirt and then my skirt came down”
When you surround yourself with loving, inspiring people, you cannot help but feel that love and to be inspired. The more time you spend with positive, inspirational individuals the more you evolve in a similar direction. The same is true of negativity and hate. That doesn’t mean, that we copy one another or try to beat one another. It means let us inspire one another to be motivated. There’s no reason to waste all that energy on hate or competition. Be the best that you can be and inspires others to do the same.
It’s become so easy to sit around and complain about all the things we hate. However, if we turn that energy around and instead of looking at the things we dislike, we take a mental inventory of all the blessings surrounding us. If you are reading this, you are using the internet. That, in and of itself, is a blessing. There’s no internet guarantees in life. It’s just as easy to look for the positive as it is to find the negative, but it comes down to the choices you make.
I write this as much for myself as I do anyone else, because I’ve been trained to find the bad in life. As far back as I can remember, my parents were telling me what was wrong with me, what was wrong with what I’d done, and expecting me to fail. At this point in my life, I can’t really blame them anymore. I’ve been a grown ass adult far longer than I was a child, but I’ve not always surrounded myself with positive people. I do know from experience that not only does surrounding yourself with positive people tend to make you more positive, but it can improve your mental health. I’m not suggesting it will cure a mental illness, but it can help. Being positive certainly doesn’t hurt.
pose: Diversive – Chair – Lean
for scene info, please see: Limitless and Free
Coffee, cakes, and pies….OH MY!! Yeah, that’s all I got. I blame Harlow for creating this place and making my mind wander. I’m going to the kitchen to see if we got something to make a cake with….*stomps off to the kitchen cursing Harlow*
A friend of mine admitted something rather alarming to me recently. She said that before she got to know me, she was intimidated, almost afraid of me. *laughs* I kinda like the idea that people are afraid of me, but to be fair, I’m not sure why they would be unless its just my name. *laughs* On the other hand, my closest friends seem to forget my name and are shocked when I say awful things. The only way my name could have been more accurate would have been to call myself, “Filterless.” I’m true to myself and I don’t put on airs to impress other people. That can work for me and against me.
I think what happens is that people say they want the truth, but sometimes the truth isn’t always beautiful. Thus, many people find my honesty refreshing, while others find it off putting. It has taken my mother ages to accept that this is just who I am. She spent most of my life worrying about how I made her look. Honestly, I don’t think people were even thinking about her nearly as much as she thought they did.
While I am very selective about those I get close to, I am no one to be afraid of…well, unless you piss me off. Even then, its just a lot of words you’ll get from me, some of it might be brutal, I suppose, but at the same time, I’m not really that confrontational. I just walk away from people and don’t look back. I’ve been that way my entire life. I’m not going to kiss anyone’s ass in the hopes they’ll be my “friend.” We either are or we aren’t, time will tell. Disagreements might come up, but if we can’t approach them like adults then really, what kind of friendship did we have? And if you dismiss my friendship without explaining why, then again, I know that I meant nothing to you from the beginning and vice versa.
Your maturity really shows AFTER a friendship ends. Do you run about talking shit about them? Do you just dismiss it and let it go? Do you pester someone for answers? Do you insult them in hopes to get a reaction? I’m curious how other people handle things like this and I will definitely be writing more about this in the future.
pose w/props: Le Poppycock *Versions of April* Fair Flora
There was a Facebook post recently from a blogger about other blogger styles. I even wrote about it in one of my blog posts, Opinions. There was a comment made in response to the original post that struck a chord with me as a blog manager. Its something that I believe a lot of bloggers honestly feel is true….and to some extent, I’d agree.
“Truth is, and always has been, it’s not what you do, it’s who you know.”
Once again, I’m not going to call out the person that said it. I’m not attacking nor fully supporting the statement. However, I also don’t want anyone else attacking this blogger for stating what they believe to be true.
As a blogger manager, I become quite familiar with a lot of bloggers. I currently represent four stores and there’s quite a bit of crossover. There are a handful of bloggers that are indeed on every team I manage. Mostly that is coincidence, but I’ll admit some are just damn fine bloggers that I know will meet their deadlines, present gorgeous photos, and provide a lot of exposure. Before you get riled up, think about this for a moment. Before Strawberry Singh became a Linden Lab employee, she was THE most sought out blogger on the grid, to my limited knowledge. She had become so popular as a blogger that she was not even required to follow the rules of most teams. Stores were simply elated to have Berry showcase them at all. With that said, there are other bloggers out there that while they might not be quite on the level of Strawberry Singh, they are damn fine bloggers with a massive following and extensive talent. Knowing that, wouldn’t you want them on YOUR team, if you had a store? If you said no, you’re a liar or a very poor decision maker. So, it might not necessarily be who you know, but who knows about you.
This works both ways. If you have a reputation of being difficult to work for, odds are you’re not likely to get offered as many positions out there. You see, blog managers often share their horror stories with one another. Just like bloggers talk about which blog managers are a pain in the arse or which brands demand too much.
I will add one more thing on this topic before I shut the hell up about it. I hire more bloggers I’ve never met or heard of than I do those that I’m familiar with. Simply for the fact that they provide an audience that is outside the normal circles in which I travel. For instance, I will take on an urban blogger for a casual store, simply because they can merge styles and show the brand in a whole new light. So, odds are, if you feel like you’re not getting jobs because you don’t know the blog managers, you might want to look at your history with other blog managers. It might not be about who you don’t know. It might be about who you pissed off. Jussayin.
Then again, it might have nothing to do with either of those things. There are soooo many reasons why bloggers aren’t chosen, you really need to try and not take rejections so personally. If you love blogging, then blog and stop worrying about who gives your stuff to blog. Just blog what you love, blog for yourself.
pose: FOXCITY. Cleanse Bento Pose Set
But I remember you
Don’t come back, it won’t end well
But I wish you’d tell me too….
I can’t help but wonder
If our grave was watered by the rain
Would roses bloom?
Could roses bloom?
Laying us down tonight
And all of these clouds
Crying us back to life
But you’re cold as a knife”
~ Billie Eilish – Six Feet Under
These cold and damp white mornings
I have grown weary
Dime store lips
I spoke these words out loud
Would no one hear me?”
pose created using AnyPose
“I woke up I was stuck in a dream
You were there you were tearing up everything
We all know how to fake it baby
We all know what we’ve done
We must be killers children of the wild ones
Killers, where we’ve got left to run”
~ Mikky Ekko – We Must Be Killers
pose by FocusPoses
location is my friend Tracy’s private property…she made a beautiful little town using mostly buildings from Minimal
Let me be your air
Let me roam your body freely
No inhibition, no fear