I don’t feel like this is rocket science, but apparently too many people don’t get it. So, here’s a little tip…if the person you are dating is upset/stressed/depressed/going through a rough time, going radio silent is NOT a good move. Unless they have specifically requested to be left alone…going away and not speaking to them is going to make things worse. Since, so few people seem to understand that, I just thought I’d put it out there.
This next part is just for me, or about me, I can’t speak for how others fully react to being pretty much abandoned while clearly needing the support of the one that supposedly loves them. For me, if you walk away from me when times are hard, then you’ve just told me that I’m an option. You’ve told me that I’m not worth the effort of an actual conversation. Even if all you do is wrap your arms around me and tell me its going to be okay, the proceed to listen…THAT is far better that throwing up your hands and walking away. Once you make me feel like I’m not worth your time and effort, I’m done. I will not stick around to feel that way again and again. I know there are women out there on the grid that will wait for someone that doesn’t have the decency to send a message and tell them what’s going on. I will never understand that, but hey, to each their own. I’m not the one. I can feel like shit without your help. So, when you throw me to the wolves when I’m down and out, I will learn to stand on my own. I’m a fighter. That’s what I do. Ah, but here’s the rub….if I have to do this all by myself…wtf do I need you for? Nothing…which is what you left me with when you gave me that ever so fucking mature silent treatment.
Here’s the thing, if I’m an option to you, go away. When I let you into my heart, I mean it, so if you’re going to treat me like a pawn in your little love game….go find some thirsty bitch that’s going to take all that crap. I’m not her. In my opinion, none of us should allow anyone to treat us that way, but what do I know? I’d rather be alone than be treated poorly. I guess the point I’m making is that if you care about me don’t leave me alone and expect me to just be okay when you finally decide to man up and come back. I won’t be waiting.