Posted in Events, Fashion, Hairology, Scandalize, Second Life, shopping, Tres Chic

Show Some Love

So, there’s been a lot of hurt feelings on Facebook this week, because of a newish thing called Sarahah. It was designed for businesses so that employees could leave constructive feedback for each other, but it quickly found its way to Facebook and the SL community latched on. We were off and running. Many people refused to take part, knowing full well they would not take it well if insulted or while others publicly voiced their disdain for the site suggesting that if one could not say it without hiding behind anonymity they had no business saying it at all. Meanwhile, many were like me and saw it as something fun to do and jumped right off the bridge into the Sarahah internet river.
From there it either went uphill or downhill. For many it went downhill very quickly. Designers got attacked rather viciously. Yes, many of them received a lot of praise as well, but actual constructive criticism seemed to be absent. Many others reported being attacked and bullied. While some of these people took it in stride, others were quite hurt by the cruel words they found from anonymous contributors. A few even became aware of several secret admirers. While others found disturbing messages about people wanting to wear their skin or keep their eyeballs in jars. *giggles* I can’t begin to imagine who would have left such disturbing messages. *giggles again* I think almost everyone received some positive and loving messages, regardless of whatever else they found.
I personally received a total of 34 messages, most of which were very loving, kind, and positive. I was quite surprised and honestly, I little disappointed. I had prepared myself for some serious insults. I thought surely someone would be hateful, but I was quite fortunate. I think the closest I came to an insult was a rather astute observation from someone claiming not to know me very well. I had to laugh, because they were pretty accurate with what they said although they used an outdated terminology for their diagnosis of my mental health. *laughs* I had a few somewhat flirtation comments and a few that made no sense. I got no weird or insulting comments. Mostly, it was love and I was overwhelmed.
I was quite surprised by the reactions of a few that received negative comments. Some basically threw tantrums all over Facebook. Others quickly realized they did not possess the thick skin necessary to handle cowardly insults and shut down their Sarahah links. While others kept up their pages and found a new topic to bitch about on social media.
I am saddened that so many used it to bully and abuse others, but so goes the way of the internet. I think it’s important for everyone to remember that no matter what hateful or negative comments you received, there are far more people that love you. You are beautiful and wonderful in your own way. You are all amazing creatures. Whether you participated or not, please know that you are loved…not just by me, but many others. It is my hope that this weekend we will all remind the ones we love that they are special to us. As you proceed through your weekend and eventually into next week, show some love…not just to others, but to yourselves as well. ♥

get some balls

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

[Atomic] Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
Scandalize. Revolve. (*new* @ Tres Chic)

pose by Foxcity
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *8* (*new* @ REWIND)

Posted in Apple Fall, Bueno, CandyDoll, Events, Fashion, GingerFish, Hairology, Home Decor, Kustom9, Second Life, shoes, shopping, Uber SL

Morning Meditation

Last year when I was going through a particularly rough time, my friend Charlotte gave me a non religious meditation book. Those are surprisingly hard to find in my area. Anyway, its one of my favorite ways to start the day. Reading the daily meditation with a cup of coffee and…*hangs her head*…a cigarette.

So, while I sit here at my desk with my coffee and cigarette, I thought I’d share this morning’s meditation with you.
“To have what we want is riches; but to be able to do without is power.” ~ George Macdonald
Well, George, I’d say you’re quite right there. I  mean it would suck if I couldn’t have a computer or afford internet. It would suck to lose Netflix. I’d be sad if I ran out of coffee (ok, I’d be downright mad) or cigarettes. However, there’s a certain power in knowing that I’ve been without all of those things and more in the past. I not only survived the lack of things, but I found other ways to entertain myself and enjoy life.  I have some rather fond memories of living in a homeless shelter, believe it or not. As there are no guarantees in this life, despite what marketing ads will tell you. The greatest power anyone can have is being able to find joy in the simplest of things. I’m just going to list a few examples of simplistic joys that I find in my daily life that are often taken for granted, but are truly to be cherished.
The way my dog greets me like a long lost soldier returned from way, even though I’ve only been gone 20 minutes. The way my cat mews and purrs at me on the rare occasion that he wants attention. The first bite of a meal I’ve cooked to perfection. The feel of freshly washed sheets on my skin right after a long hot bath. Led Zeppelin on the radio on a breezy summer afternoon. The smell of a bookstore. The joyous sound of children laughing and playing at the pool (even if I don’t like the lil bastards, I still love to hear the sounds of happiness.) The sound of the cicadas in the trees as the sun sets on a warm August evening. No, these are not my favorite things in life, but they are simple joys that make life worth living.

morning meditation

wearing:
hair: [KoKoLoReS] Hair – Bess (*new* @ Hairology)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

Astralia – Compatible mesh nails system  (Maitreya Stiletto base)
GingerFish -Nail Applier-Astralia-Bloody Kisses
Astralia – Kitty chain ring with HUD (*new* @ Blush)

BUENO-Olivia Top (*new* @ Kustom9)
BUENO-Cuff Jeans (*new* @ Kustom9)
_CandyDoll_ Saki Heels (*new* @ Uber)

pose by Le Poppycock

scene:
Pseudo– Inked Corner Scene
Apple Fall Cafe Chair
Apple Fall Clawfoot Height-Adjusting Table
Apple Fall Canvas Tote
Apple Fall Crumpled Newspaper
[ kunst ] – Ashtray v3 / Marble #4
SAYO – Trendy Tumblers – Rose Chrome – COMMON (*new* @ PocketGacha)

 

Posted in Events, Fashion, Second Life, shoes, shopping, The Annex

Clementine

The name of this adorable jumper from The Annex, “Clementine” had me thinking of a song that I love by Sarah Jaffe of the same name. I’ll give you the link to listen to, but I’m not going to fill this page with lyrics this time. So, before I continue, here’s the song link: Sarah Jaffe-Clementine

It sorta fits the feel of the photo for me, too. Looking back at moments in my life that seemed so tragic once upon a time…I remember believing beyond any doubts that I was madly in love with…oh what was his name? *chuckles* Yeah, as I get older my youth really makes me laugh sometimes. Other times I just shake my head and wonder how I’m still alive. I was so careless and reckless in my 20s. In some ways I miss those days, the freedom I felt. Then again, if I knew then what I know now, I’m not sure I would have lived quite so carefree. I probably would have done a lot more to prepare for my future…my now. Alas, hindsight truly is 20/20, isn’t it?

Well, it is what is now and there’s no changing the past. I can only address my present day and so I shall. I hope that whatever path you take is filled with love and laughter. I hope wherever it leads is a place of peace and harmony, also filled with more love and more laughter. As those two things have literally been lifesavers for me over the years. ♥

clementine

wearing:
hair: {Single} Lyssa Hair
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara

The Annex – Clementine (*new* @ Flawless Cart Sale)
Pure Poison – Ava Platforms

pose by LePoppycock
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *5* (*new* @ REWIND)

 

Posted in Events, Fashion, Pretty Mess, Second Life, shopping

Research

Some call it stalking, she called it research. She would find out where he went every night and what he was doing if it killed it. Based on the last few places she followed him to, it just might. She could hear shouting, but couldn’t make out what they were saying. The small window in the door was covered up, so she listened closely at the gap around the door. They sounded as if they were in another room, but she dared not open the door as she heard it make a terrible sound when he opened it earlier and she was clear around the corner! As she heard footsteps approaching the door from inside, she quickly scurried away. One of these days, she’d figure this out. For now, she best get home before he did or he’d have questions of his own.

research

wearing:
hair: Beusy: Sybil Hairstyle (*new* @ Blush)
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Pretty Mess – Siouxsie Black Lips (*new* @ REWIND)
:V.e. Nina Belted Trousers Black Plaid (*new* @ REWIND)

pose by LePoppycock
THE BASEMENT – Mesh Photography Backdrop by Strike-a-Pose

 

Posted in CandyDoll, Events, Fashion, Second Life, shoes, shopping

The White Dress

She hated taking the subway so late at night, but she had to get home. She had work tomorrow and there’s no way she’d find a cab at this hour. This is what she gets for going out on a work night. Ugh, the subway always smelled like urine and body odor. She dreaded the train coming to rush that stink into her nostrils, almost as much as she dreaded getting on the train at this hour. There was no way she was sitting on those filthy seats in her white dress. She had managed to keep drinks from spilling on it all night and she’d be damned if she was going to mess it up on her way home.
As she walked down the stairs, she rolled her eyes to herself, why is there always a hooker passed out down here? At least the people didn’t look too shady, maybe she could manage this without getting mugged after all. Yeah, she’d be fine, but her could feel an anxiety attack coming on. She reached in her purse for a Xanax and some strawberry lip-gloss. At least the smell of the lip-gloss with help with the stench of this place.
She managed to make it home without incident. Locking her door, she dropped her purse on the entrance table and made her way to the kitchen for a glass of wine before bed. She made her way to the bedroom and just as she was about to set her wine down, the cat hopped up on the nightstand startling her and the red wine splashed down the front of her dress.

subway

wearing:
hair: Lamb. Drive (August ’17 Luxe Box)
body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara
ISON – michelle dress (August ’17 Luxe Box)
_CandyDoll_ Fate Boots (*new* @ Blush)

pose by Foxcity

scene:
*Drot* Subway Station – RARE
*Drot* Wet Floor Sign
*Drot* Barrel Standard
*Drot* Subway Trashcan
and various mesh NPCs I found on MP

Posted in Artisan Fantasy, Collabor88, Events, Fashion, Home Decor, Phedora, RedMint, Second Life, shoes, shopping

Lotion

She had a strange habit of putting on her shoes before her dress. For one thing, she had to see how she was going to look wearing nothing but the shoes. Ya never know when you might just end up that way, right? She also had an addiction to shoes. She would readily admit that. Hell, tonight she was dressing around them. Having no clue what she was wearing aside from her new Alma platforms and her favorite lotion, she giggled to herself, “she puts the lotion on the skin or she gets the hose again.”

final touches

Sady is wearing:
hair: #Foxy – Doll Hair (*new* @ C88)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
[ kunst ] – Wire ring
(r)M, Pared-Down Daisy Ring // MAITREYA BENTO
Phedora ~ Alma platforms ~ 28 C. (*new* @ ROMP)

pose by Bauhaus Movement (edited with AnyPose)
*AF* Marta’s Dressing Table and Corset Chair (*new* @ ROMP)

Posted in Events, Fashion, Second Life, Self Reflection, shoes, shopping

REWIND

The whole point of the REWIND event is to take us back in time, let us have some fun with some looks of yesteryear. Well, they’ve done it quite successfully this round. Not only did the stores nail the theme, but the layout of this event made me want to go back before its over and take some pictures. I just hope I remember. *laughs*
By far one of my absolute favorite finds is the Vivienne Outfit from Dead Dollz. This is for several reasons. For one thing, the name reminds me of one of my favorite shows from the 80s, The Young Ones. I could not help but think of Vyvyan Basterd and how much I loved that show. There were only like 12 episodes, but I saw them all more than once and it never failed that my mother would walk in during one of the most disgusting scenes. Being a clean freak, she would shudder and wonder wtf was wrong with me!
Another reason I love this outfit is the bold yellow and navy option I chose…well, it has me feeling a bit like a punk super hero! I could crash lame parties and bring them to life with the likes of Sex Pistols, Dead Kennedys, Black Flag, and The Ramones! I could get down and show them some rocking moves as the party slid into a more chill feeling with some David Bowie! You’re feeling it, too, huh? Yeah, this event definitely brought me to life in some very fun ways!
Go get your REWIND on and see what you come up with, because there’s absolutely no shortage of plaid, black, skulls, and safety pins at this round.

serenade me

Sady is wearing:
hair: Moon. Hair. // Edge (*new* @ REWIND)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Sintiklia – Nancy Choker (*new* @ REWIND)
Astralia – Punk is not dead Bracelet (Bento Maitreya) (*new* @ REWIND)
.::Dead Dollz::. Vivienne Outfit (*new* @ REWIND)
#EMPIRE – Coreopsis

pose by Del May
MINIMAL – Retro Backdrops *3* (*new* @ REWIND)

Posted in CandyDoll, Collabor88, Events, Fancy Decor, Fashion, Hairology, Home Decor, Second Life, Seven Emporium, shoes, shopping

I Feel a Sin Coming On

Unlike most of my music posts, this one was intended from the very beginning. There are a few people that will get the personal reference, but for the rest of you I expect the song will fit the photo regardless. Think Mae West meets modern day country with a twist of Sady….*grins* As always, YouTube link and lyrics are provided. Below the photo you’ll find all the details for the sinfully delicious goodies you see in the photo.

I Feel A Sin Coming On by Piston Annies

I feel a sin comin’ on
I feel a right that’s about to go wrong
I got a shiver down to the bone
I feel a sin comin’ on

I gotta buzz in my brain
Drunk on a love goin’ down like champagne
I got a feelin’ it’s gonna leave a lipstick stain
And I’ll be the only one to blame

And you can see it
All over my face
Sweet temptation
All over the place
Give me tall dark and handsome,
Mix it up with somethin’ strong
I feel a sin (I feel a sin) comin’ on

Please Jesus don’t hold me back
I know it ain’t mine but I want it so bad
The smoke and the whiskey’s
Got me feeling easy
And the lights are all fading to black

And you can see it
All over my face
Sweet temptation
All over the place
Give me tall dark and handsome,
Mix it up with somethin’ strong
I feel a sin (I feel a sin) comin’ on

And you can see it (and you can see it)
All over my face (all over my face)
Sweet temptation
All over the place
Give me tall dark and handsome,
Mix it up with some strong
I feel a sin (I feel a sin) comin’ on
I feel a sin (I feel a sin) comin’ on

I feel a sin

wearing:
hair: [RA] Jessica Hair (*new* @ Hairology)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
Dutchie bitten apple
_CandyDoll_ Elsa (*new* @ C88)

pose by Bauhaus Movement
scene:
anxiety %home
7 – Jesus Is Coming Yard SIgn (*new* @ PocketGacha)
Fancy Decor: Plastic Side Tables (*new* @ C88)
7 – Neon Jesus Saves Cross (*new* @ PocketGacha)

Posted in Collabor88, Events, Fashion, Phedora, Second Life, shoes, shopping, {le fil casse}

Thinking Bout You

Yes, I know…another music post, Sady? Really? Yes, cuz its my blog and sometimes that’s where my mind is. Its times like these, photos like these…the music says it so much better than I can. I can only hope you’ll relate, appreciate the tunes, the photo, and above all the gorgeous creations from some incredibly talents designers. As always, lyrics and YouTube link provided below.

Thinking Bout You by Ariana Grande

I’ve been thinkin’ bout you
Yeah, I’ve been missing you
Where the hell are you, oh, when I need you?
I could still hear your voice
I ain’t got no choice
‘Cause I’m here all alone
I know I can’t wait ’til you get home

Oh, I don’t have you here with me
But at least I have the memory
I try to make it through the night
But I can’t control my mind

I’m just thinkin’ bout you
I’m thinkin’ bout you, I’m thinkin’ bout you
I’m just thinkin’ bout you
I’m thinkin’ bout you, I’m thinkin’ bout you

Got these thoughts in my head
Ain’t no way to forget
Got me losing my breath
Nobody got me the way that you did
Had my eyes rolling back
Had me arching my back
Now you love me so good
I wish you would hurry up and come back

thinking

wearing:
hair:  Stealthic – Sensual (*new* @ C88)
headCATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo.Identity. Body Shop – Reborn Wild

Schadenfreude Tear Dermal Piercing,la passionnee(cheekbone)
-SU!- Bento Piercing Set 03
EF: Janus Choker
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace

{le fil casse} Siouxsie Dress (*new* @ Rewind)
Phedora ~ Jessica boots ~ 28 C (*new* @ Fetish Fair)

pose by Foxcity
scene:
SAYO SCENES – Moderna Courtyard – COMMON
+Half-Deer+ Sakura Petals

Posted in Cosmopolitan, Events, Fashion, Lybra, Second Life, Seven Emporium, shopping

Setting Off Alarms

Time for some more real talk. This time, I’m talking about profiles, the kinds of profiles that should set off alarms. You ready? Let’s get it started! Going to just list off some common things I see around the grid that should set off alarms based on my almost 11yrs on the grid.

1. Profiles that read, “Just came back to SL after a long break.” Chances are this person is an alt. I’m not saying don’t talk to them, but take it slow and watch them closely.
2. Profiles that have threat picks. You know the ones…”if you touch/hurt so & so, I will rip your heart out of your chest and shove it down your throat” kinda picks. Clearly, they’re not going to do any of that and the fact that they feel the need to make such threats publicly shows a lack of maturity and intelligence.
3. Blank profiles. C’mon people, put some effort into you SL. Blank profiles suggest you’re an alt or terribly boring. Either way…ALARM bells!
4. Overtly sexy profile pics. Legs spread with a bottle between your legs, may be a hot a picture, but its sending a message to everyone that looks at your profile. Skank that likes to drink. You either want nothing but sex or you’re desperate for attention.
5. The declaration against drama. I’m going to tell you right now. These people are usually the ones stirring the pot, then stepping back with their popcorn to watch the damage. RUN! Let me explain, you cannot get through life without drama. Don’t believe me, perhaps you need to see the definition of drama. Do allow me to enlighten you.
|||||drama: any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or
striking interest or results|||||
6. Declaration of being a bitch/asshole. Chances are they’re correct, so why even bother. These people have up walls and they’ve just informed you of that fact. Do you honestly feel like jumping through hoops for them before you’ve even gotten to know them?
7. Emo picks. If their picks are full of emotional vomit. They’re either going to bring you down or suck you into it. Its exhausting and seriously, did you come to SL for that?
8. Passive aggressive picks. They have a pick clearly aimed at someone they believe is watching their profile, but don’t have the balls to just say it directly to whomever they’re talking about. Chances are the next one could be aimed at you. Why bother?
9. Profiles that read like an online dating profile. There are actual sites & groups in SL for that, but overall that is not the main objective of Second Life. C’mon, everyone you meet here isn’t looking for love. Just stop it already.
10. Profiles that declare they keep SL & RL separate.  This is impossible unless that avatar is strictly for Role-Play purposes and says so straight away. Some aspect of the real person behind the avatar is involved with how they interact in this virtual world. This person is most likely hiding something.

So, there’s my top ten profile warning signs. It pays to read profile before approaching each other and often shows you whether or not you have something in common. 

trouble maker

wearing:
hair: Tableau Vivant \\ Alexa
head: CATWA HEAD Tala
skinDeeTaleZ *Appliers* CATWA Head “Face Miriam”
bodyMaitreya Mesh Body – Lara
tattoo: [White~Widow]  Desierto – White (*new* @ Cosmopolitan)

[Atomic]  Kitten Collar
Amala – The Daddy’s Necklace
=Zenith=Leather Belt Gloves

LYBRA  DIXIE BLOGGERS (*new* @ Kinky)

pose by Foxcity (edited with AnyPose)
scene:
MINIMAL  – Illusion III – *2*
7  – Peter’s Charcuterie
7  – Fire Alarm Light
7  – Fire Alarm Panel